Well my bf asked me to move in with him i talked to mi mum about it and she sed she would like us to be enegrated before i move in cause she doesnt want me to move in for a month then we break up. he says we wont but do you think it would be s
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Don't rush into anything. Listen to your mum, but above all, do what you feel is right, not what you WANT to be right. It will save you grief in the end.
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I don't think being engaged is going to stop you two from breaking up if things don't work out. Living with some and dating are two very different things. There is no way to know if it will work or not. I think the engagement thing is for your mother so she feels better about the move.
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I think it's a mistake to move in together and start pooling your lives together unless there is more of a solid future to base it on. You need a foundation. What's wrong with getting to know one another now and then get married when you are sure? SOmetimes it's harder to 'get to know' someone when they are together too soon and can't step back and think without the pressure of being always in the same home. Feelings have a way of entwining you when you are living with each other and then if something happens, it's very painful to part when you realize y0ou won't make it and don't have the commitment that a marriage vow would have on you both. It's like not signing a contract. It's too easy to back out. So do your reasearch before signing.
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How long have you been together? I do not think an engagement will help in any way... but I think it may be your mother's way of telling you to wait until you are more sure of each other. Moving in together is a big step and can ruin relationships because the person you see all day is different than the person you see when you are just dating. If you have been together, steady, for less than a year, I would not move in together.
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