Do you think it's ok to adopt (children or animals) if theres no s/o in your life - or is it just a sad substitution
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angel_of_mercy
ANSWERS: 6
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It's a sad substitution, but I guess there's nothing wrong with it. Someone needy who desperately wants to be a caregiver is better than no caregiver at all for orphaned children, and especially for animals that might be killed otherwise.
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No, I think it's a nice thing. You could be helping a child or animal in need of care, and also helping yourself. I think it's beneficial to both of you.
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I think it is always ok to adopt animals, whether you have a S/O or not. Not a substitution at all. As for adopting a child, I think it depends on what stage of life you are in and what your motivation is. If you are in your 20's; wait. If you are in your 30's or 40's and you are adopting a child because you genuinely want to have children and have not found the right parter to do that with, great! But if you look in to your heart and your only motivation is lonliness, then wait. Because, what will happen when you DO find that right partner? Will the child become second fiddle?
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I think it's totally okay to adopt children or pets as a single person as long as you are sane and have the time and resources to devote to who or what you adopt. I prefer to adopt cats and would probably do so even if I did not have a partner. As far as the situation being sad, if I were to lose my partner suddenly, I would not consider myself to be any less valuable just because I didn't have a "signficant other". I would not jump into any old relationship just to be partnered up. I would rather be sad and by myself than miserable with the wrong man.
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Of course it's okay! Just because you do not have a bf/gf/husband/wife doesn't mean you are substituting the love you would otherwise be receiving from them and instead try to receive it from a child or pet. There are so many single parents out there these days, and people - both men and women are earning near equal wages, that anyone can be a suitable parent, without necessarily needing a significant other. Often times, many people may feel that they do not require the love of a significant other as much as they desire the kind of love that a child or pet would give them. Some people make great parents, and not great spouses, and some people make crappy parents and fine spouses.
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Yeah, it's ok. I see nothing wrong with it, as long as he/she can take care for the adopted child.
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