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  • I went through the same thing. and we broke up 2 months ago. their loss. If they cant make sacrifices theyre not worth it
  • Yeah dude i would talk to her and tell her how you feel about that and if she is still being kind of sketchy about it just tell her you may have to let her go. In the long run i doubt its worth all the bullshit.
  • They had a crush on each other, but not at the same time. Open your eyes, Man!
  • Sorry, the guys here are right. If he would have been willing to meet you than maybe it is a possibility. My best friend was one of the hottest guys in school - he is still sexy. We have never had sex and he has been my best friend for 16 years. It does happen sometimes guys :)
  • Problem number one was you dove into a relationship not knowing what you were getting yourself into. You are obviously not comfortable with the level of closeness and secrecy between your girlfriend and her male best friend. I wouldn't be either, BUT, I wouldn't start a relationship with someone I couldn't trust, and who wouldn't think enough of me to mellow down the level of intimacy with her best friend who happens to be a man. You're in some tough shoes. If it were me, I'd tell her to make a choice, and to stop acting like she's got something to hide. You shouldn't have to sit around, never having met him, while she's apparently hanging out with him a lot, and all the while KNOWING they've both had a crush on each other. Not good for the relationship.
  • assume they're screwing, insist that they do it safely, and get over it.
  • that's not allowed unless you're involved in it
  • drop her fast. if there is no trust.. and things that do not make sense.. thats a big sign. Get out of there fast. especially if she tries to brush you off while shes hanging out at a party with a particular guy and happens to not "look at her cell phone for a few hours" then sleeps over her friends house and at 3am said all the guys left then you happen to hear a guys voice while shes in bed....she may or may not have cheated. but is definitely sneaking/hiding something. first hand experience. She wants her eat her cake and have some more. Davis Pham
  • The reason i am commenting on this wasn't to give you an anwser but just to say i am going through the same thing. My girlfriend has a best guy firend and she tells him she loves him well as a friend she says..and she hugs him every single time she sees him and sits with him whenever she can and she has only known him like 2 or 3 months longer then me..idk if thats right or not..he is the only guy she spends that much time with except for me..we have been dateing for about 10 months now..we fight about him all the time..i hate that i would be willing to stop hanging around one of my best firends whos a girl but she wouldnt...she says i don't love her more..but i know i do because i am not going to putour life and relationship into jeporday becauseof another boy or girl..she would..she is fully aware about how i feel about him..he is her BESTTTT friend in the world..hugs constantly & says i love you to eachother...i would call that a red flag..she has cheated online lied about it and while while with her best friend lied about being with a guy..should i dump her?
  • I would be VERY suspicious of a guy who is NOT "Involved" with your girlfriend ; BUT does not have the "Grapefruits" to meet you .... I'd lay down the law ... on this one . Explain to her that you lvoe and care for her ; BUT that unless she can convince this "Man" to meet you ..that you two will have to go your seperate ways ... I smell a RAT ... Don't You ?
  • Im having the same problem. My girlfriend has a guy friend that she met at work. The only thing is that he told her that he liked her while we were in our relationship. He wrote her things on myspace saying he could see them going to the movies together. She doesnt like him back i hope not but she insists on still hanging out with him. He says that he put his feelings to the side because they are friends. Her and I fight all of the time. We have been on and off in our relationship. Get this though, when we were broken up she told me she loved me and we talked and hung out. I later found out that they kissed when we werent together. Now that is messed up. I didnt find this out though until we have been back together for a year. She still wants to hang out with him she says he is her friend and has no feelings for him. This kid is so ugly too!
  • Opposite sex "friends" are not only unneccessary, but only cause issues in relationships. She should be willing to let him go for her relationship if she is serious about it, or I would move on because it will NEVER be rectified if she is in the mindset that it is ok to have opposite sex friends.
  • You should be pretty suspicious at this point, ESPECIALLY if he doesn't want you to meet him, I would step up and find out what is really going on, I would ask to meet him and question him about my suspicions. I'd be more agressive about the whole process though because I was in a very similar situation except my GF ended up getting drunk then making out with the guy, she DID call me the next day in tears and explained what happened so I forgave her for it. Good Luck

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