Im 20, been in a very stable relationship for 6 years now. We both DESPERATELY want a baby but am i too young?
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telzie
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If that is what you want, go for it! However, let me just tell you that I was 23 when I had my son and to be honest with you...I really wish I would have waited. I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world but, it feels like my freedom has been taken from me. Your life will change to revolve around that baby. It is a big adjustment and you are only 20 years old. I would suggest waiting but, if you know in your heart that you are ready for a baby, go for it. Good luck to you!
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Hi, You may be, but maybe your not. Age in this situation, in my opinion, does not matter. It's how you feel about who you are. Children change everything. It's not a bad thing, but it's a change and it's drastic. Are you ready and is your partner ready for that change. Are you ready to stop traveling, going out, partying for the next years? Are you ready for the added stress that a child will bring to the equation? Look at how both your lives will change with a child and decide if you're ready for that change. Remember, children are expensive, so there will also be a financial strain. If you can say that you and your partner are ready for all of this, well then you're not too young!
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Thanks for your reply. But with regards to not being able to go out and have a social life, well i havent ever really had one. I have mates come over my place as me and my partner have been living together for a year now. But im not the sort of 20 year old who goes out clubbing as i dont even drink lol. Its just hard as i dont want people to judge me as a young stupid girl. I really want this and know that a babys for life and not just for christmas, but the thought of giving birth terrifies me.
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Only you really know whether you're ready for a child. Examine your capacity and desires. Do you want a baby because you want love or because you're ready to sacrifice all your time and energy to another living thing? Do you feel you're equipped with the knowledge and experience you'd like to pass on to a child? Are you ready to spend the next twenty years of your life giving up time, friends, opportunities and personal luxuries for a child? If your answers to these questions satisfy you, then you may well be ready to bring a child into the world. Keep in mind that raising a child through the age of 17 will cost about $180,000...after all your other living expenses. If you decide to have a child, good luck in your efforts.
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Thanks everyone. I think that waiting atleast another year isn't going to do me any harm. I just wish the craving for a child would go away but it won't, My problem is i worry about what other people think too much. But i am willing to give up everything for a baby. x x
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No, you are not too young. But, why not get married and give your child the benefit of having both married parents, under one roof? A child needs both parents for guidance.
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Thanks for your answer. Even though i'm only 20 i know that my future is with my partner and i'm so happy to find someone at such a young age who loves me the way my partner does. But to answer your question i always picture my baby walking down the isle beside me. So i think the marriage would come after.
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I was married at 19 and had my first baby at 20, some people are just ready. Go for it!!!
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Actually, I really wanted a baby. I am 22 yrs old and me my now ex bf have tried for about 8 mo and nothing.. God knows BEST! I used to cry and pray and wonder why. Why me? Why can't I conceive? Only He (God) knew it wouldn't last and I thank Him everyday that I didn't get pregnant. I could be like a lot of the young woman out here strugglying from paycheck to paycheck, dealing with "the baby daddy", the baby, and keeping myself together. DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA. Make sure you realize what your getting yourself into. Once you have it theres no turning back. You will never be single again- EVER. And although babies are wonderful blessings, you have to be in the right position to receive it as one, ie: financially, spiritually, mentally, physically. If not, you won't see it as a blessing, it'll be a burden instead. Don't live in fantasy land, because a fantasy is not a reality. I can guarantee you 8 out of 10 young mothers will tell it's hard and it's not at all what they imagined. I just thank God I didn't have to go through that to realize it.
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Well do you think youre too young? We're not thinking about having your baby so the choice rests with you. Think about it long and hard. You will be bringing a child into the world someone that needs constant love and attention
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yes, get a career, travel the world, get married after you've done those things then have your baby
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