Is your relationship good in all other areas? It seems if you have a good marriage otherwise, you should be able to talk to him about your bedroom lives. I definetely wouldn't put it off too long, if he does experiment, it could be very dangerous for you. There are too many diseases that don't go away. You have to protect yourself if he isn't considerate enough to talk to you about these things.

I would suggest talking to him. There are other possibilities too, and it may be something you can help him with... or something he can help you understand. In any case, the only thing you can really do is go talk to him, and see what he says. It's much better than talking about him to other people.

Perhaps I can help. My husband and I have been married for 15mths now. It all started making a turn for the worst about 6mths into our marriage. I did not feel attractive. Something felt like it was missing. I felt like more of a friend to my husband than a lover -- and I felt that he was hiding something from me. (You know how you get that 'feeling' but you just don't know what it is?) So I started searching in his computer. I found him registered on 3 gay dating sites. On one he said he wanted to perform oral. One day I just couldn't take it anymore and I just blew up and started saying he was gay! He denied everything at first. Lies after lies -- maybe it was a hacker and so on. And then I told him he did it and I have proof. He said he was curious and that is why he did it. (We have since separated and he blames me and says that I make it difficult for him to love me.) To make a long story short-- if something deep inside is telling you he is -- then odds are he is -- but be kind and get solid proof before accusing him. I feel like this is worse than being cheated on by my husband with a woman! I am going to get std tested!

Speaking as a man who was in a relationship with a woman for 20+ years. I am gay and have known this since before my ex-wife and I met. At first I thought it was just curiosity. But the feeling of being attracted to men got stronger and stronger. My ex-wife knew the whole time. We are divorced and she has a new boyfriend. We are good friends. If he is curious, there is something that is doing this to him, and it's not you. He can't help who he is attracted to. Talk to him. I used to deny it, and it only made things worse. He may be bi. you'll never know without talking about it. Cummunication. That's the key.

How old is your husband? Is he in good health?