Unless the marriage ended very badly, with both people just hating each other, it's very common for couples to retain a certain amount of warmth and respect for one another when they have children together. Not only is it normal, it's also in the best interest of the children, the one bond they still share. Working together and caring about each other makes everything better for everyone. I can't say what kind of feelings your boyfriend has for his ex-wife, but if you're going to be in a relationship with him, she is going to be in your life at least until the kids are grown, and probably much longer. Worrying about the ex, that is an EX, though, is not going to help your relationship with him and could even drive him away. His children should be his top priority, and good parents will usually make them so. That's an admirable trait in him and shows what his attitude may be like if the two of you should have children one day. You can only take this a day at a time and pay attention. If his 'feelings' seem too deep to you, maybe it really isn't over, at least for him. If that's the case then you should take care of yourself and move on. As his children are his priority, 'you' should be yours. If it doesn't feel right for you, then it isn't.

I hope not, but I can't say because I am not your boyfriend.

In reality, ownership of another is impossible - each person being an equal part of an ever extending whole. Therefore, an apparent breach like "cheating" is equivalently impossible. Where it (cheating) only seems possible is within a fictitious self-identity. And from this false identity, projection onto others seems to be how you teach yourself (and others) just exactly who you think you are during any moment aka what you value. So, would you teach your boyfriend that you could, in fact, be violated by such an act? Do you enjoy the feeling of thinking of yourself as vulnerable like this? Does seeing yourself this way feel constraining and unnatural? You might consider viewing yourself therefore in a liberating light - one in which you can actually love your boyfriend (unconditionally) and, while you're at this new definition, everyone in your life.... Then, the x becomes a sister in your mind and not a threat.... By taking this stance with yourself and with him, you mitigate the risk that he may lie because what would he have to fear...? Ultimately, you live in your thoughts, pick the ones that give you most room to breathe, to relax, to be happy regardless of how the world spins....

No offense to you, but what do you expect when you are getting together with a man who has been married before? It is completely natural for people to have feelings for their ex's (especially if they were married to the ex at one point). No. It does not necessarily mean he will cheat on you, though. If you can't deal with this, find a man who is not divorced. To me, it sounds like he is being honest with you and you can't handle it. Please correct me if I'm wrong in any way at all.

Not necessarily. My ex and I divorced about 12 years ago (She left me. I didn't leave her), and she took my sons (13 and 12). She took one of our cars, and all HER bills, with her, and left me the house and my vehicle. By law, I had to pay child support. That's not to say I wouldn't have, but there were times I could really ill afford it. Thoughout the whole time my kids lived with her, she never once took me to court when I got raises, so I actually got to the point where I could pay all bills and SAVE money. I helped pay whatever I could and they needed, and we both wanted to see the other happy. Yes... I still had (and have SOME) feelings for her. Would I ever "cheat" with her? No. At this point, we're just friends who know more about each other than most friends do, in ALL ways. Now... Part of the feelings I still have for my ex are because we had two sons together, and we spent 15 years together. We did NOT have an acromonyous (sp?) divorce, and as I said, she NEVER petitioned to take more of my money, knowing it would only cause hardship on my side. I met a wonderful lady a few years ago, and we've been married for four years this December 24th. I have no reason to even WANT to cheat with my ex, feelings or no. I tell you that, so you can understand WHY those feelings still exist, and that just because they are there, he probably ISN'T lying about it, and I doubt he would actually cheat on you. COULD it happen? Sure, but don't spend all your time worrying about it. If you have a problem with trusting him, you have to figure out why and try to fix that. ;-)

No you’re correct. Blunt…but correct. I’ve been in relationships before where they cheated with an ex girlfriend…seems that everyone I date ends up still having feelings for their ex. This seems like a real thing though because he’s honest, which none of the others were. But is it better to question and potentially protect myself or to be naïve to the mistakes I’ve made in the past and get hurt all over again? I just need outside perspective from people who are divorced and have children and what their relationship actually is after divorce. He left her, for the record. And his admittance to still having feelings for her also included the words “I just wonder if it would work out for us now that I’m a better man than I was 5 years ago.” It bugs me that, that is a thought in his head, and would he act upon it without telling me? And she for the record is still in love with him to the point that even if she only sees him for a few minutes to drop off or pick up the kids, she’s dressed to the 9’s. Halters, tight jeans, make-up, the works. So I know she does what she can to make him take notice.

Me and my husband have just split up and we have to kids together.Me and him will always have feeling for each other and i will always be first in his life no matter what happens just because of the fact that we have kids together.No one can break that bond that a mother and father have with each other. If he's telling you he still has feelings for her, then its obvious that he misses her, maybe you need to sit and talk to him and find out exactly whats going on.

She is the mother of his children, so I understand feelings for her. However, I do not understand why he would choose to share this with you, knowing it would hurt. Elementary mistake. I wouldn't worry, Marriage and children hold a different connection, totally seperate from carnal desires and love.