In a few weeks I have to make my first confession through RCIA. I know sex is a sin but I do not feel sorry for it. I have been with my bf for over 4 yrs. I don't feel bad cuz I didn't do it for the wrong reasons. So what should I do?
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Kick the religion habit -- all it's doing is filling you up with unjustified guilt.
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First of all, having been through the RCIA classes, I can tell you your first confession won't be an overview of your life and all the things you've done wrong in your life. The priest will probably just want you to confess a few venial sins and any grave sins, and tell you to work hard to avoid them in the future. Secondly, if you truly don't feel sorry in your heart for something, confessing it will do you no good. Confession is not designed to make things right between you and God if you're not sorry for what you're confessing, and God knows your heart before you go to confession. Yes, according to Catholic teachings, sex outside of marriage is wrong. But, you said you're not sorry for it. So, don't confess it. If God convicts you of it and you feel sorry for it later and take steps to change the situation, that will be the time to confess. Good luck on your first confession and with the remainder of your RCIA classes. You're almost there!!!!
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My advice is - be honest. If you know premarital sex is a sin but you're not sure of all the reasons why, then that's ok. Just say exactly that in confession. The priest may have a way of explaining it that makes sense to you. Ideally, before your first confession I would suggest you study and discover why the Church teaches premarital sex is wrong, whether it be through books ("Pure Love" by Jason Evert, for example), the internet (catholic.com), or discussions with your sponsor. A good place to start: http://www.catholic.com/chastity/chastity_questions.asp
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You probably shouldn't become Catholic. As a non-Catholic, you are lucky enough to have not been forced into this religion if you don't agree with what it teaches. If, as an adult, you cannot reconcile your lifestyle to that of the Catholic church, then you should probably just move away from it and become a member of a religion that you agree with.
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personally, (not catholic) confessing to something that you are not sorry for is more "harmful" to our souls than just keeping silent..(HE already knows).only God can forgive us and HE doesn't if HE knows in our hearts we are not truly sorry... work it out with the LORD is all you have to do...make it right. Godspeed..
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nothing, you did nothing wrong(dont listen to the biblethumpers)you did what you felt right, and enjoyed it that's all that mattered.
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Like the other answer. God himself is the only way to be forgiven. Why waist your breath on repenting. He knows the every intent of the heart. Sex before mariage is a total sin. I have been there myself when I was backslid. No sin is greater than another to god. Anything that is not in line of the word of god is doing for the wrong reasons. Got on your knees and ask for forgiveness. It doesnt matter if you have been with someone for ten yrs. it is still a sin! Ask god to convict you when you do wrong. No priest can get you into heaven- Only having the holyghost and being baptized in Jesus name will you be saved. For there is no name under heaven by which we must be saved! What a glorious name that is!!
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Bring it up to your confessor. Tell him you've done it but are not ready to confess it yet. Honestly talking it out with a priest is your best bet. Also, like the one person mentioned... research why it is such an important aspect of our Catholic Faith. Confession always hard... been Catholic my entire life and each time its a challenge. So good luck with that and the continuation with the RCIA program.
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