Today I found out I was pregnant,and when I told my boyfriend he hit me,and said that the baby not his,and he called me names....,Im only 14 years old,I don't know what to do...any advice?

looking at all your other questions:

you need to stay away from boys for a while! you obiously dont know how to protect your self with condoms or some other form of protection.

YOU ARE 14!!!!! you need to worry about school and getting a good education then a job. not talking guys into having sex with you, and then getting shitty when they say no.

but on this occassion you need to talk to an adult. and you need to think really really seriously about this. you are not a legal adult and will not be eleagble for benefits or any help until you are older. (been there done that)

think about the role model you would become for your child. would you want them to have kids at the same age? making you a GRANDMOTHER at 28??

you also need to think about weather you can financially afford this? will you get your parents support?

but you should not ahve to put up with being hit. you should talk about this to your parents and the ploice asap.

I'm confused. Yesterday you were talking about a crush on your teacher, and just last month, 23 people told you to stay away from a boyfriend who was cheating on you. What do you hope to accomplish here if you won't take our advice?

If you really are only 14, what he did is a crime and should be reported to the police. Where are your parents, or guardian? If it was me, I'd have him in jail tomorrow.

Talk to your parents / trusted adult. Take advice and ask for help. Get off the internet, go and do it now

STAY AWAY FROM YOUR BOYFRIEND

1.) Dump that pr!ck.

2.) Talk to your mom, or a trusted adult friend.

3.) Make an appointment to see your doctor -- if you're going to carry the baby to term, you need to make sure it's healthy and stays that way.

tell your parents and have his ass arrested

Aww - bless your heart. I wish I could give you a hug.
Talk to your parent(s) or another trusted adult at your school, perhaps. Stay away from the boy.

Depending on how old this boy-so-called-friend is, you can contact the police and file statutory assault and molestation charges on him. The next thing to do is to file a restraining order after that so he stays away from you for good. Thereafter, I recommend you contact your local Planned Parenthood chapter and listen to the sound advice of one of their councilors. Do all of this even if your parents disagree. We are talking about your welfare, and any parent who would disagree against such advice is not a very loving parent at all.

You need to get away from your "boyfriend", and tell your parents,that you're pregnant,and that your boyfriend put his hands on you..

I agree with the other answers. I'd like to add that if you can't tell your parents then talk to a shelter or even the police. It is never, ever ok for someone to hit you. You'll need help, please seek it.

Leave. Immediately. Don't. EVER. Talk to that guy again, he'll take total advantage of you. Go to your parents, and get help.

Reading your other questions and agreeing with almost everyone here, it sounds like you're looking for attention.

You should talk to your mom or a trusted guardian/adult about your situation. You're very young, your body isn't ready for child bearing yet, and your child needs a good home with an adult who can care for it, so you should really talk to a trusted adult about your situation.

My other advice to you is to try to stay away from boys. We all know that teenagers find boys attractive and that peer pressure tends to make you think that you NEED a boyfriend when you really don't. You should stay away from them until you can really learn what relationships are about, what they take, and how to maturely handle sexual relationships.

Oh thats terrible!!! keep away from this guy, dont let him treat you like that, its as much his fault as yours. You must speak to your parents, if not them, then someone older, a sister/aunt someone you can get advice from. Please dont delay - get help from someone as soon as you can.

I've looked over your other questions and seen your situation getting progressively worse. You don't seem to be taking any of the advice given though it's all good advice and pretty much everyone is telling you the same thing, so there are only two things I can gather from this: either you're a young girl scared and uneducated, and in need of some serious help (in which case, go re-read all the posts people have made telling you to go to the police and get away from this guy and actually FOLLOW their advice), or you're not who or what you say you are and you've made all of this up for the purpose of amusement or drama or something equally ridiculous. At this point I'm more inclined to believe the second one, because I can't see any good reason you would have ignored all the advice of these people trying to help you. If you're really in need of help, prove it. Go to the police (despite what I'm sure your boyfriend has said, they CAN keep you safe) and tell them what's happened, go to your parents and tell them as well. Most of all GET AWAY FROM THIS GUY. Don't feel guilty about leaving, don't feel obligated to stay... he lost every right he had the first time he hurt you.

YOU NEED TO:
1: TALK TO YOUR PARENTS ABOUT THE BABY...AND
2: YOU NEED TO TELL THE POLICE ABOUT YOUR STUPID A** BOYFRIEND. NO MALE HAS A RIGHT TO PUT THERE HANDS ON YOU.

NO ONE should hit you!!!
Take care of your self and get away from him!
He is bad news!
And as for having a baby...think about adoption!!!!!!!!!!!!
It is wonderful!!!!!!!!

I know you've heard this a lot, and by now I imagine you have told an adult. (If you haven't, DO IT!! Girl, it's serious.) But you are much too young to be allowing a boy to touch you--much less to have a baby. But you know all that, and I know you're scared. You made a mistake...now let's see what you can do from here on out.

First, Planned Parenthood is not the only place you can go. They will likely recommend an abortion, but that will cost hundreds of dollars and can be dangerous to your health. It can also really mess you up emotionally, especially if you are alone in getting it done.

Here is a link you can click on that will help you some, if you need it. It's a site that will locate your nearest crisis pregnancy center, which usually provide free service. You can get advice and counseling there at no charge. They also provide a number you can call to talk to someone directly. The site will explain some things about pregnancy and will tell you about the different kinds of abortions out there.

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

But know that you are NOT alone, girl. Not at all. There are SO many people out there who want to help girls in situations like this, and there are so many girls going through the same thing. Seek help. Don't go through this alone. And don't even go near your boyfriend anymore. He's not being good to you, or taking responsibility for his actions. Stay away from guys like that. Believe me, there are so many great guys out there that will treat you respectfully and love you truly. And those guys WON'T press you for sex.

Love you, girl. Be strong. God is there for you, too.

Dont get an abortion. I am 15 and I got pregnant against my will, I ahve learned to accept it. Dont let him hit you either, you have to do it for your baby, I got a restraingin order against Mitch because he would have killed me, I dont agree with abortion though.

Talk to your parents or an adult you trust. Stay away from this boy for the time being, he is too immature to deal with this situation. I am 23 and pregnant and if my bf did that to be he would be in sum serious trouble. Do not expect his abuse ESPECIALLY Whilst your pregnant. Keep away from him, look after your self hun, and write back to me if you need to talk x

Well, unfortunately you don't have too many choices. The first thing you should do is get away from that loser. He hit you for sharing important info, you are only 14, sould not have even had sex, girl you may need to talk to your mom about this. I do hope it gets better, but you really need to stay away from anyone that likes to hit rather than talk. If you can't talk to your mom, there has to be someone that can help you out. Good Luck!!! Stay away from the angry one.

you really need to stay away from that boy because he means no good to you if he hits you when you give him news like that. you need to talk to your mother i know your young but abortion is not the right way to go trust me i mad that mistake and it hurts me so bad when i think about it and when i see people with there babies. so all i can say is think things over before abortion comes up. let me know what happen good luck

Honey, first off, get the hell away from this guy, as far as you can get! Next, go to an adult you trust. Your parents or someone at school or even a friends parent. You need to do something about the baby. The choice to have it or abort it is your decision to make, don't let anyone make it for you. Also, if you decide to have it, seriously consider giving it to a loving family. You really need to be able to finish your education and grow emotionally and mentally before you can really give a child a good life. Good Luck to you.

Call the police and run away , far from where you are... That is bullsh!t , I hope that is a joke. If not, seriously, you need to think about finding somewhere to raise that kid;

1. talk to an adult about the pregnacy

2. go to the police if your boyfriend hit you!!! that's domestic violence!!!

3. if youre only 14, having a baby might not only affect your social life, but it could be life threatening.

my friend got pregnant when she was 14, and she died during child birth.

im not trying to scare you, but you should really know what youre getting into.

honey, i totally understand what youre going through. i was in like the exact same situation, only i had no one (like parents or friends) to go through it with me. my personal views on abortion are that it is murder, but you need to put yourself first. can you handle a baby? can you give it a good future? if you want it then you need to be ready to give up everything for it. having been in an abusive relationship before, all i wanted to do was crawl back to my boyfriend, because i believed all the promises, thought he could protect me. i understand now that that was so stupid, he didnt deserve me, i didnt deserve to be treated like that, and neither do you! so dont make the same mistakes i did, and give yourself a good future

xx

Hi there sweetheart! You should NEVER be hit by anyone! He should go to jail for that. You are way to young for a baby. Please consider adoption, there are sooo many couples wanting children. You could give your baby an awesome life and chance to be a successful adult. We are looking for a child ourselves and would love to talk!

i think youre very brave for telling him. he is ovi not worth the time and effort if he's like that. just do what you thinks best for the baby. i dont belive in abortion but its your life. i am 14 too and i and sure to say i would keep it. just promise me one thing? in the future be more carefull...
good luck..
let me know what happens?
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I'm very sorry to hear that you are facing this challenge in your life and would recommend that you see your Doctor immediately. Also, if you want to go through with the pregnancy, there are many alternatives so that you can have a safe pregnancy. There is always adoption...I am adopted and am very glad that my parents made that choice. I have since met them and have formed a nice relationship with them. Open adoptions are very common and you still can have a beautiful relationship with your son or daughter!

If you are 14 how old does that make your boyfriend? Young guys- Guys up until their twenties have growing up to do. ( Not all but most) You are still a baby yourself. You need to learn to take responsibility for your actions. Learn that life is not a game, and for every action there is a consquence. That boy is not worth a damn. He probably won't be there for you or the baby long. I know from expeirence.

I have 4 friends that are teen Mother's. My best friend got pregnant in the 8th grade. Her and the baby daddy lived together and had a "family" for about a year. He suddenly started fighting, he always had been a cheat, and one day when he left for work he never came back. He had a girl down where he was working. He has barely been around that child. He abused my friend when she was pregnant. He would black her eye, call her names, and tell her the baby wasn't his. He did that while she was pregnant with his child, and when she was first born. She was not much older than you. She has grown up quick. She has raised her baby, and she has done well. She would have been better, if she had dumped his ass long before he vanished on her. She is still dealing with it.

My advice to you is, own up for your mistakes. Talk to your parents. Decide what the best option is for you. IF you have family back up and you want to keep the baby do that. I would not include the boyfriend if he doesn't want to be. That is just future drama.

Take people's advice, you are still young and learning. You have so much life to live, so many crushes you are going to have. Dump that jerk, and decide what you want to do with the growing baby inside of you.

report him to the cops. seek guidance counseling. and pray dearly

1st you shouldnt let him hit you ever again stand up to him next time after you have told someone what had happened and if he dosent think its his then he wouldnt be afraid to get a DNA test if you do have the baby and if it is his and he still wont take care of it make him pay child support you deserve that much from him he sounds like an asshole.

yes....tell your parent about your pregnancy and what your boyfriend did or an adult you can trust

wow you sound like me when I was your age 14 pregnant and a real jerk for a boyfriend. My first peice of advise is take a deep breath and try to relax. You have options. You need to talk to someone (a ADULT)you can trust and remember most of all you have options!! You can have this baby and keep it( however your life will NOT be anything like it is now), there's adoption ( that's what I did not that I'm saying you should) or there's abortion.You have to decied for yourself what is BEST for you AND this baby. It's not all about you anymore.As for the boyfriend once again you need to deiced what you want. However speaking from experence it dosen't get any better. My ex beat me to when he found out I was pregnant. Everyone told me to stay away to move on all that stuff but I didn't. I stayed whith him cause I loved him cause we were having a baby together (weither he wanted to admit it or not)for all the reasons I'm sure are running through your head right now. However when I look back on it now the one peice of advise I wish I would of listen to was everyone telling me to leave him.It took me winding up in the hospital beaten so bad I couldn't move. He almost killed me all over this baby I was having that he said wasn't his.I'm not saying things will be that bad for you but there is ALWAYS that chance and like I already said it's not all about you anymore. If you take nothing more from what I have shared with you PLEASE talk to someone anyone find an adult you trust and tell them and remember know matter how much you think your parents are gonna freak they love you and it wont be anything like you think it will. GOOD LUCK

No judgement here on your age. You need to LEAVE him. Father of your child or not... he will put you and your unborn child at risk of many harmful things. You need to think of your child... not your love life.

HUNNY IM 16 SO I AM A TEEN GIRL JUST LIKE YOU THE NUMBER ONE RULE WHILE HAVINGSEX IS TO USE PROTECTION IF YOUR BF GOT U PREGANT ND YOU KNOW HES THE FATHER TELL YOUR MOM OR WHAT EVER FAMILY MEMBER YOUR CLOSEST TO AND HAVE THEM TALK TO HIS PARENTS OR ASK THEM WHAT YOU SHOULD DO OR WHAT THEY WANT YOU TO DO TO
ID DUMP HIM OR GET A FERTERNITY TEST WHEN THE BABYS BORN

Yes. You need to think about your life and where you are going with it. Now you are thinking of bringing a baby into it. I read your other answers and questions and would ask you to look closely at your life. At fourteen you should be going for a good education and with that you can do many things. I am not sure what your home life is like but I encourage you to make some positive changes in your life. It seems you are in a rut and that includes abuse,lying and cheating boyfriends. A good way to work out your frustrations is too run or work out at the gym. Why not start today and start making changes that you can be proud of. In the mean time, you need to talk to an adult you can trust about your pregnancy. There are options.

too be honest, if your boyfriend has turnt round and hit you when u just found out your pregnant and he was calling u all these names and that then he aint worth it, if ur guna keep the baby then i would tell someone close to you, who u can trust 2 not be mad at you and help you :) good luck with whatever happens x

Omg!!! Think of your future. r u even serious?? or r u just making things up? You don't seem realistic to me.

another one yet to say you are only 14 years old you have your whole life to think about your career, have you told your parents i think that's the first thing you should do they will do what's best for you even if you think it may be harsh.... as for your boyfriend concider him not a boyfriend if he's hit you he's not worth it, he needs to grow up. my advice is to tell mom and dad and get rid of boys all together till your at least of age.

I'm sorry that your boyfriend is abusing you. How terrible boys can be! This always happens where I live, when the boy turns the girl down. Have you told your parents or anyone else that looks after you? If so, you might want to so you can discuss what you should do. You can get an abortion, although I wouldn't, set the baby up for adoption, or care for it yourself. If your parents don't support you, look into other options. There are many places that offer pregnancy help and can help you. Also, surround yourself with people who love you, like friends or relatives, or even surround yourself with other girls going through the same thing you are. Hang in there, it will be okay. Good luck!

Im only 14 teen myself but If I was in your vote I would talk 2 my parents and get all the support I need. and I would get myself away from him!! seriously if he treats you like that he dosen't deserve you and if he hits you once he will do it again. seriously I hope everything goes ok.

I can't even believe this! Of course for the 51st time LEAVE your BOY-Wat-the-fukk-ever FRIEND! Becaus he is a coward if he hit you, and cowards can't raise a child anyway. But by wat you said, he doesn't plan on raisng the child. YOU ARE 14!!! But i'm sure you are aware of that, but you are not aware of exactly wat you getting yourself in to sweety.First off, STOP HAVING SEX, PERIOD! Now is your time to focus on your baby, and plesae, for gods sake, DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTION, keep the child, it should make you more mature, because you'll have a major responibility..and maybe that will keep you focused on your destiny, and not some lil violent boys. PRESS CHARGES ON HIS ASS and stay away from him before he hit you again, maybe this time in the stomach, and kill both you and the baby. STAY AWAY FROM HIM, I MEAN THAT!!!! Where are your parents???Talk to them, or talk to counselor at school!There is help out there!I don't mind helping if I can! email me at diyakah@yahoo.com and we'll exchange info. I'm sure there is some guidance i can give you. I don't want you to be just another statistic. Please seek help sweetheart! Good luck and God Bless!!


-Diva

Look. im 15. you should talk to ur mom. if you dont have a good relationship with her, you need to talk to any mature adult that can help you. i dont believe in abortions, but if thats your choice you need to do that. or you can have it and keep it or put him/her up for adoption. as for the boy hitting you, you should deff. get a restraining order or something. but look, your 14... ur not grown...but you have common since. use it. good luck.

Talk to your parent or adult. Go to the doctor make sure you and your baby is doing good. Talk to your doctor or someone about you options. Then choose the one that is best for you and your baby. Also leave that boyfriend of your behind. I know he's the father but you don't need the abuse and you need to protect your child from a person like that. Also go file a complaint against him because if he hit you once. They do it again. Sorry doesn't change the fact he hit you. If you plan to keep this baby then you don't want him abusing it. There is lot of help out there. So trust the people who want to help you. If you can't talk to your parent talk to someone that you can. I wish you the best in what ever you decide.

If he does not want to accept the beautiful pride and joy that is his fault, he shouldnt of slept with you if he is gonna say that it is not his, and abuse is wrong if a girl is pregnant and no hard feeling i am 14 and also pregnant...

Awwww that's so sad! I'm 14 also, and I know if I was in that situation, I would definently dump that "boyfriend" immediatly. Odds are he won't want anything to do with the baby anytime soon, if ever and even if he did, he'll just be a terrible influence on the baby and will just cause you stress. You can take him to court to demand child support. My suggestion to you is to figure out what you want to do about the baby, and go to a trusted adult. And try and go to the doctor as soon as possible...every day matters in a pregnancy. And try and find a friend or counseler to confide in to relieve your own stress.
Best of luck to you. :]

Im seventeen, and I think I may be pregnant. I know its not as bad as being 14. But, I sort of seem to know what you're going through. You definitley need to tell someone, and try to get some help. AND DEFINITLEY tell someone about him hitting you. Thats never okay, and don't ever think it is. Some girls get under the impression that its okay..he still loves me. Dont fall for that..be smart.
good luck with everything.<3

Well isn't he a coward, you deserve someone better than dat, no girl/woman should be treated like that.

im 14 so i can relate, tell ur mom, but if u dont wana tell ur mom, might i suggest an auntie or a friends mum, thats wot id do,. also go to docs and get him proof dat it is his baby.

Gosh! im a young mum and even tho i wouldnt change him for the world i do still sit here and think why am i not out with my friends, when i was pregnant people were there for me telling me how they were all going to be there and so on and now i am a single mum trying to get some qualifications so i can get a better job and im not stuck in a rubbish one,you are 14 years old! im not going to talk to you like your a child coz obviously your old enough to get pregnant but you have to understand that you are i had to grow up really quickly and i just think that you have soooo much life left why not enjoy it go clubbin (when ur old enough) holiday with ur m8z then have children when u have had a life, and for your so called boyfriend when you told him and he reacted like that..well it just proves he is a child and doesnt want to face up 2 it,what ever your choice juust remember babies are for life and i mean life they need you for everything so you need to thnk long about it but one more thing what ever you do dont let that (boyfriend) lay another han on u, your a girl and if he was anything of a gent he wouldnt ly his hands on a girl, i hope this helps a little i know its all confusing but just sit down on your own and think of all your life you have to live,babies are lovely but they are still lovely in your 20s-30s x x x

I was in that state once. I went to my boyfriend the day I found out. He didnt hit me physicly, but he might as well have done it mentaly. He told me I was nothing more to him than a whore. And that I needed to not blame him for what I had done. so six months later, i gave birth to his son and laid him in his lap. he said he looks just like me ash. i said i know, when are you going to take responibility. so to tell you now, sweety, bein a mom aint easy. and guys, at 14, only make being a mom that much harder. let him go, if he's gonna sit there and hit you because he got you pregnant, he isnt good for you. Guys like that only want that one thing. and when they get it, ur over.