Sounds like he wants his cake and wants to eat it too,

He's indecisive. Try to work out the differences that made you break up in the first place. If you solve those problems, he will probably break up with his gf and go back to you.

I'm going through the same thing right now & believe me it is so confusing when you still love that person. There actions make you feel like you are breaking up over & over again. About a mth ago my ex started calling me at which time I decided to ignore his calls & that made him call me continuously. He even contacted my daughter to see what I was up to. He then changed jobs & called me to give me his new cell & work #'s-why he thought I wanted them, I don't know. He then called me last night & said he wanted to come over because he misses me but, he is still involved with a married woman. He led me to believe that he was no longer with her & I believed him because he has been so consistant with trying to contact me. Big mistake-he is still with her according to his nephew. I have no clue why these guys continue to treat us like that other than possibly they have such low self-esteem that they need to know that their is all these woman out there wanting them so they refuse to let us go & move on. If your ex is not acting on what he says then I would be very cautious if I were you because actions do speak louder than words. I know you probably have hopes that he really means what he says to you but, I would keep my distance for now & tell him he cannot see you if he is with her. If he sences that you are willing to hang with him on his terms he will continue to play mind games with you just because he can. I don't mean to hurt you but, if he really meant what he is saying to you she would not be in his life anymore-he would be with you trying to get back to the way things were. Don't be foolish like I was by believing in him because that is why my ex lies to me about being with her. He saw that I backed off & he couldn't deal with the fact that I might not love him anymore & might be moving on. You deserve better than he is giving you at this time so if I were you I would demand that if he continues to see the other girl you don't want to spend time with him. If he truely loves you he will get rid of her-don't give him the opportunity to do to you what my ex is doing to me. Believe me they can be quite convincing especially if he is telling you exactly what you want to hear. Be strong & demand respect. Also, it may be hard for you to think about her but, he is basically cheating on her when he is with you & that is really not fair to her either. With my ex-she is married cheating on her husband so as far as I'm concerned she is getting what she deserves. I wish you good luck!

im going through this also girl! except my situation is a little more difficult when we broke up he went back to his ex and now she is pregnant, he tells me he wants to be with me but dont know how to leave her without hurting her b/c of the baby. we have plans to move in together in january if he dont make a move by then i told him to just work it out with her. i love him so much and we are like best friends together everyday, im so confused too!!