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by URIacoustic on December 16th, 2007

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Ex says she still loves me and knows it can work out. But she wants space to feel independent again. She wants to talk everyday, but is this a good idea? if you were her would you want me more if i said no?

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  • by wannabenewman-confused on April 14th, 2008

    wannabenewman-confused

    Honestly, me as a woman, when a guy asks me something like that-if Im in a relstionship or not-and Im not interested in him, I might say something like "I'll think about it" or "We'll see what happens" or "Maybe, maybe not"-with a little grin on my face so that they think "ok, that looks like a maybe" and then they're happy at that time! But I wont have to see their face when I dont call back, text back, or anything and I wont have to worry about hurting they're feelings as much! Does that make since? I know that sounds bad, but I usually dont like to make people upset especially when Im right infront of them! I hope thats not what shes doing, but it might be. Maybe you should keep trying alittle and have a serious little talk! Good Luck!!!

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  • by Ms.A on April 14th, 2008

    Ms.A

    You can always give her an ultimatum.

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  • by patmann on April 14th, 2008

    patmann

    well. id say she could want a relationship with you. Dont bring it up too early though, or it will seem like you're desperate and clingy.. try to ease into it later on and see what she says. If she still dusnt give you and answer then be patient.. By the third or forth time you ask ( btw, the times you ask are a few weeks apart or so) and she still dusnt have an answer for you then.. its plain and simple she has you by a leash and she wont let go becuz your that sweet, great guy and she dusnt have those feelings for you.. so.. is she worth it?.. ask yourself that if it comes to the third time you need to ask.. Ive been through these before and.. for me, its not worth waiting for such a simple answer as yes or no when you've done everything u can to be a great guy for her.

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  • by shayla on April 14th, 2008

    shayla

    ask her or you need to have a serious conversation with her

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  • by Ria Adam on April 14th, 2008

    Ria Adam

    could be that shez in a relationship but its not something serious so thats why shez considering getting back with you...best thing to do is to discuss it with her.

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  • by URIacoustic on December 16th, 2007

    URIacoustic

    She said that if we dont talk to each other for a while its never going to work out. But that she cant gurantee a relationship BUT taht she knows if and when we do it will work out. Shes the most reserved person i know she keeps everything inside. Ever since we graduated college i could tell shes been trying to distance herself. I know she needs this, but i dont want to just stick around then have her say adios, or maybe she'll think if i stick around she may think she can walk all over me. Im confused.

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  • by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on December 16th, 2007

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    You know her better than we do, I think you can decide which path to take in this situation.

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  • by Ria Adam on April 14th, 2008

    Ria Adam

    maybe...your best off speaking to her in person, sit and chat with her as soon as you can or else it'l send you crazy lol just ask her where you stand
    best of luck!

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  • by jesspants on April 14th, 2008

    jesspants

    I think its best to just trust people and not bother looking at their profile page otherwise you could drive yourself insane making assumptions. Besides perhaps she was in a relationship and it broke up and she forgot to change her relationship status. Its probably not the first thing u think about when u break up with someone.
    Good luck

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  • by Anonymous on December 17th, 2007

    Anonymous

    Maybe I am wrong...but she seems to want to live independent from you and do whatever...but keep you dangling there until she decides if she can find something better. Maybe you should stop talking and go out and have yourself some fun.

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  • by angel_face on December 17th, 2007

    angel_face

    Wow I am going through this exact same thing! To answer your question though, yeah I think you should still talk to her everyday if you still care about her. Because if she meant that much to you, you wouldnt want to throw something like that away. I debated whether or not to keep talking to my ex, but I realized that I couldnt just forget everything we had. I hope everything works out between you! :)

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  • by Done. never again. on December 16th, 2007

    Done. never again.

    Yes I would probably want you more if you said no. Also, if you think of what's best for her, that is very sexy.

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  • by beautiful disaster on February 4th, 2008

    beautiful disaster

    I'd say walk away. An ex is ALWAYS an ex for a reason, no matter how small or insignificant the reason was. If you start talking to her every day and building up that feeling again it's going to be a lot harder for you. Trust me... I've been there. We did end up getting back together and it lasted for about 2 months because I was so paranoid that he was going to do it to me again. I couldn't take it anymore and leaving was one of the hardest decisions I've had to make in a long time. It hurts just as bad, if not worse, the second time around. If she wants her space give it to her, but make it clear that you aren't just an option and DO NOT wait around for her to make up her mind. You'll eventually find someone that won't keep you waiting and playing games.

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  • by shikaru on April 4th, 2008

    shikaru

    it may not be. sometimes a girl may be thinking of testing you but what if he girl is really leaving?? you can ask her to stay . I may be wrong but its worth a shot

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  • by Ria Adam on April 14th, 2008

    Ria Adam

    ever thot she myt be tagging you along, could be that she took you off her friends list because she doesnt want you to be apart of her life.Think about it.

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  • by Ria Adam on April 14th, 2008

    Ria Adam

    does she know that your on facebook?

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  • by lizizhere on December 16th, 2007

    lizizhere

    She wants to keep you on the sidelines in case the other relationships don't work out. Not many people like to be alone. But like the one AB said you know her better then we do so only you can decide this answer.

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