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by girlygirl on January 12th, 2008

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How do you politely tell a close friend that she needs to control her child when they visit ? she lets her child destroy property and expects me to toddler proof my house. I have children who don't act that way .I don't want her to visit anymore now.

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  • by anonymous on January 12th, 2008

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    Having experienced this, I can say that there is probably no way polite enough to keep from offending your friend. People are very sensitive to outside criticism of their children, even if they themselves realize their child is out of control. The problem is most likely her parenting skills, and pointing her child's issue out to her will undoubtedly make her defensive. I would suggest that you try meeting her outside of your home. If her toddler destroys property in a coffee shop or other public place, it will be her problem and not yours. Perhaps in that situation, she will better try to control her child. Good luck.

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  • by Gingerminx on January 12th, 2008

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    Then that is what you tell her, I am sorry but your child has destroyed to many things and although I value your friendship, I don't want your child in my house until they can be here without breaking things. I do see their side a little, I had in-laws who refused to put a few things out of the way to make it safe for my son to play. It is very hard to visit someone and keep an eye on a very busy 12 month old. So, I ignored them and looked after my child, he never broke anything , but they never got a chance to visit either. I guess it depends on how much you value their friendship and what you are willing to do.

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  • by AnonymousGirl on January 12th, 2008

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    Tell her that it is not your job to discipline her child as her child is not yours and say if she can't control her, then she can't come over. I'm 17 and even I understand this. Some people. Tsk tsk. I'm not saying she's a bad person. Her expectations for you are just way too high. It's not your job to provide a home for her child because it is not her home.

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  • by I love my baby on January 12th, 2008

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    I would tell her politly and if it didn't work I would tell her not so politly. It is your house and if you don't make sure it is takin care of, who will?

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  • by Spunts.answered 67 questions in 1 hour. on January 12th, 2008

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    tell her exactly that,if she is a friend,she will understand.if that doesn't work,meet them at chucky cheese.

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  • by Abbra gone Underground on January 12th, 2008

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    There is no easy way to tell her!
    However, you can be polite by saying something like:
    "I am very sorry to have to tell you that if you cannot teach your child to respect my home I would prefer.......... we meet in the park!"

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