If you could ensure that your children never have one experience that you have had, what would it be?
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Galeanda
ANSWERS: 100
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Fear. Of anything.
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One thing that I would strongly like for my child to not experiance is the hardships of watching your parents divorce. That or smoking cigarettes Jason
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The experience that most parents don't want their child to have is probably getting picked on a bully,or to get bad grades in school like they did.
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Dealing with a parents drug habit,
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live in poverty.
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Divorce
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I will never have children, but I would not want them to know the loss of a child.
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the death of a sibling, incarceration of a parent, obesity, drug habit, riding the school bus
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rape. I hope they never know what that feels like.
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Hearing a car bomb go off just round the corner.
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Being teased at school.
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Losing a child.
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Fearing talking to either of their parents about important things.
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Addiction.
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seeing father go off to war & not knowing when/if he will come home
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I would never want my kids to feel the hurt that my parents have recently done to me...and thank god I will never do to them what has been done to me!
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Growing up in a broken home.
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divorce
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A time in their lives when they had to struggle with sever depression.
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Growing up with an alcholic father,and the terrible violent arguments that occured between my parents because of my father's drinking.
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Death of a parent
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Yes, that they don't have children like(some) of my children, who did not turn out so good, but it is my fault; I was too good to them - rich dad provided everything++, did not watch closely enough, was absorbed in his own career/work, and, hence, they grew up not appreciating things and not learning how to live on their own in the real world.
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Getting addicted to drugs. I have told my 15 y.o son about my experience but he has decided to take that path anyway. He is looking at 6 months in juvy right now & I was HOPING that sharign my experience w/ him would have made him think before he acts but it hasn't. I mean DAMN! Even I knew better than to pull this crap @ 15 because I had the fear of my parents kickign my ass. We have our hands tied as parents & that is what is screwing them up. As for my daughter, I hope she gets into sports & stays away from the boys!! HAHA. I had my son when i was 18 & I dont want her to go thru raising a child alone because the dad is a dead-beat. Her father (my hubby) is still around so HOPEFULLY she won't do that. Kids need both parents around to be well grounded. Just my opinion.
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acne.. teased..bullied.. cheated on..
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Getting shot, or stabbed...both suck and I don't want any children I may have going thru either of those things...
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the wasabe experience ....
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can it be something i want them to have that i did not?
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circumcision
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Rape. It was definately the WORST day of my entire life. And I was only 8. If they had to live with the same pain as I do, I would die.
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rape, abuse or bullying. wouldnt want him to go through any of those things like i have.
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Living with O.C.D
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to have an obsessional control freak as a partner
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Welfare
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Child abuse in any way, shape or form.
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Hard Times/Cold dysfunctional family
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liver and onions
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Sorry Galeanda, but my comment didn't post. To make a long story short, they found my Grandmother behind the home sitting on a dirt pile that was created from the excavation for an addition to the hospital. It was a miracle that she didn't fall in the hole. She was admitted to hospital with severe frost bite.As bad as it was, it could have been a lot worse.After that episode, she was fitted with a bracelet that would alert the staff if she left the building. Fortunatly, it never happened again.Glad you found a good facility. If you are satisfied with the care she receives, it makes life better for all concerned.:)
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make sure they wouldnt be forced to grow up too fast.. enjot their childhood with lots of love
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be bullied or encounter racist attacks.
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My husband and I don't want to have any children. However, for the purpose of this question, I will assume we do. I would want to ensure that my children never had to deal with child molestation, or an alcoholic and abusive father. Yes, I know it's two things, but I couldn't choose between the two. :)
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I wouldnt want them to feel they couldnt talk to me about anything unlike me and my Mum.
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Not having an abusive mother would be nice.
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Watching a parent slowly succumb to Alzheimer's. It runs in my dad's family and he is now in a nursing home. My mom goes every day to visit and she's wearing herself out - she's 83.
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Witnessing/living through the assassination of a great leader! :( Happy Tuesday, Galeanda! :) ((hugs))
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Getting Molested. I was a little girl when about 5 or 6 big boys (like 15 or so) held me down and took turns with me. You can not even comprehend how horrible it is being held down and unable to move and gravel being ground into your head. I really do believe this had a profound and negative effect on me and has left scars on my spirit forever. It ruined my self image and affected my relationships with men. I am a recovering alcoholic. It damages your soul that even I don't understand. So whenever I see a little girl, I say a prayer for her that this never, never happens to her. I am much better now, but I'm 53 and it has taken many, many years.
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Being beaten to crap day after day, or depression.
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Missing the last episode of Cities of Gold.
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The heartbreak of losing everyone they love. But, I would gladly suffer everything I have ever experienced and more, if I could save them from the terrible things that they have already experienced, and continue experiencing. They were molested by their father and then ripped away from everyone they ever knew and dumped into the state system unnessecarilly. I would do anything to take that away.
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That they never see their parents get old and die.
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That they lose a child of their own.
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Combat.
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Being molested.
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Bullying. I got Bullied From 8-15. I always thought of killing myself when I was younger. I never want my kids to suffer the same thing ever.
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Having to live in group homes, and being constantly switched form one to another, and grow up thinking they're not loved, or worth much of anything.
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Having a family member kidnapped and murdered. Mass Murder In Houston.....
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have sex
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I would have to say growing up being abused by evil step fathers.
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mental illness abuse
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Being abused and molested.
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i wouldant want my child to get his toung cought in a food liquidiser that was pritty shit it was a hand held one it was off i was on the phone and saw a piece of appel stuck in between the ridig x shaped blades i licked it and while doing so turned it on awahh..... there was a lot of blood i was 13
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Mental abuse, it is a very hard thing to be an adult child of toxic parents.
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There's a couple of things. 1.) Having to deal with a parent with cancer. I know from personal experience, and I think it definetly had a negative effect on my personality. Something as serious as that makes you grow up faster than anybody could ever imagine, I went from 10 years old to about 40 in just a couple of days. 2.)Acne Yet another personal experience... And lastly 3.) Having to worry about whats going to happen to you (as a family.) This is absolutely the worst, children shouldn't have to worry or stress out about this type of thing. Not knowing whats going to happen in any situation is heart-breaking. I hate to say it but this is another personal experience also, and it angered me as a child that my parents didn't do enough to make me feel like I was in a safe, secure environment.
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waking up to see your parents have sex. traumatic. being sexually abused. horrible
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happy for u Galeanda! i was 10, dint know a thing about sex. heard my mom moan, thought my dad was hurting her. lay there trembling...
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Being trapped on the second floor of my home while flood waters filled the first floor and surrounded the house. I was terrified!
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Being hit by a truck and spending over 12 hours in the hospital waiting for the doctors to get through doing tests and set my arm.
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To bear a child with a man you never loved, thereby insuring he will be in your life for years to come. (Also applies to my son who won't "bear" anything, but knows I would kick his ass if he didn't step up to the plate.)
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Experiencing the death of a parent, before adulthood. How do you explain death to a child? Too this day, I do not attend funerals, if I can help it.
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the death of their child.
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Sexual abuse.
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wow. Awesome question! I would have to say that i never want my children to feel that they cannot depend on me (family) when all else fails or starts falling apart around them.
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Being in a severe car crash ... hit broad side by a drunk driver ... watching 3 friends die ... and struggling for 16 months to get out of a wheelchair by miraculously healing some spinal nerve damage and crushed hips.
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Sharing a bedroom with my two brothers!
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To be beaten, would have to be my major thing. I would never want my child to feel like i did growing up. My sister is bipolar and mentally challenged. I got the shit beaten out of me until the day she left. I would hate to have to see someone go through that again. I would also have to say to have alcoholic parents. My father had to deal with that. And no one should ever have that. But i want to say one thing. America if fucked up with citizins with mental illness. The only way my sister got out of my house at the age of 20 was because we pressed charges on her. To be ten years old and have sizzors thrown into your back. Not Fun.
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To be physically abused by their father, thankfully I have complete control and confidence that this will never happen.
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dealing with too much rejection!
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sexual abuse
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Divorce by far. Children are the ones who suffer. They often blame themselves. Many times one of the parents just disappear. One in two marriages end in divorce in America. Then we want to blame out teenagers for the wya they act out. STOP IT! STOP IT!
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That would be... abuse, by family and significant others. All forms of abuse, mental, physical, emotional, etc. It really does affect how one lives.
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...domestic violence and feeling alone.
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A zombie apocalypse. That would suck.
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getting asulted atall let allone the way i did oh an never seeing parents take drugs n luk afta dem ohoh an violence!
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Being sexually molested as a child by a relative
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Growing up without a father.
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I think divorce, my parents divorced when I was young and I have spent most of my life without my dad so I do not really know what 'dad' is or means, it is a word without any emotion linked to it. It is only now that I have my own kids that when I see then playing with their dad that I realize the importance of a father in a child's life.
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Being Abandoned, and not protected.
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Sexual abuse or beat by a spouse.
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Positive encouragement. I love my parents but I never had postive encouragement, rather being putting down. We make sure our daughter has enough (I am not talking about over-encouragement).
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I was born sick my mother had to quite her 15 year job to take care of me if i could i would make a child healthy
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After having knocked out my two-front teeth, having to endure each christmas season with SOME class singing, "All I want for christmas is my two front teeth"--and having everyone stare at ME!!!!
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a death of a friend or relative.
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Speaking as an AFRICAN-AMERICAN male--having a SON who also sucked at playing basketball!!!
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learn how to masturbate at age 8 (female it still feels good at a young age in girls) (but boys no erection no pleasure haha)
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That's already done- I made sure I married the man that would be a tremendously wonderful father to them and would be responsible and dependable.
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Depression and the loss of a loved one.
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To be sexually abused by a relative.
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Having Anorexia. Those were the the most miserable, frightening and lonely years of my life,It'd break my heart if my daughter-or any other children i have in the future were to go through that.
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Being dragged into religious cults and being made to feel that all you are is a baby machine and that your life, soul, health and happiness don't matter.
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Though I too was a victim of molestation (5yrs.-16yrs), extreme physical and mental abuse as a child, honestly, I never want my children to feel the feeling of being unloved. I was able to get over all the tangable abuse. Because I was adopted and lived through that childhood it cemented the idea I was unloved...definitly not feeling loved is the only thing that really hurts and really haunts to me this day.
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Don't get into any gangs and don't do drugs, once your in the gang it is hard to get out of it
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