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by JohnOBonno on February 8th, 2008
Yes! My ex wife could really do me a favor and just kill herself, she doesn't need my permission, and I refuse to give her aid or comfort!
by ...... on February 8th, 2008
first I ask them to meet with me. I would then offer a suicide help number for them to call. The worst thing to do besides hang up on them is tell them to stop acting crazy or seeking attention. although a very high percentage of people who reach out for help in this manner have no intention of following through with it and seek attention. there are those that do and there is no sign that we know of that can say if this person is serious or not. so it is important we treat all with the compassion we can. try hard to talk them into seeking professional help.
by Spaceball on February 8th, 2008
"Hello... Spaceball isn't in at the moment, but if you would like to contact him, Leave a message after the tone....... BEEEP!"
by justme32 loves the weekends on February 8th, 2008
I really cant stand my ex husband but if he called me saying he was about to do something like that I would be there in no time at all. We have a child together and even if we didnt I would still be there. His life "is" worth something.
by Little big mouth on February 8th, 2008
I've been there & done that. I've called the police & they went to his house every time. He was too drunk to remember the next day
by Tigger on February 8th, 2008
i would talk to him on the phone and not let him go find out whats wrong and tell him all the reasons he should not do it
by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on February 8th, 2008
I'd try to get him help.
by Jane on March 10th, 2008
I'd be so scared and worried. I would call his mother I'm sure.
by Dee Dee just havin some fun on February 14th, 2008
I would get his address and then call 911 and report him.
Let the professionals deal with him. I certainly couldn't or he wouldn't be an ex.
by Major Look at yerself on February 8th, 2008
I would call the police.
by RuUKOlga on February 8th, 2008
I would come and see them as fast as I can. Talk to them and let them know that taking their life in their own hands is not the best option. That the ones that love them will suffer for their action. They are being selfish and don't realize how important they are to the ones they know.
My cousin took his life and it has crushed everyone that he knew. It was one of the worst days of my life.
by Gemini2 on April 17th, 2009
Just keep talking...positive, kind words. Try to see them and get help for them. Don't give up until they improve.
This just does not go away...they need someone to talk with and get better.
=)
by Duchess on January 19th, 2009
Easy I wouldn't answer the pnone, that's what caller ID is for.
by aaa on February 13th, 2008
It all depends...
If I was receiving alimony, my garage would be filled with the blue-white smoke from my tires peeling out of the driveway to go and save her from herself.
If I was paying alimony, it would truly be an ethical decision.
j/k
by Worzel on February 8th, 2008
Call the Police but keep away myself in case they wanted to kill me along with themselves :o(
by Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony on February 8th, 2008
I wouldn't be surprised. I would dial 911 from whichever line was available and keep him on hold until they arrived and then change my number ASAP.
by Smart2 is back! Did you miss me? on February 8th, 2008
I think all life is sacred so I would make every effort to save even the life of a lowdown, lying, two-timing scumbag like the former spouse to whom you refer.
My response would be keep him on the phone while dialing 9-1-1 on another cell and give the emergency responders his location. Maybe a few days in the psych ward would straighten his ass out enough that next time he would call someone else.
by dogdogcrazy on February 8th, 2008
Ask if he needed any rope or bullets!
by jerryperris on November 4th, 2009
----------------->my EX WIFE
i tell her TO GO AHEAD AND JUMP and ask her if she need help or i just push her so she no have to think about backing out
by jsgurl on October 7th, 2009
Not sure if this angle has been covered, but I'll throw it in...
It depends on the type of person your ex is. My ex would throw out the suicide threat to try to guilt me into taking him back. He couldn't stand me letting him go. Someone got the police involved (after his threat). The police convinced him to get some help. The therapy that was triggered from my ex's threat, helped him stop trying to win me back by outrageous means.
So even if you doubt the ex would do it, still call the police if they can't convince the ex to get help at least it's documented that he/she is acting inappropriately.
by AnnieB on August 28th, 2009
If it were my first ex husband, I would ask him if he would PLEASE take his wife with him.
My second husband did threaten to kill himself if I divorced him. I told him he needed to talk to his councelor a bit longer....we ARE divorced, and he is still alive.
by steele56 on August 5th, 2009
let me come over first to MARK THE SPOT so you dont miss!
by Cherub on April 13th, 2009
Is your life insurance police up to date :-)
by Kimber on April 8th, 2009
I would be receptive and nice but stay away. I would then call a close family friend or relative of the Ex and make sure they were aware.If I felt it was an emergency I would call 911 and give the address to assist the ex dangering themself.
by Williamstown on April 4th, 2009
I would take them to the hospital and tell the staff they are very suicidal and let them handle it from there.
by Ditto on April 3rd, 2009
Inside I'd be absolutely bullshit mad but I'd talk with them a little while and try to get them to talk with someone one a suicide hotline. I hate being manipulated.
by della4real on March 2nd, 2009
If I could not stand him. I could care less, but on the other hand I would call the cops.
by Rich on February 28th, 2009
Verify if I'm still the beneficiary or not.
by Rabbit on February 14th, 2009
I would call the police so they could go check on the person.
by gailmarie on February 8th, 2009
call someone from their family immediately to go to them, Keep them on the phone after you get someone to go to them (just incase its for real). If they have no family call the police and send them to the persons home. (what a wake up call if its not true)
They might just be playing head games with you, but you cant take the chance....you wouldnt want to live with the burden "maybe you should of done something.
by Juice on January 17th, 2009
If this is an attempt to make me feel sorry for you so you can come running back into my open arms you are sadly mistaken. However, if this is a genuine crisis and you need some help, find someone who cares. Are my words hurting you? Well now you have a tenth of the hurt that I felt when you recited your monologue about how you never loved me and then walked out slamming the door behind you!
by priss on January 16th, 2009
hold them
by Richard on January 14th, 2009
I would call her parents and let hem deal with her insanity.
by vanillagirl on January 7th, 2009
Find Help for him/her immediately. Not you!!
by Blackberry. on January 5th, 2009
I would tell her to call her mother.
by ChandaDiane - est. 1975 on January 3rd, 2009
I would tell him to stop being so f*ing selfish, think about the kids and go to a friggin meeting.
Then I would call his sponsor and pass this information on to him.
by James on January 2nd, 2009
I'd likely laugh and fall back asleep... Seriously, if you knew some of my ex's you'd probably do the same...
by Rollie on August 17th, 2008
I'd call her guardian.
by roadpup2 on August 16th, 2008
Yes. I would take immediate action in whatever form was feasible, including calling emergency services and going to see them myself. We might not be together, but I would still help in whatever way I could.
by davidoflouisiana on August 16th, 2008
find the local number for suicide hot line. if you are not trained in talking to them, you may say the 'words' they are looking for as 'the sign' and they will commit suicide while you listen....so, best thing is, give them the suicide hot line number, block their number, and spend time with someone who is positive. unless of course, you want to be dragged down that avenue....then in that case....you will both need help.
by Catherine on August 6th, 2008
You talk them softly cause that person is probably serious, then you call a family member to get there and help..if no family call 911 imediately..
by dizzy boy on August 2nd, 2008
i would advised them to get help. also consider that they are reaching out to you for guidance
by Williamstown on April 26th, 2008
I would do what I could to help but if that involves calling the ems for them I wouldn't hesitate.
by Hunter on April 18th, 2008
I would hang up on them.
by bigtomk on April 2nd, 2008
Do it bitch, do it now.
by Stillme FBB on March 10th, 2008
I'd talk to them and find out what was going on. If I felt he was serious, I'd call 911, and I'd be out the door!
by Zack on March 10th, 2008
I don't know. As much as I hate that B*TCHY ice queen, I don't think I could let her kill herself knowing how much it would hurt my son. To hell how much it hurts her.
by BigDaddyBS on March 10th, 2008
I would talk to her. (We're still friends, of sorts.) She IS the mother of my boys. If I didn't try, I'd feel extremely guilty.
By the same token, she had said, NUMEROUS times (drama queen) "You'd all be better off if I just died." Only ONCE did she ever DO anything, and it was (supposedly) not serious and I stopped her anyway.
After we talked, I'd decide how "truthful" she was and probably call 911 and give them her address.
by DRLAURAHATER on March 10th, 2008
I tell them to make sure the gun was fully loaded and pointed directly at his face before he pulled the trigger. But lucky for me, my ex died on Thanksgiving day last year.
by Sosueme on March 10th, 2008
Did you change your Will and beneficiary designations after the divorce?....just kidding, I'd call 911 and let the pros deal with it.
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Oh my!
by SABOTEUR on September 14th, 2008
good answer john. if thats they way u feel- thats the way u feel.
by Special K on January 23rd, 2009