ANSWERS: 100
  • Sure. Of course, I would make sure nothing sexual would be taking place.
  • It would depend on circumstance. If I was given adequate notice, then I wouldn't have a problem with it.
  • No, 14 is too young for any kind of sexual relationship. If it was a boy you would say NO, why is it ok if it is a girl.
  • no way in hell. It wouldn't fly if it was a boy either, but especially helping expose a confused young girl to lesbianism cannot be healthy. I'd get her some counseling as well.
  • No way.
  • No WAY!!
  • No.. irregardless of the sex of her romantic interest.. fourteen is TOO young to be having sleep overs in the parent's house with a person she is interested in. You are the parent, she is the child.. no matter how grown up she may seem or look.. 14 is young. You have to keep the safety and stability in her home enviorment as her parent and look after her best interests. The only romance that should be going on in that house should be YOUR business.. a 14 yr old should have no business like that in their home with a parent's consent... that is why we snuck out to do such business! haha.. keep the rules and she will huff and puff I am sure.. but she will get over it.. This five minute love interest will be long gone one day or who knows..they may be together for years but keep her home her little place she knows no one can touch but her.. she will need it in times of heartache and stress.. to know her home is stable.
  • NO WAY!!! Whould you let a boy spend the night....I think not. =)
  • How did you know that was happening? In my experience, parents are the last to know about this stuff.
  • not in a million years. Just like if she wanted a boyfriend to spend the night. It isn't going to happen on my watch.
  • Absolutely not.
  • No. I wouldn't allow her boyfriend to spend the night, clearly I am not going to change policy just because she's dating a girl.
  • That depends, I know as a teenage girl myself we always joke about those kind of things. If she's serious, no. Would you let a boyfriend sleep over? I'm sure not. I know since I'm pretty sure parents always assume their children are straight until they hear otherwise, you assumed your daughter was interested in men. Well as hard as it may be, you will have to treat this situation exactly as you would a boyfriend really, because whatever it is it's important to your daughter and this is a romantic relationship whether it's with a man or a woman. So try your best to be understanding, and think of this as a relationship, not something odd or different. And keep asking questions, because I'm sure if you use advice from others, your daughter will benefit.
  • Absolutely not...that would be the same as letting a boyfriend sleep over.
  • Hell no... I wouldn't let my other daughter's 14 y/o boyfriend spend the night, either.
  • Not on her life. For one thing I'd put on stop the dating thing as soon as I knew about it. 14 is too young to be dating. As for the sleep over I don't care if it's a girl, a boy, or a monkey. The person my child is dating is not spending the night.
  • Nope. And I wouldn't let my son's girlfriend spend the night either.
  • Uhhh. well, a relationship is a relatioship and if you wouldn't let a boy spend the night, you shouldn't let a girl... in that situation. That is just asking for trouble. Plus... she is fourteen! You letting her stay the night is just encouraging her that is is okay at that age... Did you let her spend the night?
  • Hell no! I would probably laugh in her face, say good try, and send her home.
  • No. Because, no one that age should be in any sort of relationship of a sexual nature be it heterosexual, homosexual or otherwise. Two people that age that profess those feelings need a dark room and a closed door like a hole in the head.
  • No way. Definitely not. There is no way on earth I'd let my daughter's BOYFRIEND spend the night, so WHY would that be any different for a GIRLFRIEND? Same rules. I will not be the mom who lets her kids have sex in her house.
  • Absolutely not.
  • i agree but i do not agree...That would be like letting a boy spend the night, now we wouldnt' want that especially at 14 y/o. and another thing. it is okay for the experiment and figure out who they are. but i do not agree with it, but she still is your child and i would treat their relationship like you wouil di fyour daughters g/f was her bf. d you understand? there is no differenence, feelings are feelings.
  • We think that if the 14 year old daughter's friend was going to spend the night, we would let her but make two different places to sleep. We would also check on them often. If you really are worried don't let her stay over. If it were a boyfriend, we wouldn't let him stay because of the pregnancy issue and she could be pressured into things she's not ready for at 14. As it's a girl, we would not be too worried about the lesbian relationship as you can't get pregnant from lesbian sex. 9E
  • Yes, but they would have to sleep in separate locations. I would tell my daughter we would speak further after her g/f left in the morning. I would welcome the g/f as I would any guest.
  • If I was told that I would make sure that they did not sleep in the same room. That would be the same if a boy slept over night. My concern would be not to make it easy for sexual activity.
  • This sounds as if something fishy was going on with her, so yes. When other kids make up outrageous stories to sleepover, usually there's something really wrong. "I'm your daughters gf" sounds like "I don't wanna go home, and I wanna sleep where no man can touch me". Typical not-smart lie from a 14 year old, seems like. I would make sure that she slept alone though, have my kids sleep in one room, and she in another.
  • My mom let me have my GF over at 14. She was just greatful that I would get pregnant or HIV. Of course I have more respect for my home than to do anything like that with my family in the house. When you think of it, they're not just 'in a relationship', theyre also friends. Would you deprive you daughter of having sleepovers because of the chance that she might experiment ? And if your daughter IS a lesbian, thats only a problem for homophobes. You shouldnt try to prevent you daughter from being who she is, or FINDING OUT who she is. My father smoked crack, my mom was a just a lunatic, and I admit I was a little into drugs, but at least my GF's parents accepted mine and her decision.
  • boy or girl-- doesnt make a difference¬
  • um, no
  • Nope. The rule does not change for boys and girls. GFs and/or BFs are not to spend the night.
  • Would you let her bf spend the night? If the answer is no, then the rule should be the same. Even though the risk of pregnancy isn't there, the risk of emotional strain from any sexual relationship always exists.
  • I might be the only one to say this, but just because her parents referred to her friend as a "girl friend" DOES NOT mean that she is bi. My mom refers to our friends that are girls as "girl friends". Does that make me bi? No. Does that mean I'm in a relationship with my friends that are girls? No. Anyway, if the girl really was her girlfriend, then no. I don't think I would let her spend the night.
  • personally, i would... only if its 2 girls... that way my daughter (if i had one) wouldnt get pregnant... if it was a guy and a girl, i'd say F*CK NO! lol...
  • Absolutely not. Get to know her better and learn if you can trust her before even considering it.
  • yes, my daughter is 14, and she is lesbian. i let her gf spend the night all the time, b/c i trust my daughter. my daughter and her gf have been freinds since they were 2, so theyre still great friends, not just romanticly involved. also, if they want to have sex i wouldnt care, as long as theyre safe and no what theyre getting into. its not my decision. i would do the same even if it was my daughters bf.
  • I would teach her about right and wrong, consequences and what her behavior would lead to. But I guess I would be more concerned if it was a 14-year-old boy spending the night for more than one reason. Or, I would bring my two russian cousins to keep an eye on her all night.
  • I don't run a flop house ' thats what hotels are for
  • yes i would its there choice which sex they want and you should take it in because you don't want to lose them! and it would be the same as a girlfriend sleeping over and she could be kiding but if she wasnt i would take it in because its all up to her and her future plus kids learn from there mistakes
  • Who cares about the relationship? The fact still remains that this is someone you have never met before. I'd get to know the girl first before letting her spend the night.
  • No, even if she had been joking as I don't think it's something to joke about. It's not the way you speak to an adult. And my child would know that I don't feel relationships are something you play with. It's only for when you are ready to find a mate for life, not for recreational activity.
  • ewwwwwwwwwwwww no that is discusting
  • if i could sleep in the middle of them just so ill be sure they arent fooling around. idk. maybe not. that sounds really complicated
  • I'd send the little tramp home. I'd do the same if her lover was a boy and that's ok too. 14 is 14.
  • heck no !!!!!!!!!!! i would chase her out with my twenty two especially if it was a guy
  • i dnt hav kids but they were prob just winding u up and wats the worst that could happen
  • I personally would take the same appraoch as my mum has with me. I'd let them stay, even in the same room and bed if that was what they wanted, as long as they are safe and know what they're getting into and I'd do the same if it was a boy only I'd make sure that they had birth control. Personally I wouldn't see a problem unless it was my fourteen year old daughters sixteen+ year old girlfriend. And no I'm not some pervert but I'd rather let them do it in a safe, warm environment than sneak about and get caught in a public bathroom/back alley by the cops and/or come home with pneumonia. (And as an eighteen year old myself I know people who have been caught doing it in public and people who've gotten sick from doing it out doors in winter)
  • well if they are foreal in what there saying well no i mean would you let yor daughters boyfriend spend the night its like the same thing if there dating..you know.
  • Well yea i would When i lived there i was allowed to have boys stay over
  • Under discreet observation, why not?
  • If that is what she is going to date then no...My mom didn't let boys stay with me so if I dated a girl it would be no to girl cause the whole point is the sex thing and 14 is to young for that one.
  • WHOA NO. Moving a lil too fast. Give me some time to let it sink in. See you later honey so sorry but we're going out of town tonight.
  • Uhhhh... No, I wouldn't. A 14 year old should not be in any kind of potentially sexual situation no matter the gender she/he prefers. 14 is too young to know better and therefore too young to trust to know better on their own. The possibility of disease is just as high as hetero sex, even if the risk of pregnancy is not. So as a parent of a 15 year old myself. The answer is NO!
  • At 14! Hell no! Girl or boy that's to young to be allowing sleep overs with s/o.
  • No. Not because I don't like lesbians or anyone else, but because they are too damn young to be having sex with ANYbody. I also have a problem with casual sex, though I did participate in it when I was a young girl. I was stupid, to say the very least.
  • naaa I think that's over the top
  • H*ll no!! lol.. She is only 14 years old for crying out loud! That's a baby. She needs to be way older than that. I would never allow my kid's to do something like that. until 30 lol..
  • i would in fact let her stay over, but loving a daughter i would check in on them once every 30-45 minutes, i know my daughter would like this other girl, and i wouldn't mess with her relationship with this girl, if i see them in a sexual activity, i would simply go to the phone and call the other girls parents, explain the situation and do my best to keep my daughters girlfriend to be able to stay that way, i would however lecture them and tell them all about sex or any sexual activity that they had been or seen doing, but if my daughter had liked this girl so much to let her do that, then i would approve of my daughters choice
  • Of course. I would allow then to spend the night together. Anyway what is the worst thing that can happen to them. I believe they will understand if they are of a much mature age but at that age it seems too silly to me.
  • i dont know about that because people say..:would yoy let a boyfriend sleepover?" you can get preg from a bf lol
  • Well, if she's already there, what are you going to do kick her out? I think the thing to do would be to insist the girls sleep in separate rooms, because two people who are in a romantic relationship at age 14 shouldn't be unsupervised for great lengths of time--especially not overnight, regardless of gender. If it turns out the friend was just joking around, well now she'll know the consequences of that kind of joke.
  • heck no i would make that girl leave my house and never come back i wouldn't care if she was dating my son or not if she really liked him then she wouldn't be kissing and with a girl thats trashy kick that girls a** out of your house
  • Only if I would allow my 14 y/o to have boys sleep over. Moot point she will do as she chooses ( and whom to love when she is 18) And I would embrace anyone she brought home as long as they treated her well. Gender has nothing to do with it.
  • I think you have more serious things to talk about with your daughter than just a sleepover.. really...
  • i would treat it the same way as a boyfriend. the same, well obviouslyy not exact same, stuff could go on.
  • Hmm.. talk to her about it. I mean shes only 14 but seriously kids are alot more inteligent than what you think. After the talk then see what you feel then.
  • No, its the same thing as if it was her boyfriend. 14 is too young for that so no.
  • well it depends how you think. i agree that you should probably not let her stay and that you should treat the situation no differently to how you would if the girl were your daughters boyfriend. however, you could let her stsy, but at a certain time, they have to sleep in seperate rooms. on the other hand, if she does stay whats the worst that can happen...she cant get pregnant being with a girl
  • Yes of course, why wouldnt you? I wouldnt let the sleep together of course anymore than i would if they were boy/girl at 14. Unless of course, it appears to be a fantasy in the young girls head and your daughter is not in agreement. Then i would sit her down and have a chat. Whetever she is feeling, be it confused, straight or gay, is totally normal to her. What is often not normal is others response to it
  • At the tender age of 14 they are still experimenting with life and all it has to offer. They think they know it all, just like we did. Being 14 is very confusing, the hormones are starting to rage, peer pressure is adamant and you don't want to do anything that isn't considered "cool". However, that said, no I would not, I didn't let the "boyfriends" sleep over so why would I let the "girlfriends"? You don't only have teenage pregnancy to worry about.
  • I wouldn't allow it only because I never met the girl. I think the only reason my parents won't allow men to sleep over when I was that age was because they were worried about me getting pregnant when I wasn't yet ready.
  • 14 is about the age when sexuality is being determined. If it were I, I would let her stay over. Kids will do what they want with/without your permission. Your daughter may simply be pulling your chain. If you are homophobic, she'll get you.
  • why HELL NO
  • I think it would depend on how well the parent knew their own daughter. If I suspected that one of my child's friends was a homosexual, I think I could deal with it better if I knew where my own child stood in her sexual orientation.
  • No,I'd let her spend time at the house but not sleep over.The same as if it were her boyfriend.Also no time alone in the bedroom & walk through the room from time to time, same as if it were her boyfriend.
  • oh no i dont think i would be able to do that.
  • Nope, not me! Sorry...
  • No even if it was a b/f, i would say thats to young.....
  • Meh, yeah, as long as they kept the door just slightly open. It would be exactly the same if it were her boyfriend.
  • No. Not at all. Forget about it. She's 14 and not going to have her boy friend or girl friend spend the night. Treat that relationship like any others.
  • no way!
  • No way! I also would not let her have her boyfriend sleep over.
  • As long as there's no chance of pregnancy, why the hell not? This is just more Amerikan religious anti-sexual hysteria, where the sight of an exposed nipple during the Superbowl can incite an entire nation into howls of outrage.
  • Hell no, and take that girl to church.
  • Sure. Even if something sexual takes place it's experimenting and all kids do it at that age. Many men and women have had homosexual experiences even if they turn out straight. If they turn out gay then they gain some valuable experience later on. I have nothing against two sexual mature people (no matter what sex they are) experimenting. There's no chance of pregnancy so I don't see the problem.
  • Would I allow a boyfriend to spend the night with my 14year old daughter NO, the same goes for a Girlfriend.
  • in my opion i would let her spend the night. I would keep and eye on them. I would get to know her friend a bit more to see if they are really going out. 14 is a ok age to have a relationship with whoever she wants to be with.
  • Take it from me let her stay. But watch them close and talk to your Daughter. My Daughter had a friend come over the same thing happened and I raised hell and sent her home. Then my daughter told me she was Gay I know now I did not handle things very well. I thought it was a faze teens are going thru these days well its 5 years later and a few girlfriends later and she still says she is gay not that I agree but we are closer than ever and I will support her no matter what she decides I love her unconditionaly. Keep it open so she will talk to you about everything
  • no but its up 2 u aint it dey mite get up 2 sumthing dey shudnt b cara x
  • If she's meaning as a girl friend (friend wise) cause they do joke about that. But other than that, definately not.
  • I would not allow that, simply because you are asking for trouble. They may take advantage of you not caring and do something not nice. I would find out why that was said??
  • if she is serious, treat her like a boyfriend. its the same idea, just not the way you're used to. take it from me, my parents should watch closer, but just make sure to check in on them to make sure nothings happening if she does sleep over.
  • Would you let a boyfriend spend the night?
  • No. None of that in my house. She can do that after she grows up and moves out.
  • not any different than a boy friend staying the night. I wouldn't allow sleep over's.
  • I would. I would make sure nothing serious was happening. But other than that, they would be free to do as they will.
  • It would depend on potential legal liability. If I were potentially liable, e.g. for contributing to the delinquency of a minor, then I would have to forbid her without her parents' consent. She would have to take the lead on that, because she might not have come out to her family yet, and I should not be the one to out her. If there were no potential legal liability, I would have to consider repercussions on my family once it became known that my daughter was having her lovers stay over. If permitting this to occur would jeopardize my family's welfare (my job, etc.), I would have to forbid her. If these were not factors, then, I think I would still have to forbid her unless her parents signed on to it. There's just too much potential for bad blood in a situation like this. Assuming no negatives applied, I would not object. It is not uncommon for adolescents to have sex at 14, and at least with two females there is no risk of pregnancy. I would hope my daughter were aware that it is possible for two women to communicate STDs, and if not I would see that she knew it. My sense, though, is that the question is directed toward moral objections; and I have none.

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