Is it selfish to leave her over not being satisfied sexualy. i want to leave she refuses to give oral but she wants it done to her. we are married with kids but enough is enough im tried of it. she tries to control me. what do i do
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You sit down and have a serious talk and find out what about oral sex makes her uncomfortable. Then, you address the issue (hers, not yours) and you let her know that it's okay, and whatever caused her to be uncomfortable is over now because you love and care about her and would NEVER hurt her. Then, you address your issue and let her know that it's a serious problem in your marriage and ask what you can do to make her more comfortable with doing it. There are toys, blindfolds, warming/flavored lotions and oils, all kinds of things to make that more enjoyable for both parties. Just take make a "date" to take her to an adult toy store and let her pick something out to taste on you. Maybe try doing a 69, so that she doesn't feel like she's "submitting" to you (or whatever the problem is). Good luck!
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It's time you were out of the door and gave her a chance to find a man.
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This is so not about sex. There has to be something else. So one person has a problem with something. You can't be understanding and that is enough for you to want to break up a whole family....over oral sex? What if she because paralyzed and couldn't move anymore, do we just leave and stop loving them because they can't give us what we need physically. Love and marriage are about so much more than small personal needs. It's about deeper things, things that affect your whole life. You need to find out what is really the problem and discuss it with her.
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Yes it is selfish. However, it's also selfish of her to expect YOU to perform oral on HER when she isn't willing to reciprocate. A relationship is supposed to be give and take, not take and take (and take and take and take...). I will stress the fact that MOST women can't achieve orgasm from intercourse alone. Some women can ONLY orgasm from oral or manual stimulation. With that being said, men CAN orgasm from intercourse alone. If she doesn't enjoy giving oral sex, that's fine. It's not like you're never going to have an orgasm again. Leaving her and your kids because she won't give you a blowjob is as bad as leaving her because she won't let you perform anal sex on her. You need to respect what she wants, and try to be a bit more understanding for pete's sake.
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You're going to leave your wife and the mother of your children for something like this? She doesn't deserve to be treated this way. I suspect there's a lot more going on in this relationship than this issue.
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I totally understand where your coming from mate, do what is right for you, I am sick to death hearing people always feel sorry for females, well F#$K them, us men have out little mood swings, out insecurities etc, us men have feelings too. If it is good for the goose its good for the gander I always say. You always hear people bitch about a man hitting women, well what about us guy's who get beaten on by woman and never hit back coz we love them, where is the justice in that. SO just remember GUY'S Go through as much shyte as females do too.
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try washing it an washing your ass before you go to bed an asking her to do oral sex on you, she might not like the taste of a sweaty organ, spruce it up a little bit an see if that helps
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In my opinion, the problem is bigger than the oral sex issue. Not performing oral sex on you and then EXPECTING oral sex from you suggests to me that she has issues with control. I believe that sexual compatibility is an important part of any marriage. Is it the most important thing? I would say no. I know it would be hard for me to be with a woman who had issues with oral sex. Some women have a hard time understanding that men sometimes need stimulation outside of intercourse to excited. Women think that, as men, we are always ready for sex and should be happy and grateful when a woman is willing to have sex with us. Anyway, I feel for you and wish you the best of luck.
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