This guy & I have been off & on for three years now he says he likes me wants to be with me but not date me. he wants to go to rodeos & do stuff with other girls & not feel bad bout it but he gets hurt when i'm with someone else. what should i do?
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ANSWERS: 34
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What do you want to do? Is this situation acceptable to you? If it is --go for it. If it is unacceptable tell him to get lost.
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It sounds like he's stringing you along. He can go out with other girls, but gets mad when you go out with other guys? He doesn't want to put a label on it, because he doesn't want the responsibilities that come along with having a "girlfriend".
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Dump that loser, you don't need that stress and drama. Wait until someone comes along that likes you and wants to spend time with you, not other people...
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I think you already know the answer to that already........yes you deserve better.....leave the loser & get you a real man & forget about him. Don't be his spare tire.
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does it bother you that he wants top go out with others tell him if he dates others you can too. if he wants you its all or nothing
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tell him you can only be a one man kind of women if he's a one woman kind of man
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He's being very unfair to you and selfish with ths. He can't have his cake and eat it too. Leave him and move on.
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You don't say what you want. Do you want him to want you? If so be nice to him but date other guys. He will respect you more and you will have a better idea of whether or not he is someone you want to date exclusively when you have a basis for comparison.
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He wants to have the freedom to see other people, but he doesn't want you to? He wants to be with you but not date you? What a jerk! I would not waste another minute of my time on that loser.
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This guy sounds like a loser sorry to say. He wasnts to be able to have the freedom to be with other girls but you're supposed to only go with him. Even though you didn't say he said that Just by his actions of getting upset with you when you are with another guy tells me that's what he wants.Tis is an unacceptable and unhealthy relationship. Either both of you comitt to an exclusive relationship with each other or you both get to enjoy each others company on occaision while seeing other people. If he can't understand that he is a very selfish person and you need to move on because you can do much better than that loser.
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thats exactly what Richard used to do to me. we were on and off for four years and i just recently ended it cause all i did was cry and all he did was neglect me and talk to all his other girlfreinds. it was not worth it to me. i should have ended it a lot sooner. i hope you can learn from my expierence.
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you need to stop talking to him. I was in almost the exact same situation. I was with a guy for 2 years and lived with him all that time. We got super attached to one another and for like a year afterwards kept sleeping in the same bed out of being used to eachother(no sex). Everytime i would start dating someone he would get all upset and tell me he loves me. The point I am trying to make is that ur in a rut. Your used to him, and because of that you let him take advantage of you. It is super UNHEALTHY to let him string you along. I am saying with all the sincerety I can, you really need to move on. You are damaging yourself.
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ummm...throw him away he is no good for you he cant be with you and see other girls and then think its wrong when your with another guy he's just using you is all get rid of him and find someone who is better and will appreciate you better
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tell him to grow up. You're nobody's safety net! Go and find someone who is going to be in it for you!
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What a jerk! Don't DO anything! Don't date him, don't go to rodeos (wow) with him! Don't be friends with him! Nothing! Tell him he's disgusting & you're not gonna be his girl on the side. And when you ARE with someone else, make sure he knows about it & rub it in his face. Find a nice guy who'll treat you well - not this jacka**
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This guy is a user who is never going to commit to you, he wants to have his cake and eat it and have you sit at home and wait for him. If you think you can change him you are wrong. If you want a stable future thats leads to marriage and possible kids leave him.
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Tell him to go lasso himself. Why would you want anything to do with such a self-centred jerk? There's someone out there who would think you were plenty enough for him! Good luck.
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i think you should move on and leave that ass alone. sounds to me like he is using you. no one needs that. hold your head up and keep walkin tall and find you a good man.
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Next!
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Dump him he is not worth it. Y be with someone who does no value you.
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He is being selfish. Why should he be allowed to go off with other girls (not saying he's doing anything but you know what i mean) and you have to just sit there being a good little girl and doing what he says? Dump his ass, it's not worth your time. There are how many billions of people on earth, i doubt he's the one fish out of the ocean that's right for you.
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Have you ever heard the phrase "he's just not that into you". Sounds harsh, but I think it applies.... Three years is a long time to wait around for someone. Of course he's hurt when your with someone else, you've been his "sure thing" for a long time. If after all this time he doesn't want to "date" you, you need to move on...Fast!!!
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Tell him to get lost and go find someone who isn't a user.
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move on. He wants to do whatever he wants and yet keep you from going out with others. He is being selfish and unfair.
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Sorry to say but I would dump him right now. He sounds awfully insecure, childish, immature and wants to eat the cake as well.
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if it makes you feel bad forget it if you have no problems with it then ok go with your instinct it is usually right
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thats called friends with benefits... never works and the person being used (yes, you are indeed being used) will get hurt. you'll get hurt all the more if you develop feelings for him during all that
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you need someone who thinks your the only one in the universe for him... this loser isn't worth a drop of spit..lasso his a** to the nearest cliff and walk away
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tell him u have ur own future to build if it's a just i don't support u are a girl and needs to settle down
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I wouldn't have any double standards. If he wants to be able to see other girls, it's only fair that you should be able to see other guys.
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He likes you, wants too be with you, but not date you? Are you serious? Do you even need to think it over? If he cant settle for just one then he shouldnt have any at all. ;) Tell him to go fuck himself.
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So, I get it: He gets everything....and you suffer....sounds a little masochistic of you to me.
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leave him alone
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what do you mean he "wants to be with you"? He wants to sleep with you but not date you? I would feel used and I would also date whom I pleased and if he feels hurt it is his own insecurity. He wants his cake and eat it too. He is setting a double standard. Its ok for him to date but he doesn't want you to. You need to take a good look at him and ask yourself if this is the person that you really want to be with. He seems kind of selfish. I do know that it is tough when you love someone, but dont be a door mat. good luck!
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