I think your girlfriend has a drinking problem veiled as an infidelity -- take her back if she quits drinking -- otherwise, it's true -- it could happen again the next time she drinks. I say dump her -- it'll be the best thing for her, it might be the only way to get her to realize that she has a drinking problem.

If you truely love her, and want to be with her...then forgive her, but under the agreement that she won't be out drinking anymore......but of course, you'll have to really forgive her, not worry about her cheating all the time, because that will for sure end the relationship.

i have the exact same problem right now with my girl. The cheating once and regreting it, her family, and probably having a drinking problem. I love her more than any man should love a women i guess is the way to put it but im not sure how make myself happy either to be with her and try to make it work or be alone. Either decision scares me to the point of thinking of hurting myself and im lost, but most of all so damn tired inside.

I’ve herd of the expression “everybody deserves a second chance “ but it all depends.. There is no point being with her if you aren’t able to trust her again.. But if you want to forgive her, you have to give her back your full trust in her…are you ready for that ?.. you know if it happens again you can’t take her back.. be careful to… some women well test a mans tolerance, and probably do it again if she knows you’ll automatically take her back and your to forgiving… when your getting back with her, you have put your foot down and tell her whats up…

Give her another chance please.. If it fails let her go.. I dated a guy for 2 years and my dumbass got drunk and made out with his brother.. (although I broke up with him the day before) it was still cheating though because I never wanted to break up with him..neither did he.. just wanted a reaction.. but being drunk and emotional ..his brother made a move on me and I took it.. my ex walked outside on us kissing on the ground.. I cried while he was kissing me because I knew how much I screwed up.. long story short he took me back but changed his mind when I was in another state for a break visiting my hometown (mom) He called and changed his mind.. and I assure you.. it was the worst pain ever.. I lost the nicest guy ever. I took advantage of that and I was dumb. I was sober and my vision went abstract. It was insane.. I cried for months... in my room.. it's been 2 years now and he still haunts me.. I have moved on though and have been with a guy for a year and a half.. (I rushed in a relationship with a broken heart) But I have fell in love again.. My ex has changed... I know the girls he has been with since me don't even compare and he realizes that.. even if I messed up.. the thing is.. I hated his brother before this even happened.. I thought he was annoying.. and I just did something stupid.. Even if he wanted me back I would say no now.. he had his chance to forgive me.. I am with a very nice guy now that I learned to love.

I heard on TV once that if a women takes her husband back after cheating he is 90% more likely to do it again. I don't know the chances if its a women. It depends, how much does she regret it? does she have excuses or forgive herself? If your so keen to be with her again I suggest taking a lot of time apart to work through your feelings on this and also monitor how she behaves when your on your break. Time will tell and you will have your ans.

I am in this situation now, except I am the one who cheated. I am devastated and want nothing more than for my boyfriend (very new relationship) to be able to give me a second chance, but I know in the back of my mind that he might not ever be the same with me if he did take me back. I was also drunk and made very bad decisions. I liked what one comment said about it being a drinking problem veiled as something else. I agree that if you love her and you want her back you should 1. Make her go through a little hell and uncertainty. 2. Require that she modify her drinking habits significantly including no drinking when you are not there. 3. Make sure she knows that if it happens again, you are done. 4. Forgive her. People make mistakes. They are human. God forbid you ever found yourself in a situation like that. How would you want her to respond? She probably did not cheat to hurt you, she was "unconscious" and therefore not able to make sound judgment calls. 5. Take this hurdle and turn it into an opportunity to become closer with her and make the relationship better. I think the number one reason why women cheat is because they are looking for something emotional (and sometimes physical) that they are not getting in the relationship. It doesn't make their actions right, but it can shed light on the situation.

First and foremost: Ask her what she is planning to do and change. You cannot tell her, you cannot accept "anything, whatever it takes," these are cop-outs. If she can give you an honest resolution to the problem, one she's willing to spend the time and thought to come up with, and one she can stick to indefinitely. Love her, love her forever.

Most everyone deserves a second chance, but only if you can move on in the relationship and not focus on what she did. If you can't do that, let her go now because the relationship is doomed anyway.

The exact same thing just happened to me. Like literally, the exact same thing. She went to a party, got drunk, and hooked up with another guy. This is how I handled the situation. First off, did she tell you, or did you find out from somewhere else? This is a big sign. If she told you then you have to give her some credibility. Telling someone who loves you, and who you love, that they did what they did is probably really hard. This is what happened to me. Knowing that she told me, and that she would have no reason to lie about the facts, i decided to take her back. I told her that everyone deserves a second chance. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. And dont take her back right away. Let her feel how bad it feels to not have you in her life. Make her think about how she wishes that she never did this. Make her realize that what she did, one night, with a guy she will never be in a relationship with, or who couldn't offer anything you can, was worth it. When you talk to her, tell her that you have to make up your mind and don't talk in anyway with her for a weekend or so. When she realizes about how horrible she feels, and how much this situation sucks for her, she knows that if she doesn't want to be in this situation again, then she won't put herself in the situation again. And like I said, make sure you tell her that if this ever happens again, then your gone. And you won't think twice.

dump her...run away as fast as you can.

IT will be really hard for you to trust her fully again...it may be best if you parted ways...

You need to ask her what assurances do you have that she won't do it again? How can she prove it to you? Its not your job to find a way. She did the damage, she has to think of a way that you can count on her again and how she can prove it to you.

I hope you realize that there will be many more parties, many more times of getting drunk, many more chances of cheating...

No... she had her chance and blew it, I would leave her, maybe work on a friendship, but after infidelity the whole foundation of the relationship is cracked.

you need to talk to her about her drinking habbits, then if you love her put some rules down about her drinking as this happened when she was drunk, then give her another chance if she agrees to deal with her drinking.

you won't be able to trust her completely again for a years.. you're better off where you are. try to find a girl who's more responsible with her drinking habits and who respects her own body. one question.. do you really think that if YOU cheated on her while you were drunk that she would take you back and completely trust and forgive you? I highly doubt that.. she'd be telling all her family and friends what a scumbag you are for doing something so disrespectful to your relationship. it's your decision to ultimately make. however, choose wisely because this a very rough road you'll have to ride on. you'll question her every motive and you'll always be suspicious. it's been over 9 months since my boyfriend cheated on me.. he tries his best to be considerate and respectful now.. but there are times when i think back to how we was inconsiderate and i fall into a depression again. it's very heartbreaking..

Follow your heart. You shouldn't listen to anyone else. Just do what feels right to you.

Hello i cheated on my boyfriend a few years ago now i was drunk and to myself is not an excuse but i would definetly not have done it if i was sober, my boyfriend forgave me and now were engaged and living together. but by the sounds of it you was already living together?! in my situation our relationship was always an uphill struggle we was always on and off and he was adament he was going to move countries, again im not excusing it but i had my reasons.if we was living together back then i certainly would not have done it what im saying is cheating can be forgiven and people can move on and be trusted again BUT it all depends on you her the situation the arrangements how long youve been together.

My husband cheated on me a year and a half ago and said he would never do it again. I forgave him and tried to make it work. Two months ago he left me and our four boys and I just found out he is sleeping with my brother's wife. My advice - once a cheater always a cheater. If it were me knowing what I know now I would not take her back if I were you.

Listen go to her if you truley love her I am not saying lust, or like, but true over the hills love. Ask her what she is willing to change and how she see's ur relationship going. Have communication, it will take time but if you both are willing to put out the effort to make it work then it will. Just make sure that you talk.

Yes give her another chance if it happened while she was drinking then let her know the only way she can come back if she is willing to give up the alcohol.

forgive her and try again if you love her. set a condition that she does not get drunk anymore.

once cheater always cheater, plus do you realize drunk person always saying the truth?

you done the right thing getting rid of her buddy, being ''drunk'' is no excuse, it's just a scape goat people use to make thier immorall behaviour more acceptable, you ever see a drunk guy getting pulled over by the cops with a smile on his face?? no he has his head in his hands, he knows what he has done, just like she knew. if you let her come back then she will think she can do it whenever she likes and you will let her get away with it, i know its hard dude, my gurl done the same thing, but i have a no tolerance policy on cheating.

don't take her back. The one thing i really regret is taking my ex back. To his credit, he never cheated again. However, our relationship ended. Why? Because doubt and insecurity will shadow your relationship. I never believed anything he said to me after that, even about the smallest things. when your partner is out of sight, your head will fill with thoughts of what he/she is "really doing right now". You deserve to be in a relationship that isnt filled with suspicion and mistrust. I wish you best of luck. I know this is somehting really hard to deal with.

Without trust, you have nothing, a relationship consists of a few things, and TRUST is something.... Get a grip girlfriend... Find someone in this world that you can trust with all of your heart or you will end up without a heart!! Fro

if its only once and drunk too and you really love her than take her back and if she does it again than tell her thats that and tell her that befores she back with you .

i feel like shit cuz my girl did the same thing to me. i didnt kno wut to do so i dumpd her and got a new gf. it sux that she lied about it everytime i askd her bout it so i got a bunch of witnesses and she finally admitted it. i luvd her alot. i tried evrythin i culd to make her happy and feel luvd. i still cant mov on. she fuckd another guy twice that nite and tried to do it wit another guy that same nite. im gonna forgiv her but im not goin to get bak wit her. hope this will help u on ur judgement if u havnt already made a choice

Don't trust her man! As 3OH!3 says... Don't trust a hoe... never trust a hoe... won't trust a hoe... that won't trust me! :)

Take her back because that happened with my sister and her husband when they were dating and my sister regretted cheating on her then boyfriend and a year or two after that situation, they got married. They just got married this past month and they have been together for five years.

The truth comes out when you are drunk. I get pretty drunk myself but when oppertunities like that show up I do not take part in them if she really truely loves you then she wouldnt of done that. Let her make it up to you if you really want to be with her.

my gf cheated on me and i took her back, I live everyday in fear that she is cheating again. It is almost a year since I found out. My very world is not the same, I just feel like a piece of me has been ripped away. Like I am unable to feel deep emotions. We talk about it all the time....the thing is that when I got with her she was cheating on her bf with me! So I can see the pattern. I love her but think she is going to cheat again. They say if you take a lover back after they have cheated on you that you are supposed to forgive them and trust them fully. Well how can I trust someone that loved me so little that she jad an affair for 4 months and gave no thought of me and how much it would crush me. I have not been happy since this happened last year at halloween. sad in canada.....):