My boyfriend of 1 year & a bit cheated on me the other night. He said he didnt want to do it but the girl wouldnt stop touching him. He said he wants me back but doesnt want to hurt me again. I want him back more then anything :(. I dont know what to do.
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Evelyn
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omg the excuses guys will come up with. Don't believe that crap and even if its true he should have told her no and left. If he did it once he will do it again, take my word for it.
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You are in for heatbreak if you stay with a guy like this. The excuse was total baloney, he makes this woman sound like a predator and he is not in control of himself. Let him go and don't look back, he is trouble.
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Hold on, let me stop laughing first. He didn't want to do it? She made him becasue she wouldn't stop touching him? What a bunch of f-ing bullsh** you got fed. He did it becasue he wanted to and was about to be caught so he fessed up in away that made the girl look like the bad guy so you'd be sympatetic and take him back. If he really didn't want to cheat on you he would have knocked Miss Happy Hands on her ass and walked away. I can tell you exactly what to do. Tell him you're on to him and he needs to take a hike beacause you don't have time to deal with his drama. I canm tell you right now if you do take hiom back he'll just do it again and again.
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Ask yourself some questions. Can I trust him anymore? Do I want to live my life with a man that did not respect me? If a gal was simply touching him...could he not stop it? Is all it takes is a touch from another woman that he would have sex with her? He is sooooooooooo guilty and was sooooooooooo disrespecting you.... REMEMBER to go to a doctor and get checked for sexual diseases and AIDS! Now do you still want to stay with him knowing he could kill you at any time from his cheating?
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As long as he's laying the blame for his own actions on others, he will hurt you again. Pure and simple.
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It sounds like you have started the grief process because you have experienced a loss. You have lost trust in your boyfriend. Often, the first phase is dealing with loss is to feel shock and denial. At this early phase, your system probably does not want to believe that your relationship has permanently been changed by his actions. This is a totally normal, but painful, reaction. The grief of loss is a process that you go through, and its not a fun or comfortable experience for you, but you will get through it. Your boyfriend wasn't forced to cheat by this girl, she touched him and he didn't tell her to stop. The hard truth is that your boyfriend made a choice not to tell her to stop touching him.
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I MEAN C'MON......lets think about this logically here, if you were touching a guy that really didnt want you to....could he stop you??? or are you sooooo powerful that he could not,...or in deed is your little pathetic lying, loser of a boyfriend saying she raped him, because if he really really (yeah right) didnt want to do it, then thats classed as rape, but hold on to that phone, because i dont think you will be needing to call the police just yet!!!!! did they have sex???? did she make him get an erection??? did she make him enter her?? c'mon, you cant be that silly and dont forget you are worth more than this lying scumbag can give you
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Don't take him back. He has a mind of his own. He could have gotten rid of the other girl if he wanted to but he didn't. He was wrong, if you give in now you are going to prove that it is ok for men to walk all over you and get away with whatever they want. You will regret if forever.
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think about it like this....do you trust him???? and also think about this...how the ___ do you cheat unwillingly???? no...stop kissing me...don't touch me..... not.....please don't kiss me but if you do...its okay.. did i just half cheat?
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this will affect your whole relationship. It will be a long time before you can trust him again. I know you want him back but a year isn't that long, even though it feels like it. Be with someone who isn't so easily coerced into cheating on you...best of luck
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Theres a very simple answer here, if what he's claiming is true, tell him to go to the police, this is at least sexual harassment, and quite probably sexual assault, possibly rape if he was too scared to say no. If he's lying...well I think you know where this is going ;)
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Easy decision. Take him back because what you want is more important than what I want which is what's best.
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Do you feel like you can trust him to not do that again?
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she can never make him if he loves you he would of never done that.he did that cause he wanted to not because she made him..
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I completely understand your predicament. My boyfriend did the same thing to me two weeks ago. He felt like he needed independance from his life, and he cheated on me. He has begged to take me back, pleaded for us to move on. I invaded his privacy by checking his facebook, and he knows that I did it. But despite everything, I still want to be with him more than anything. And it hurts because I want to be with the guy who I loved who didn't do all of this. I don't really know what to tell you, other than you aren't alone.....
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He could VERY easily have just said "no", got up, left, and driven back to you. Even if a girl won't stop touching (BTW: WHERE did she "not stop" touching him? and WHY did she have access to ... Big Jim and the twins if THAT was it?), saying "NO" works both ways. ONLY if she'd tied him hand and foot to the bedposts naked (and why would he be naked with someone else, and why would he LET someone other than YOU tie him up?) would there be ANY excuse. IF you seriously want him back, read this: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2691789 . However, if he persists with the "I couldn't HELP it... She kept TOUCHING me..." defense, forget it. Here's a couple of answers I've given on getting over breakups - (short) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2759724 ; (long) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2762628 . I hope this helps. REMEMBER: YOU have been, are, and will be worth more than you're feeling you are at this moment. And I promise... Things WILL get better. The old adage "'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" is really true. You'll see that sometime soon. Good Luck! ;-)
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End it-it's over:)
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Good for you Evelyn for dumping this no good guy....it makes me SO mad when men start this' I couldn't help it' type argument.....they are human beings who have free will and know right from wrong.
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All you guys know at the end of the day she will be taking her man back! follow your heart dear....
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Uh... sorry, what? That's got to be the lamest excuse for cheating I've heard in a while. She wouldn't stop touching him, so he decided he had absolutely no choice but to have sex with her? He didn't want to do it, but he did anyway? Your boyfriend sounds pretty lame. If he cared about you, he would have refused the girl's advances, regardless of the situation. He's trying to make himself sound like the victim to evoke your sympathy. Don't let it work. Get rid of this guy. Cheating is bad enough, but he is acting manipulative and not taking responsibility for his mistake. I guarantee you this is just the tip of the iceberg... Move on, you'll be much happier in the long run.
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Let him go, if he comes back he truely loves you. I'm seriouse act like he's the victem NOT YOU! it works trust me honey, I 1st heard this on a music video... If you love someone, let them go, If they come back they're yours 4ever. If he doesn't I know it hurts but you got to keep going
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The best thing you can do is to leave him, and get it together. If he didn't want to do it then he would not have done it. I hope you realize he is playing you and thinks you are stupid because that is what his argument suggests.
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