Have you ever unintentionally stalked someone (but to everyone else it appeared you were stalking said person)?

I remember way back in middle school we were on a field trip to a museum and I spotted this stunningly beautiful girl I just couldn't take my eyes off of. I happened to be so enticed that I wandered away from my group and went with hers for several hours, and I don't really feel it was intentional. However, I don't think anyone noticed me...

But now I'm a little more careful with my stalking habits. Er.. I mean... I would never stalk someone, that's creepy!

Do you mean that you keep ending up in the same places at the same times? This has happened to me and I wondered if my ex was trying to "conveniently" run into me..

Honestly, I have not.

Conversely, I have been accused of avoiding people when I was not, in fact, avoiding them.

I don't understand how you could unintentionally stalk someone. That is impossible. You either stalk or you do not stalk.

Um...why? Did someone say something about me stalking someone? I mean, not that I'm stalking anyone or anything...

YES--and I was arrested for harrassment for it---walking about a half-mile thru the village on the same sidewalk...I was collecting bottles out of all the trash cans and the other person was skateboarding all the sidewalk ramps and cement...Very- Very unusual situation...

I don't think so. I had a stupid ex who must have been paranoid, though.

Not that i know.

Never done it. But I have seen it. The emotions that are linked with rejection and jealousy can run very deep and drive people to act in a manner that is not in sync with their usual personality.

Probably.
Most people don't understand the way I work when it comes to relationships and liking people.
+5

Yes and it was humiliating. I thought the guy was good looking but I never meant to stalk. We always ended up in the same classes together. One day, I heard one of his friends say, 'she's stalking you'. It was so revolting.

Yeah... I think I may know what you mean...

When I was 18 I was ridiculously infatuated with my best friend. I was very naive and socially inexperienced and when I told her about it she wanted nothing more to do with me and it completely broke my heart. So I kept on and on begging her to change her mind, but she ignored my calls and made very lame and hurtful excuses to avoid talking to me. When I saw her in the street and she tried to avoid me I cornered her and shouted about how angry I was that she had treated me in this way. It must have been very embarassing for her, particularly as she was with this guy she liked. She agreed for there to be a 6 month cooling-off period, after which I was free to write to her again. But she obviously got v mad thinking how I had behaved in the mean-time, and when I messaged her on facebook (again, very foolishly)she told me to leave her alone. Only then did I finally give up.

I feel very ashamed of all this now, two years later, and I think that my behaviour might have seemed quite stalker-like to her, although I was too crazed with grief to appreciate her feelings- ironically, since I thought I loved her. So I think you can be a stalker and not realise it.

I have learnt a lot from that painful experience about the dangers of my tendency to idolise people.

no, but right at this very moment i have someone texting me and calling me non stop for the past three days, even after we broke up more than a week ago, spreading lies, sending threatening and disturbing texts about how i should go kill myself and how something bad needs to happen to me and i should pray to god. Stalking is a serious issue whether it be through text, phone calls, or someone coming to your work. This has all happened to me the past few days and it really drives you crazy. I do not wish to get the cops involved, but I am at my witts end and have run out of ideas on how to get him to leave me alone. Any suggestions?

I've come close to being accused of staring at girls and of following them in my efforts to meet them.

Let's see ... does looking for their address and phone number and email online count if you didn't find any of them LOL

i did do that in high school i didn't know i was doing . i did feel bad after it happened

Most stalkers don’t think they’re really threatening, intimidating, or even stalking someone else. A person commits stalking if the person intentionally or knowingly engages in a course of conduct that is directed toward another person and if that conduct either: Would cause a reasonable person to fear for the person's safety or the safety of that person's immediate family member and that person in fact fears for their safety or the safety of that person's immediate family member. Would cause a reasonable person to fear physical injury to or death of that person or that person's immediate family member and that person in fact fears physical injury to or death of that person or that person's immediate family member.