One of my friends father abuses her verbally, and sometimes even physically. If I'm not completely sure, should I still tell someone anyways and if so can I tell the school consular and try to get her to talk about it?
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Tell someone, but remember to tell them you are worried, but NOT SURE. We all make mistakes :-)
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Two ways you may go about this.. 1) You can tell a school counselor, but that counselor will likely send your friend to the hospital to be evaluated whether your friend admits abuse or not. 2) You can mind your business. However, if you TRULY believe your friend is in danger you should try to help them.
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You should allow social services to look into this. You do that by filing an anonymous Child Abuse Report (CAR). Most counties in the U.S. have a phone number you can call where you can report suspected child abuse, you can find it in your phone book, usually in the beginning of the book in the county government section. Look for "child abuse" or "family law", etc. The social services investigator will check out the matter. If the problem can't be substantiated, it will still be on file, so that future problem reports can be compared. Sometimes multiple reports are required before any action is taken, but at least you will have done the right thing.
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Ok, I completely agree that if you suspect abuse you need to go to the school counselor. You should tell them you suspect it and do not have visual proof. The counselor will probably bring in the schools social worker. They will talk to her and WILL keep your name out of it. Personally I think you should talk to your parents and let them help guide and support you through this decision. Good luck to you.
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i you say something to the school they will talk to her and send someone to her house and talk to her father. if you dont talk to your friend about it first she might not be your friend in the end because she will probably get it worse when she gets home. but if she is for the idea of someone else saying something and not her so she dont have to be scared to tell the school go ahead and do it. but you should talk to her first about it to see how she feels and if you wanna lose a friend or not. so talk to her and go from there
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I think you should tell somebody. If you tell someone and it's looked into, and proved false, then no harm done, and you made sure. Especially if you think that she is in danger, tell someone.
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I would think the slightest of any allegations warrants a call to Child Protective Services. You can never be too sure.
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Wait before you call child protective servies, as IF this is false your friend stil suffers through the humiliation of being interviewed, having her teachers interviewed and ditto for her father his co workers, his boss etc... this could really harm the family. FIRST I would ask is this in your opinion or hers as well, and how do you mean physically and verbally abusive... as degree means a lot, is he jokingly saying things ( even though hurtful to your ears she may be equally sarcastic with him. ) before calling any government agency I suggest you talk it over with YOUR parents first, and then if warrented allow them to make the decision as if your friend is put into foster care, this may be worse depending on the situation she has at home.... So... I caution you ask your parents first, talk to them, and your guidance couselor without naming names and then approach your friend... go from there.
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Yes! Your counselor at school, or heck tell your parents and have them call the police. There is absolutely no reason to be abusive in any way to kids.
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school counselor is the best tthing to do.
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absolutely!!!!! talking to someone you trust is very important. she needs to be removed from her father immediatley. comfort her in her time of need and make sure she knows it is not her fault and is her dads anger issues. give her my sympathey and best of luck :)
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I do think you should tell someone, it is the right thing to do! Even if its just something you think may be going on. You are a really,really good friend for caring enough to try and get her some help!!!
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Once you talk to the counselor he/she will take things from there!!
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I think that you should encourage your friend to talk to the school counselor. Let her know that you are there for her through the whole thing and that you will go with her to discuss this.
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ask your friend if she will let u tell some one
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