5 mths ago, my M-in-law flat ironed my then 8 mth old SON's hair when he visited her w/ his Dad. Why? She was bored. My son is 1/2 Dominican 1/2 black w/ soft curly hair. I called her and told her Not to ever touch any of my kids hair again. Was I wrong?
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Jill
ANSWERS: 5
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Hell no you weren't in the wrong. It's your kids so you make the decisions, not her.
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No, you aren't wrong. Your son is your responsibility and your mother-in-law should have had the presence of mind to get your approval before altering the appearance of your child. Hopefully this hasn't hurt family relations, though. In the long run, this is a fairly minor incident. I would politely but firmly let her know that in the future she needs to ask before undertaking such things.
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Heck no you're not wrong. Anyone even THINKING about putting a heated appliance that close to a baby's skin needs their face slapped, IMHO.
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You couldn't be more right! Flat ironing an 8 month old's hair is inexcusable even if you're the mother. Changing a child's hair without the mother's permission regardless of the age or what you do to it is completely unacceptable. My sisters-in-law are the dangerous ones in my family (my MIL is very respectful of our wishes) and have had to be told if they do ANYTHING to her hair beyond wash it or put it up - no hairspray - they will not be allowed to spend unsupervised time with her for a year. Also, no nail painting, no makeup and nothing else that is inappropriate for a toddler. They were pretty mad, but the day I caught them considering taking her for a haircut was the day they lost the opportunity to make any choices for her like that.
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In no way are you wrong. That is your child and decisons like changing his hair should be brought to your attetion before hand so you can give your approval or unapproval. On another note....why the hell would she use a flat iron on a baby? Babies are wiggly and they grab things (like flat iron cords) he could have been burned if he moved wrong or grabbed a cord that look interesting that came into his line of view. IMO your MIL was very neglectful of this....no matter how careful she thought she was being.
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