aw its understandable .! but he only advice i can give is dont put all your trust into the girl until you know you can trust her enough. good luck in the future :)

Hey you are not alone. Men and women...girls and boys all go through this. I have no idea why people can't be honest and say that they want out of a relationship to be available to date others..but many want their cake and eat it too. They are very selfish people and are only thinking of themselves. Just believe me when I say not all gals are like this..as not all men are like this. Don't shut yourself off from the opportunity to meet a wonderful loving gal that will not cheat and lie. It will happen..believe me.

well you have to decide to trust people again - no more than that. At the minute you deciding not to trust anybody at all - logically speaking, this does not make sense at all - but nevertheless you have decided that every person you meet will cheet and that is that - which begs the question, if you trust nobody at all then why bother entertaining any new relationships at all - there's no point because you have decided all are doomed - if you ask me, I wouldn't socialise beyond my family - it would be pointless. On the otherhand, you could just say to yourself "I am not going to mistrust everybody I meet anymore, I am going to take people at face value and make my mind up as I go along. What's more, I am tired of all the misery I've been through, I am tired of all that crap still causing me grief, it ws bad enough at the time and to be dragging it all around with me adds insult to injury". Remember, there is no pattern to things - things happen because they do, shit happens - so just change your mind about the world and the people - you have nothing to lose - could you feel any worse about stuff than now - could things go any more wrong - could your outlook on life really be any gloomier and depressing. No, I think not. Step 1 you need to forgive those who have hurt you and do not make the mistake of thinking your forgiveness is for them - IT IS NOT - you forgive for you - if you don't put things in the past 'to bed' then you cannot move along so forgive the hurt and let sleeping dogs lie. Hey and if all I've said turns out to be wrong, you can easily slip back into bitter and lonely - it will always be there if you want to wallow. 1. Forgive, 2. Decide to trust new people as you go along - day at a time so you can see how things pan out - and if they turn out to be rotters, well stuff 'em and move on. Decide today that you will not be bitter and sour - we have all be hurt over and over - get over it or if you want to moan, then go in a room and moan alone. Harsh words yep -but they may just piss you off enough to motivate you into a change of mind (even if it's just to prove me wrong).

there are good girls out there, my ex boyfriend who i dated for 2 years constantly accused me of cheating because he had been cheated on so many times and i never did, and it hurts bad, there are ppl out there who would want to be with you and not hurt you and by u holding onto the past u are not allowing anyone to love u, i was with him for 2 years, had a baby with him and got accused and broken up with so many times, please give urself time to get over the hurt ppl have caused u in the past and when u are ready, then go adn be with someone because it hurts to try to be with someone and have them push u away!

Hi, I am a female,(34) and have been cheated on 4 times in my life. The most recent was last year whenever I flew to America to meet with a guy who had promised me the world, only to discover he had been cheating on me the whole time. My very first boyfriend cheated on me as well. Sometimes the people involved were my "best friends" (supposedly) at the time. I have been to hell and back with these "men" cheating on me. I do not see these people anymore. I have never forgiven them but that doesn't mean I obsess about them 24/7. I decided to move on without forgiveness. At the moment I am still raw from the events of last year. At the moment I do not trust men. Or like them very much. I still have to work through my anger and bitterness. Not everyone cheats though. I do know that, and given time I hope that you will come to realise your own self worth and your self esteem will rise. It annoys me when I hear about the people who have hurt me getting married or forming relationships as I know they will just cheat on their partners and pass their issues down to their children. But, that's is their problem. Not mine. You can have a happy fulfilling life without a partner as well should you choose to remain single. Or maybe someone will come along and make you rethink things. Whatever your decision I wish you the very best, and remember, you are not alone. :) God Bless.

Your response to betrayal is to cheat yourself out of having a chance at a normal relationship? I wouldn't give the cheaters in my past that much satisfaction.

chrisJ.....i am 38.....have been in the same situation as you in relationships........it sucks.......i had a gal i was engaged to get pregnant by another guy when i was away at college.........there are plenty of gal's out there who will not cheat on you.....if you distrust all women, then, i think that will be a problem for you........take care.....Brian.....

Is there a certain type of girl you tend to go for? Whether for looks, social habits, whatever? Maybe there is someone out there you have overlooked. Sometimes we put on blinders to find "the perfect mate" so we get stuck going for the same person over and over again. Not all women are cheaters, just like I'm fairly certain not all men are. You just hooked up with some bad eggs.

i know what you mean i've been cheating on in the past too so many times. There was this one dude i was with for about 12 months we were really serious until he wanted a baby at the time i waz 16 i i didn't want kids at that time so he found some bitch and had a baby with her i waz so hurt but he keep tellin he loved me you know wat i said fuck you bitch if you can't accept that i'm too young to be having a baby you don't love. but He made me feel that no one else was going to love me and i felt i shouldn't love anybody because i waz afraid i was going to get hut again so u will be okay.

i dont know what to say its really hard to trust a person after been hurt so many times. but you cant say that shes cheating if you dont have any prof