Break up with him. No one deserves to be called those belittling, degrading names. If necessary, then the seek the help of a local women's shelter. These can be found in the Yellow Pages of your local phonebook, just look under "women's shelters." If he threatens you, then when you're in a safe, PUBLIC place, then call the police and file charges against him. I hope this helps & good luck with your relationship because anyone who's belitting and degrading you and/or is controlling you, has serious anger management problems & self-esteem issues. Bottom line: Get out of the relationship and find someone else because NOT all men act this way and you deserve much better! Good luck!

well it's ovious he does NOT repeat NOT love you thats all there is baby

NEVER, and I repeat NEVER stay with a man that calls you names. Even if he doesnt get physical. Verbal abuse is just as bad in my opinion. I am a male, 53 years old, and I think a man that abuses or lord's over women in a controling manner is as low as a human being can go. He is controlling you because he cant control anything else in his life. You dont need it, girl. Run as fast as you can and dont ever look back.

Just like everyone here has said, this is a bad relationship. Your partner is immature and is/was treating you are his possession. Nobody can truly say if he loves you or not, but what we can all say is that his behaviour is not that of a healthy, loving, caring and positive relationship. (Auntie Em's response is fantastic.) Break up with him. Best of wishes.

You have to stand up for yourself. I know its hard to hear when you're involved in a relationship and want to sacrifice for your boyfriend, but its imperative he treats you with respect. You have to try to work it out with him, use communication and explain how you are not happy with what is going on, and work on a constructive solution to fix the problems together. If he is not interested in working with you, dump him, you deserve better.

Respect and love come hand in hand. You shouldn't have one without the other. Obviously he doesn't respect you and if he doesn't respect you then he can't love you the way you need to be loved. No one deserves to be treated like that. There are way too many guys out there who are willing to treat you like a princess for you to be wasting your time with someone who can't even appreciate you.

He has no respect for himself,or for you- Get out and leave no footprint's -- You deserve alot more respect than that -- Your first step was asking your question !! Good - Luck -- Pattijo

What should you do? Well, you said you know you don't want to keep going on 'this way', then don't. When he threatens to break up, show him to the door, open it..as it slams shut on his worthless butt, lock it.

You already know what to do.

OH MY GOD!!! COME ON ARE YOU FOR REAL? WHY WOULD YOU LET THIS GUY CALL YOU ANY NAMES AT ALL? WE WOMEN TODAY DON'T LIVE IN THAT WORLD ,YOU ARE A FREE HUMAN BEING HE DOES NOT OWN YOU OR ANY ONE ELESE FOR THAT MATTER. JUST LEAVE AND STOP WHING ABOUT IT MOVE ON AND PLEASE DONT DATE AFTER THIS TILL YOU GET SOME HELP ON WHY YOU CHOOSE THIS KIND OF HUMAN GARBAGE FOR A LOVER.REMEMBER LOVE THE REAL KIND DOESNT HURT==========!

Coming from someone that's been in a controlling relationship...get out!!! They don't change. I stayed with one for almost 6 years. It was always ME that had to change (according to him). HA! It was the best decision I ever made (leaving). I was a nervous wreck living with him, in deep depression. Be prepared for some stalking at first though. The controlling men hate to have their power taken away.

Get away while you can, you obviously don't like the way he treats you so leave him.

I don't think this can be resolved. Leave him now- this is how domestic abuse starts.

Let him break up with you. He's not worth your love or your time. It's clear he does not love you, but is just using you. Let him break up with you and tell him there is no way back. Once he does it, the relationship is over. Then go out and find a better man to love.

Well...why do you love him?

you need to leave, he isn't going to change and he is being controlling, that is normally a precursor to abuse. it can already be considered psychological abuse. do yourself a favor and leave him before things get more complicated. good luck.

i dont get it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 IF YOUR POSTING IN THIS CATEGORY MOST OF THE TIME YOU SHOULD KNOW WHAT TO DO, AND THATS END IT... NOT ASK THE AB COMMUNITY!!!

I am in a similar situation except I'm married. And I posted a similar question. Someone posted an answer "DTMFA". You should look that up. And follow the advice before you've committed yourself further.

First you should leave and stay with him prooves you have no respect or self esteem for your self. You need to leave and get some self -respect. You dont let no man call you out your name. Let him go work on yourself and find someone that will really respect you for woh you are .

Break off with him now, and get some help.

I would say you should read the questions and answers to the following, and read the poem: Are women who continually date men who are abusive, or put up with abuse, or make excuses for the guy, naive? Can they really not see the signs or just don't know what to do? Or do they think it's "love"? - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3047295 Signs of abuse, even early on - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2872392 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3766947 (controllers) Signs of abuse, and what to do - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3384385 Would you stay with a guy that dont treat you right just becouse you love him? - (Mostly assuming abuse:) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5438372 See poem, and below, also. (Search for "abusive relationship".) Just to make you think about abuse: A poem © 1992 by Paulette Kelly I Got Flowers Today I got flowers today. It wasn’t my birthday or any special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn’t mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn’t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn’t believe it was real. I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today, and it wasn’t Mother’s Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I’m afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today. **

If you stay with him you're reinforcing his belief that he owns you and that you are his bitch. Get out of that relationship NOW.

No way, calling you names now has already crossed your line a slap is nothing after this. You have to leave him, I left someone who called me names I was heartbroken but you know I really hate what they did to me now and there is hell no way anyone will do that to me again. Listen to all of the advice given on this site about abusers not changing only getting worse it is true !!

I don't see how you can love him. He sounds like a cross between a monster and an idiot. Wouldn't you rather drop this guy and find a man who is kind, loving, considerate, giving, sharing, and fun to be around? I could see how you could love a man like that, but not the guy you just described! The next time he threatens to break up, tell him "that sounds like a good idea - bye!!"

I can see through that he is controlling you now and i do know what will happen down the road.and he must be knowing your weak points and he is using you and taking the advantage of you.

inform him where the door is and that you are grown and he is not you father or your keeper. You can find another man that trusts you and respects you. Control is an insecurity, not a form of love and the next time he calls you out of your name (bitch) show him what a true bitch can do. "ANYTHING SHE WANTS" on your was out. Do not let anyone control you.

WALK AWAY you are a human being not a peice of trash. I am disabled and eventually got up enough courage to take my daughters and run from violent ex husband and was the best move I made. Unfortunatly it left me with a few problems, and now am having difficulties trusting the new man I am with.

Kick his ... into touch. He's an abusive controlling ....... and unless you want to be his slave get the hell out of there. this is not love. it's conditioning. It systematically destroys your sense of self worth and leaves you totally dependent on him for everything - physical and emotional.

Been there, done that! Get out NOW! Before there are babies and it gets physical.

comon thats insane thats controlling and calling names aint nice i wouldnt call my girl with such names like that you are not a pretty little peice of object he could possess

leave him at once, pack your bags and go somewhere safe! he is being very abusive. he has absolutely no right to threaten you or demand that you do this or you do that. just because you love him is not a reason to stay. you are paying a huge, huge price to stay, your dignity and self-respect. he doesn't deserve your love, not one ounce of it! repeat : this man is very, very abusive towards you! you do NOT warrent any, any of this abuse NO MATTERWHAT!!! You are NOT his 'bitch' that is an absolutely horrible thing for a man to say to a woman!!! can you see that? that is not love! it is dispecible and disrepectful!

Sorry, but you've totally wasted three years of your life. The boyfriend is a control freak. Do NOT allow him to choreograph your every movement. He has no respect for you ... calling you a nasty name! ...... yet you stay with him because of "love"!! It is a one-sided affair. Show Mr. Wonderful the door and don't let it hit him on his way out. Have some respect for yourself! Start looking for a real man who will work to provide a home and stability of life for you. Don't settle for less! Good luck and GOD bless!

slap that dude in the face... tell him ur better than him... an bounce!

GIRL GET OUT OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP. THIS IS AN ABUSED RELATIONSHIP. EMOTIONAL AND EVERYTHING. DONT LET THIS GO ON. YOUR GOING TO BE HURT AT THE END. HE DON'T CARE WHAT YOU SAY OR DO TO SATISFIED HIM. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IS LOVE. LOVE SHOULD NOT HAVE WHAT YOU SAID. BECAUSE I WAS IN A ABUSED RELATIONSHIP TOO. I WAS KICK,PUNCH,HOLD DOWN, AND EVERYTHING. HE CALLS ME EVERY NAME IN THE DICTIONARY. AND YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE BETTER OFF ALONE WITHOUT HIM.

End it! If he loved you he would not treat you like he is. You're in love with the person you thought he was but people change and your not in love with him anymore. It wont get better; only worse. Break up with him before it gets any worse.

we'll i say brak up with him

You should accept that your body is his property and you should obey him.

life wont get better with him let him go...my friend just got her back broke by her boyfriend and she wont leave him or press charges..some girls end up dead..and look at rihanna standing up for what has happened in her life by chris brown..you have a choice find a better life believe in yourself or possibly end up 6ft under and where is his love than..you are the only one who can make the chose to run and find yourself and learn you deserve to be treated better..what happens if you have a child being abused would you do something about it or sit and wait to see what happens...there is always someone better waiting for you if you give them the chance to find you also get into some counseling for battered and abused stop the violence.

first of all he next time he says I'll break up with u because you dont want to do what he says let him and see what happens. if he doesnt come back then he doesnt love you like you love him. he sounds controlling and demanding and you know it shouldnt be that way. not letting him control you is the first step if you want to make this work. he absolutly doesnt respect you if he calls you a bitch so that has to change as well. hes been demanding all this time and now its your turn to set things straight or build up your strength and leave. i guarantee someone is out there more suited for u if it doesnt work.