What is your opinion on a husband that will not take his wife's last name?
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AntigoneRising
ANSWERS: 15
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He's too proud...though I guess I can understand... If it's what his wife really wants, I think he should do it. Afterall, it's just a name.
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I think that's entirely her choice to make. I might express a preference, but that would be the end of it if she wants to keep her own name.
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As long as he does not insist on her taking his name then I see no problem. I insist my GF must take my name when we marry so she said I must also take hers, it is only fair to do so! So I agreed to it! :)
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When/if I get married I'd want my husband to take my name, unless his was very exotic. I think it's ridiculous, but I understand it, as it seems to just be what society expects.
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I think she's doing it wrong.
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It is not mandatory for either to take a new name. So, whatever they agree to is fine. If the guy won't take her name, then she'll have to live with it. if the girl won't take his, then he'll have to deal with it. My wife did not take my name for about a year. Did not bother me at all.
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I don't really have an opinion on the husband. I think if he doesn't want to then he doesn't want to. I don't think either one should be forced to take another name if they personally don't want to. All of this should be discussed before they get married anyways.
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That's a personal decision.
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agree with the first comment- It's just a turnaround of the regular way. I'd give up mine because I hate it, but someone insisting his wife should take his name should think about what a pain in the ass it'd be for *him* to change his name.(and possibly how demeaning it might feel, if you're attached to the name- I grew up with this name and you're telling me it's not good enough?)
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I would not want a man who would take my last name. I love the old fashioned idea of taking the man's last name and would never think to do it any other way. Listening to my friends' way of thinking.. there are a lot of women out there who think the old way of thinking is barbaric and should be done away with. I disagree with them.
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No opinion. If I had my way everyone would retain the name they were born with.
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and why should he ?... plenty of females don't take the mans name nowadays ..the current fashion trend(and it is a tend) is for hyphenated second names , so maybe for them its the way to go
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I think it's just an old tradition for the wife to take the man's last name. Biblically speaking, I'm supposing it shows the wife's submission (a bad word in today's society) to the man. I'm old school so I wouldnt' have taken my wife's name, but if she wanted to keep her's I would have been ok with that.
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When two people decide to spend their lives together, they're still the same two people they were before, there's not necessarily any reason for them to change their names unless they want to. If I found myself in the position of getting married and being on either good enough terms with my partner's family or bad enough terms with my own that I'd actually want to become part of their family, or even if I just happened to like their last name better than my own, then I wouldn't have many qualms about changing my name. But I think the symbolic tradition of "Giving Away the Bride" and assimilating one spouse into the other's family is a trifle archaic, but if anyone wants to change their name, for whatever reason, it's hardly anyone else's business.
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