You go to a bar with a girl (possible future GF) and she starts flirting with other dudes. You then leave the place without saying anything and she gets mad at you for leaving her there? Whose right and whose wrong?
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You are completely wrong, I cant believe you would leave a girl stranded at a bar. She is single and has every right to flirt with who she wants, if you want to go out with her, let her know.
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You might benefit for getting above who's right or wrong. If you ask someone to accompany you somewhere it is your responsibility to see them safely home unless you tell them that you are not going to do so and are sure that that have made other apporpriate arrangements. Getting mad at their behavior and abandoning them is childish, dangerous and borish. Conversely if she accepts an invitation to accompany someone she owes him a certain amount of attention. Call me old fashioned but that's the way it's done.
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I think that if a guy brings a girl somewhere, it is his duty to bring her back home safely..
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Well first off it was out of line for the "nice guy" to accompany her to the bar with an ulterior motive in mind. We (women) need to be TOLD if you like us or not at least toss us a hint or two. If we are not feeling any vibe we move on no, different than men do. The guy was wrong because instead of letting her know he was looking at her as more than a friend and was possibly wanting to date her he decided to treat her as she was a mind reader and got his feeling hurt in the end.
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If I go out on a date with a girl like and she flirts with other guys right in front of me she'll be busing it home and not my home either. She is totally in the wrong,that is how so many brawls start in bars. Let the guys whom she is flirting with take her...home. better off without her, She has no class to put it mildly.
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you are!.. on two fronts first you let jealousy get in the way of your judgement and secondly ..you let jealousy get in the way of your judgement... yes I did repeat what I typed for the simple reason it fits both of your questions and WTF she wasn't even your g/f and you do this ...shit what the hell are you going to be like if she ever IS your g/f
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U should ALWAYS at least tell her ur goin and cum up wif an escuse
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I think it was rude and uncaring of your friend to act like that, but what happened to COMMUNICATION? Couldn't you have given her a hint and if she didn't pick up, then just straight out tell her you think she's being rude. She may have had a totally different perception as to what the evening really was. Was it a date? Were you both just going there together to have fun with no obligation to each other? Try it again and appologize.
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YOU are for leaving her there. If she left BEFORE you with someone else, then SHE would be the one in the wrong. Flirting, in itself, doesn't mean all that much to many people, unless it leads to more. But when someone sees someone they like and believe they have a chance with doing it, it hurts. She may not have realized that you are thinking "more than just friends". I invited a girl to a theater party in college (1st date). She went with another girl while I was cleaning up after the show. I got there, and she had saved a seat by her, but she spent the whole evening talking with the guy on the other side of her all evening - I felt, flirting. (Turns out I was right, but still, she went because I invited her, not him...) It hurt... BAD. Got drunk, barfed, and passed out. :- (LAST time that ever happened!) You may have hurt your chances with a possible gf, there... Apologize, tell her WHY it bothered you, and why you left. Tell her you have feelings for her, and it hurt that she was flirting with other guys there when you brought her. From there, you're on your own. Good luck. ;-)
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I would consider you to be in the right. I would never belittle myself by staying there with her.
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You are wrong...what's wrong with her flirting...Are you feeling insecure or something? She should also be able to have fun when she is out.
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if you went there as friends then I believe the man who left in anger was in the wrong. She had no resposibilities to the man as a girlfriend. She although I also believe could have been more considerate to the man.
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As long as she is not abusing you physically or verbally you have a duty to take her home.
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You both are.
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"She is single and has every right to flirt with who she wants",Bad answer. She may be single but she was out with him on that occasion, If she wanted to flirt and get felt up by those drunk pigs she should have told the potential boyfriend she wasn't feeling well and wanted to go home, Then she could have gone back on her own,It sounds like she was just using the dude for a ride home in case nobody picked her up that night.
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I think both are in the wrong (maybe). Her for supposedly flirting with other men and "you" for leaving her there. You never know, she might of just had that sort of personality where she seems to flirt with everyone. And as far as "you" are concerned, you went with her there the least that can be done is leave together...To possibly ask why she appeared to be flirting with other people. Communication is key no matter what level of a relationship it is.
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You were right, but perhaps you should have excused yourself first. If you had, she might have stopped the flirting with the other guys, but you should still have left, after offerring her a ride. But just be sure she was actually flirting and not just brushing the guys off.
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My point was that, based on the story, no matter who brought whom, he left, and did NOT tell her he was leaving, meaning, if he brought her (implied - she's a future GF), she had to find a way home. That put HIM in the wrong. Was she at fault for anything? Sure. He took her there (again, implied). whether she was "just a friend" or not, and she spent the time chatting up and flirting with others there without indicating to him (again, implied) that's what she was going to do. He should have told her he was leaving, and asked if she wanted to go, too. If she said "no", she would have no cause to get angry with him. I stand by my original answer. Apologize, tell her how you feel and why you left (upset), and see what happens. And I told MY story, so he would KNOW he wasn't alone! ;-) (Sorry ... s/b in comment to http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2352181)
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Rule Number One You never walk off and leave a date Rule Number Two If the date is flirting, move on! Don't ever date her again!
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both of you..she was rude and so were you!
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Possible future GF? Is this something both of you had talked about, or just something you were thinking? It's not fair to be jealous if she has no idea you have the hots for her. It was perhaps a little uncouth of her to flirt, more rude if she was someplace you couldn't see her. But hey, friends come to bars and split up. (If this was a date? well, that's a new story. but you said future GF.) It was more rude that you left without warning. What if she had left without warning? how would you feel? what would you have assumed? God forbid you did this if you were actually her ride there, that would've left her with the option to call a cab($$$) or go home with someone else.
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This depends on who you ask, the opinions are as varied as they are hard edged. If you feel as though you can endure the scolding of the social police for acting in your own self interest, then by all means leave her high and dry. After all, she is trying to show you who the boss is right from the jump. She played her card on you, you trumped her. Nobody wins in that situation, just like nobody wins in the battle of opinions on the topic, just follow your conscience and be prepared to hear the bitching and moaning from the highly opinionated regardless of which way you go.
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uh, both wrong. you dont just leave a chick at a bar, that's kinda messed up. Some girls are flirts and if you dont let them know that isn't cool to do in front of you then it's not their fault. You should have let her know that flirting with other guys was really hurtful and disrespectful before you left
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She'd be pretty much scratched off the list of possibles. Unless the next time i saw her there was some form of apology and some deep throat action. I would not apologize as she was in good hands when I left.
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Unless she has flat out told you that you and her were friends, she was totally wrong. Now, the other part that I know I'm going to get slammed for..... You were just as wrong by just leaving her at the bar. You probably should have told her that you were leaving and give her the option of coming with. It shows that you can still maintain a level of respect and dignity even when she cant maintain hers.
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you are wrong for leaving and for being jealous. grow up, it's called communication, try it, it actually works!
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