My mother in law is still good friends with my husband's ex-girlfriend. The hard part is that gifts from his ex are all over my MIL's house -- paintings on walls, decorations. I find it hurtful and a bit mean -- should I tell her that I feel this way?
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You got the husband, thats what matters. So your mother in law has a friend, you may not like her, you don't have to, its her business not yours.
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I wouldn't say anything, although I completely understand. If you say something you risk looking very insecure. She may be resentful of you if you say something to her. Your husband may even become upset with you. You are married to your hubby- not her! I would just let the small issues go.
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I understand where u coming from bc my MIL is the same way toward me,but the only things is that I live about 20ft from her. And my MIL have his ex staying weeks at a time.
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You need to admit you and the ex have much in common. Celebrate it and open your heart to the ex. Maybe you'll get some good dirt.
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<MIL needs to get a life, and move on. Does she realize that her son broke up with her 'friend'? Her son obviously didn't want to spend the rest of his life with her, and either should she. I thinks it's very distasteful, and disrespectful that she is doing this, and continues to display this womans 'gifts'. YOur husband needs to speak up, and tell her to let the past go. She's his 'ex' for a reason!
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You could tell her, but it might drive a wedge between you. You can't choose other people's friends. Since it bothers you, maybe you should not go to your MIL house. If you get along with your husband, and you get along with your MIL, this should be no problem, but...the fact that you know where these gifts came from...I get the impression your MIL makes sure you know.
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Just noticed the date. Nevermind. <answer deleted>
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You should be flattered that your mother-in-law believes that you are mature enough to handle the fact that the past is the past. Do you still harbor a fantasy that you are his first love or wish you were and don't want reminders of that fact in other people's homes? Do you have a grudge against her, personally? Or do you just resent her presence (in objects) on behalf of your husband? Did the break-up go badly or was it amicable?
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