Keep yourself occupied so you will stop thinking about him. Try to go to sleep early -- I find that late nights are when I do most of my obsessing about my ex-boyfriends. Everyday, schedule to meet one of your friends for a walk and/or for lunch/coffee. Go to the bookstore or library and find a really good book -- get engrossed in it. I recommend Eat,Pray,Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. It's about a year she spent traveling after her divorce...in Italy (eat), India (pray/meditation) and Indonesia (love). Offer friends to help them finish projects (we all need help with something).

It seems the advice is often to get busy and that is so difficult when you are depressed. I'm with you on the hurt right now as I am going through it too with a really severe depression. What we want to feel better - be loved again, taken back, appreciated, and all - isn't happening. The depression can get really bad and it can affect the way you behave, your ability to do anything including work. Try to go through the motions of a normal schedule even though it feels empty. It really gets messy if you don't leave him alone because it could make him act really badly to get you to let him go. I know!

Only time.

Hurt like a Bitch is an undestatement!!! It's been a year later and i still have feelings for my ex (we work together so I have to see him daily...and listen to people say oh you all are meant to be and the wedding will still happen...the new girlfriend means nothing...etc, etc...). The paine is still there some, but you have to move on with life. Slowly but surely time heals a broken heart and you have to keep yourself busy in the meantime to allow time to do it's work... It will get easier and better, but you have to decide you will let it get better if not you will spend forever hurting. The scare will never leave b/c true love is something that will never die, but the pain will subside and you will be able to love again and even better the next time. But PLEASE leave him alone!!! Especially while youa re too emotional b/c it will only make things worse b/t the two of you and you will not think rationally. It will only push him further from you (trust me once again this is from experience!). Just try to keep yourself busy and work on improving you and if the time ever comes around and you two get to talk it will be the right time and with the right emotions, but for now LEAVE HIM ALONE!!! I know it's hard, but it's possible. Find something to do, call up some friends, learn and explore yourself and things you like. This is the time for you to get to know you all over again.

girl dont worry because you are not alone. Im going through the worst depression of my life all because I was used as an object just to make my ex go back with his ex. I get to see him with her, I see him happy every time he walks by college, he won't even stare at me, he was my first love, I gave myself completely to him.. soul and mind and worst of all we were engaged and he left me from night to morning with out an explanation just to be with her. I know it's hard and it will take time for your heart to mend but I am sure that keeping your mind busy will only be a temporary escape. Love yourself, treat yourself to something nice, show him you are way better than what he will ever be... and MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL DONT CALL HIM or show him you are sad because that give men greed. Anyways take care girl

when a woman shuts any man down, other men see it and get intimidated. but when the cute guy in the expensive suit sees me talking to a less attractive man, the ex will think he has a chance. since men welcome the opportunity to compete and win, he'll head over as soon as the other guy leaves.