by JLoveBug on December 19th, 2007

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When you truly love someone... do you ever stop loving them? How do you ever move on?

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by giveiturall on December 19th, 2007
Your love most certainly can change for someone and you can move on. I even think in certain cases it can die. Sometimes I compare it to a garden, if uncared for and ignored the weeds can get so thick you cannot see what was originally planted and sometimes you can't even tell it was a garden at all.
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- that's a really good way to look at it. i guess it's just in the beginning you can't imagine living without someone. in time.. time heals all wounds.
  
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  by JLoveBug on December 19th, 2007
- very nice analogy
  
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by Done. never again. on February 3rd, 2008
Why not just keep loving the person? Love is never a bad thing. You can move on and still have love and care for somebody, why try to change that?
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by KobeFan08 on December 19th, 2007
No, you never really stop loving them, you may feel ike it, and you may say that you dont but you never really stop, but you can move on. You can move on by just letting go, dont think dont speak about them and eventually you will be done. Turn them into a happy(or sad)memory, the one where you say "I remember so and so, man that was a while ago"
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by pagan-babe on December 19th, 2007
You do move on but it may take many years depending on how deep the love was.

You will eventually get over it but it may leave scars!
Some times these scars affect your new relationship so make sure you are over it before you start with a new relationship,dont see someone on the rebound.

I think from time totime about a past love that i was with for 3 years we parted over 20 years ago and i still think of him now and then,when certain songs came on,but it doesnt hurt any more.
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by The Dean on December 19th, 2007
It depends on why you separated. If they died or were removed against your will, you will always have a fondness in your heart for them, but the pain you feel now will lessen, cease and hopefully turn in to memories of the good times.

If they changed and left hurting you, then you pain will lessen you will build a defense to judge other relationships and you'll eventually forget them most of the time. Certain events may trigger recall, but it won't be a crying everyday kind of thing.
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by Anonymous on December 19th, 2007
You have to make yourself move on, if you cannot have the person's heart. It will save you a lot of future depression just to distance yourself from those thoughts, and detach yourself from those memories as much as possible right now, until you can look back on them without feeling so much pain.
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by Spunts.answered 67 questions in 1 hour. on December 19th, 2007
easy enough.love someone else.
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- i can only hope it's as easy as it sounds.
  
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  by JLoveBug on December 19th, 2007
- been there,done it.
  p.s.give it all you got and be sincere.
  
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by harlekkin on May 9th, 2008
I think when you truly love someone you cannot stop loving them. True love in my view doesn't have an expiry date and there is nothing one can do to reverse it.

Pain can overshadow love and distort the picture, but that's only on the surface.
If you think or you're convinced you no longer love, then you never loved in the first place. You simply liked the moment.

Moving on doesn't require you to stop loving a person, but to turn your focus away from your own feelings and start seeing the world from THEIR eyes. What do THEY want, and why do THEY want to move on?

Once you can see that you will start feeling happy for them and when you are happy for them you can let go.
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by VOD on May 9th, 2008
true love never dies. Its not the erotic type love. its the real deep caring that exists in th heart and soul. You continue with your life but you always carry an unquenchable ache.
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by always-forever on May 9th, 2008
time...
it does not heal the pain... but it numbs it...
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by _labs_ on May 9th, 2008
no, he will always be a part of your life... moving on doesnt mean you have to forget the person or the memories he has with you.... it is just living without the presence of that person... yes its very hard but it takes time to heal and accept that its over.. but you'll be okie soon.... like wat im doing now... i know ill be ok soon... looking forward for a new happines.. and love... im thanking him for all.. its the best days of my life...

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by _labs_ on May 9th, 2008
no, he will always be a part of your life... moving on doesnt mean you have to forget the person or the memories he has with you.... it is just living without the presence of that person... yes its very hard but it takes time to heal and accept that its over.. but you'll be okie soon.... like wat im doing now... i know ill be ok soon... looking forward for a new happines.. and love... im thanking him for all.. its the best days of my life...

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by bangbang on February 5th, 2008
Change your perspective, focus on being thankful for knowing that person, keep telling yourself you will get over this, dont get trapped into thinking you wont. recognise that changing your perspective DOES NOT mean you dont still love them deeply, it means your adopting a healthy attitudes towards the reality of the situation. This will work and help you see a light at the end of your whirlpool of emotions. This isnt the end of the world, its a new beginning.
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by Princess on February 3rd, 2008
I always think that yes, you will always still love them in a small way, but you move on and find someone else who you will fall in love with, and you'll realise life goes on, and it wasn't as bad as you thought at the time.
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by Freddy Says remove all moderation points on February 3rd, 2008
You can't unless they do so much to you in order to ruin the love.
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by Fallen Angel on January 3rd, 2008
I met someone and protected my Heart at first but we grew closer together. But the past came back to haunt her with the death of her sister. I stood by her but things changed. I got down and asked her to marry me and she said yes,A week later she said that she dont need me anymore and ripped my Heart out. Its soo hard for me to open up and when I do it crumbles apart, I will stay away but I just want to be there for her but she cant let her sister go and has started drinking.Im so sad and my Heart is Bleeding cause we Truely Love eachother but yet Im pushed away.I just want my Sunhine back. I just want her to be Happy and the pain to go away. Thank you for letting me babble. Fallen Angel
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by graduated pixie getting pissed on December 19th, 2007
You move on because you have to. You'd be suprised at your own survival instincts.
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by Nagina on May 21st, 2008
If its true love, and you have deep feelings for the guy you love, whatever he says, no matter how bad it is you WILL cry, be hurt, your heart will be filled with pain bu you will never stop loving that person. you just cant. Love is something everyone goes through in their life time.And even though the guy you've love for nearly 9 years says he doesnt love you cant change your love for them. weather your with the person you love or not, the love will still last forever because the truth about true love is that 'true love never dies'. Nagina loves Adnaan 4 eva. I.D.S.T XX
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by asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson on May 11th, 2008
I wish I knew all the answers for you. I keep hearing that time is the best healer but that also depends on how deeply you loved the person. The deeper yopu loved them the longer it's going to take you to move on.

I am in your boat right now and I wish I could honestly say it was for the same reason but unfortunatelky it's not. I made a very selfish choice one night a litle over 3 years ago knowing full well that there could have been serious consequences in making that choice but I did it anyway and as a result the love of my life was violently attacked and eventually died from her injuries a few weeks later.
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by BigDaddyBS on May 9th, 2008
No... You never stop loving them. You DO tend to drop OUT OF love with them, but love remains.

You move on by grieving their loss (it IS the same thing to your heart), let time dampen down the love, and numb most of the hurt (to where it's more a thought than actual pain).

Try some of all of my suggestions in this answer: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2762628 . They worked for me.

Good luck. ;-)
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by michelle pelletier on September 26th, 2008
No... not when you truely love them. I think it can evolve into a friendship based love though.
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by misinformed badger on May 9th, 2008
No, you don't. But the love morfs into more of a persistent longing - possibly for the intimate company rather than the actual ex.
Course, if they DO something heinously horrible that affects you directly, it's 'other side of the coin' time. Hate is a very close cousin to Love.
It's all that damned snake's fault.
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by erin on October 15th, 2008
it depends, loving someone, and being in love with someone are two competely different things. i dont believe that you would always be in love with a person that you have broken up with. I think if it didnt work out it was for a reason. you might meet the love of your life after that person, and thank god for unanswered prayers. But, you might always love a past love, as you would love a friend. Care about their well being, its in our nature to alway wonder and care about people we were once in love with.
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by likewise on December 16th, 2008
when someone in your life that you truly love has left you..its best to NOT forget about them, in other words..don't forget who they were in your life.Think about it, if you really want to let this person go, you'll have to do it yourself...even if you want to move on you should not just put your memories of this person away and get another one. Instead, remember the times you've had with this person, and when you found another one...you CAN still think about this person, moving on isn't as simple as a tutorial in a 'How-To' video you know? do what your heart tells you to do...THEN move on
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by Inquisitive minds want to know... on October 15th, 2008
I hope I don't ever have to learn the answer to that question.

I'm sure it is possible....but it seems so difficult!
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by Webstalker on October 15th, 2008
If that person is UR one true love, then U will never stop loving that person... and they'll always hold a special place in your heart...
and every now and then.. that one special song, or scent will trigger off a memory, and for that one split second, UR heart will skip a beat followed by a sickening feeling in UR stomach cuz U are no longer together.
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by Dmitri on May 9th, 2008
True love is agape love, which is the love in the Bible. It leaves you giving and fully vulnerable, and it remains even when they are no longer around or no longer romantic with you.
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by Anonymous on October 15th, 2008
I truly believe you never stop loving that person, the person you felt true love for. Yes we move on & live our lives but no i don't believe you ever stop loving them.

I know i have experienced that & when you run in to that true love again, you will see that it never ends. I ran in to my first love 2 years ago & the love we felt for one another when we were together came back again. We are not together but we do still see each other from time to time. I am married & he is busy with his life but we do talk still & see each other once in awhile like i said.

We talked about the past & how we felt when we broke up & how we felt when were together we both feel it wasn't over for us back then & so i feel this is why we have come back together, the one true twin soul you have you will know. You are connected forever by the heart. Together or apart.

When you feel that way with someone then you know that is your twin soul. Not soul mate they are 2 very different things.
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