My ex & I split up last year. Later i found out he cheated on me with a good friend. I don't talk to them any more, but i sometimes see them together. It makes me feel really sad, stupid& lonely, should i still feel like this? & How can I get over it?
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What they did was a horrible betrayal, but if thats they kind of people they are then your better off without them. It's going to be sad but time is honestly a great healer, and when you see them think something positive about yourself instead of thinking about them. Also spend lots of time doing things you enjoy and seeing friends, gooing out, as then you'll be too busy to be sad and you never know who'll you meet!
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Isn't it funny how we tend to feel stupid when what we should be feeling is anger? You know to trust someone you are married to isn't stupid it's faith. The fact that 2 people did things behind your back doesn't speak poorly of you, it speaks poorly of them. I think the way you feel is normal. You feel lonely because you are I asume right now alone. You are sad because endings are sad and of course you feel betrayed, a year isn't much time at all it only feels that way when your in pain. You will get over it in time and when you start to find your own life. But take your time. Find things for you, don't think you need someone else to fill the space. Eventually you will, if you want to, find someone again, probably about the time one of those two are cheating on the other one. And when all else fails remember like the Bible says, This too shall pass.
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We never really forget experiences that we go through... especially the bad ones. Being betrayed by close friends or significant others is a horrible feeling and one that we will probably never get over entirely. All you can do is have faith in the fact that you'll find someone that wouldn't do that to you and surround yourself with the trusting and faithful people you have in your life. Sometimes weeding out the bad ones hurts a little more than we'd like.
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i don't really consider that cheating if you and him are no longer together, if your saying he did that after you split. Whether you feel sad and lonely thats a normal thing but stupid i think not. Just meet to people to become friends with ignore those two. Let the past be past you know. Even if you lose 1 or 2 people you'll always meet more later on.
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Let bygones be bygones. Don't keep looking in the rear view mirror when you drive. You'll only hurt yourself.
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*Don't* feel stupid!! You broke up with him for a reason and *then* find out he's a cheater!?! Now "he" is *her* problem. Though having 2 important people removed from your life is bittersweet nonetheless. Are you able to be there for her when she come a knockin' to commiserate over their breakup?
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I understand why you feel this way, but try not to. We go through things in life to prepare us for something else. Have confidence in yourself and that life will put you where you are supposed to be. Be glad that they have found each other, because you will find the person you are supposed to be with as well. Enjoy every minute of this precious life. :)
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its ok to feel like that. takes time. just remember what a bad person he is and that you found out before you married.
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