No. When people say that pretty women do something to inspire a stalker to go psycho with his unwanted attention, that's blaming the victim. The stalker's behavior is the problem. Rapists employ the same flawed "reasoning" "But -- this isn't my fault. If she hadn't been wearing such a short skirt and low-cut blouse, then I would have left her alone."

I don't think a person would intentionally bring stalker-type behavour out in someone... I think it is more possibley a psychological disorder to become obsessed with a person to the point of stalking them.

I'd more say maybe she has a predisposition for dating crazies. Not a conscious effort on her part, but just an inability to notice something as a warning sign?

Her stalker does not deserve an excuse (in my opinion). Sure, she might be doing something that encourages the stalker to go after her without realizing it, but the stalker still chose to stalk her. He has the choice of not stalking her, doesn't he?

I am an attractive petite woman and I have had many "stalkers" over the years by no fault of my own. I remember being 18 and working as a cashier as Krogers. A guy started coming thru my lane ALL the time. He got ahold of my address and sent me gifts like a hand painted figurine that looked just like me. He was gross looking and bald. Boyfriends I have had have laid out in the road trying apparantly to get hit because I broke up with them. My lastest ex is exhibiting stalker behavior right now. I REALLY don't do anything to encourage or attract this behavior. Being attractive has a very bad side to it. I have a very hard time making girlfriends. Many girls are openly hostile towards me for no reason. I love people and am very easy to get along with. Hope this helped you gain perspective.

I don't think prettyness is so much of an issue as a particular personality type. Some women (and some men too) have a tendency to be nice and accomodating to everyone, even where others might choose to keep their distance becaus ethe person seems slightly odd. They might be naive, or tehy may just be kind-hearted and friendly. They tend to show unusual kindness (although to them it may seem normal) to near-strangers. And by people with problems, and obsessive personalities, this can often be interpreted as a signal that there is some kind of attachment (particularly if their status as an outcast means friendliness is rare.) sparking off stalker behaviour. My mother and I have both had problems with stalkers and in both cases they were people to whom we had shown particular kindness but had suffered rejection from othe rpeople in their lives. In my Mum's case it was one of her students, a much younger, and in many ways quite attractive man - who she had taken special time to help. Someone who is now a friend of mine once stalked a male neighbour when she was a teenager - and she says it started because he seemed to be interested in her poetry, whereas all the othe radults around her thought it was silly. So I don't think physical attractiveness has all that much to do with it.

There are no accidents or random events. That said, each woman and each man that seems to experience anomalous behavior in others can quickly clear these situations by taking full responsibility, here's how: Thoughts equal cause. Experience equals effect. Change your thoughts, the experience will follow. In this case, you'll want to change your thoughts about how you see yourself. When you over or exclusively identify with the body as yourself, you subject your mind to a wild array of distortions - bizarre experiences follow. These thought/identity distortions, to be corrected, are exposed to you by the experiences you have. Yes, this means that you are bringing yourself these experiences. They aren't just happening - and you're not some kind of pretty victim. The experiences are actually an expression of love from you to you for the purpose of teaching yourself who/what you are....and who/what you are is NOT just a body.... r u listening?

Of course they don't do anything to bring it on! And, it is not only 'pretty' ladies that acquire stalkers. What is pretty, anyway, except in the eye of the beholder? Certain body types, hair styles, behaviors, social status, any number of things can attract a stalker. I mean, look at Ted Bundy. If you had long dark hair parted down the middle, you were a target for him. Stalkers have their own twisted reasons for targeting someone and it is NOT the victim's fault.

No one brings stalking on their self, The person stalking has mental issues. Just because a woman is pretty , she gets blamed for stalking and rape, how stupid is that?

It's not her fault, I hate it when women stalk me. Just hate it!!

I don't think they bring it on. I know of a sweet quiet very pretty lady that never tries to draw attention to herself. She is a happy smiling person but not in a sexual or flirting way at all. But twice she has been attacked or stalked. Maybe it's her quiet manner that makes her seem like an easy mark but that isn't an opening for someone to do what they have done. All she was dong was walking to her car, for goodness sake.

Honestly, attractive women run into that a lot. I've been in some pretty terrible situations where I've been followed home or into a store, and have had a stalker once or twice. I don't think that I did anything in any of those situations to bring it on, but I also don't see what I could have done to avoid it either.

Revealng clothes, flirty behavior...if that was an excuse for bing a stalker then I'd have a laundry list of people to stalk. Being pretty is the only thing that she's done to gain stalkers. Some girls arent really that hot, and still manage to gain stalkers.

There are at least two angles on every subject. First of all stalkers are at least a trifle crazy and some are dangerous. On the other hand, most of those women who are stalked are at least trying to look attractive or act attractive -- not to the stalker, but to a target group of their own choice and would be quite happy if they received some attention from someone who was less of a loser.

I have had a few men "stalk" me....it can be quite scary....I really don't believe I brought it on....I am nice to everyone and some take it as being interested in them....

It is way too common. I don't think that the problem is with us. It's like blaming the store for not installing the top burgler alarm system when the store is robbed. The store is not to blame and neither is the woman. Many men seem to be "wired" to be this way. Maybe there should be a program like AA to help them. :)

I think is more common than we know. It is not the women's fault for being pretty. We live in a stange world where the victims are blamed for sick thing done to them!