Where did you get the idea that you were powerful enough to affect the lives of others to such an extent? You aren't causing this. You just have the ability to choose to be involved with mentally unstable people. If you don't want this type of thing to continue, find out what attracts you to this type. Then don't be involved with them anymore.

you have all my symphy.But I dont think it any thing to do with just you

Teens go through hormonal changes that cause mood problems and some mental problems don't arise until teens to early 20's. Alot of teens threaten suicide as a desperate way to keep you near them because if they know you care then you will give in to them because they will make you think you are saving them by being with them. You have to keep on trying, dating is a rough battle for some. Few of us have it easy and even when you do find "the one", if ever, you will still have problems.

Touche, Jewel. Anonymous, I suspect you're a very young lady; would you accept advice from a gentleman probably thrice your age (ahem)? Both of my ex-spouses are likewise unstable, and one attempted suicide after I announced we would divorce. While there is an important difference between TYPES of instability, NONE ARE CAUSED BY OTHER PERSONS (except by abusers, which I'd guess you are not). My first spouse was stricken down by phsychosis and my second was simply a hair-trigger firebrand. One was not responsible for her actions and the other was, but in neither case was it anyone else who "drove" these poor women to their state of mind. Forgive and pray for those you've parted from, and avoid "sympathetic fixer-uppers" -- potential mates whose character, countenance and personal history elicit protective instincts in you. THOSE INSTINCTS ARE NOT BAD, and in fact are the sign of a truly good soul, but because they have consistently led you to mates who bring you sorrow, you should look for ones who seem whole and well-balanced...who will need you for who you are, not for how you keep them from falling. And above all, good soul, believe that YOU are WORTHY. God bless, and good luck!

Like was said,you don't have control over others actions,,your responsibilities are for your needs,wants,and keeping your side of the street clean and clear. How does a person protect their interests and live for the other persons well being?You lose who you are to rescuing the other,,even if they don't want rescued.(it's called co-dependence) To change your wants,to find someone who isn't a needy soul,someone who is an equal to you and what you stand for,,sound tough,right? First thing is to realize who you are,what you want to represent,how you want others to see you,,what you want others to know about you...etc...Self awareness. The more we know about ourselves,the better we understand what we might want in others. Never give up,never surrender to self pity,or self loathing,those are addicting and a major character defect,they are self sustaining and very destructive to your mind,,your inner self. Take the high road,live in the solution,not in the problem!

3 possibilities 1) You are attracted to people who exhibit the traits of mental disabilities (This to me is the most likely). Usually these things exist throughout ones life, so its you finding them, not creating it. 2. Its entirely coincidental 3. You seemingly bring people to this route (this is VERY unlikely, unless you are extremely controlling or vindictive. Don't imagine that's the case though)

I may have had a couple relationships, but they both attempted suicide, it freaks me out that that happens, but I'm still out there. Don't give up on it, just look around closer. Good luck to you and hope things eventually get better for you.