When do you think adopted kids should be told they are adopted?
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shaneaproductions
ANSWERS: 7
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Before college ;)
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I think you can start hinting at it earlier and get more and more into it. "Mommy, where did i come from?" "You came from a woman's tummy." "Mommy, my teacher said jimmy has his dad's eyes... do I have dad's eyes?" "Well, we don't know, your daddy when you were born is different from your daddy now..." etc. Don't ever *lie* about it. but you don't have to give all the details the second he first asks something circuitously related to it.
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i think that if you tell them from the beginning and emphasize how much you wanted them. then it won't come as a big shock and they'll know that you really wanted them. i know several small adopted children and their parents did that and the kids are proud of having something so special about them and they know how much they are loved.
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Imagine how you would feel at different ages to find out you were adopted - that your parents lied to you and treated your adoption status as something shameful that had to be hidden. No matter how old you were, it would hurt - A LOT. Kids should know from the beginning, and should know that it's just another way God put you in our family. You can even celebrate an adoption birthday on top of a regular birthday to make sure they know it was a wonderful event, not something we hide. If you have a child who you haven't told, I'd tell them immediately, and take the blame yourself for not telling them sooner. Kids are tough and very forgiving. Start out with "there's something I should have told you a long time ago, but I didn't know how, so today I'm just going to tell you. . . "
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Yes. It should be a constant part of their lives that they just know.
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Yes I do. I know I would have wanted to know if I had been adopted.
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Yes, but we should increase the minimum wage so that fewer adoptions take place.
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