Honey that only happens in the movies. Reality is vastly different from that. Talking to someone will help you deal with the roller coaster emotions you are dealing with at the moment, it will help you in the long run :)

i know what you mean. my parents split up when i was 8, and i was caught between them then, and i still am now. you just have to try and seperate yourself from listening to them saying things about eachother to you. dont get caught up in passing messages between them, and if they try and get you to tell them what the other one said about them, try not to get involved. its hard, but good luck.

I understand exactly how you feel. But think about this: Although many families have parents that are not divorced, it doesn't mean they are any happier. Trust me. My parents are still together, and none of us get along with each other. If you get along with them separately (or at least one of them), then that's more than a lot of people have. There is this myth that a family is supposed to be this super rewarding, positive, supportive, and well-functioning group, but its not! I took a class on it in college. What you are feeling is normal. Parents / family play powerful roles/meaning in our lives. You always see movies and TV shows about families that have this great rapport, or are always laughing together, or are best friends, and have this big Sunday dinners and fun x-mas trips, and memorable thanksgiving gatherings, but its not happening. To answer your question on how you can make yourself feel better, just know that its just part of life, and you will have your own family one day and you can make it as awesome and wonderful as you want. Until then, just form really wonderful relationships with everyone you can- whether its your family or friends. I have friends that i consider family- closer than family! Start to define what YOU think family is instead of letting society define it for you. For me, family is the ppl that would be there for me no matter what. I have my fiance, and several best friends that i can count on more than my family. And, that is more than a person can ask for.

You can feel better by taking action and learn to accept that life isn't always like movies. Even happy families have their ups and downs. Sit down and have a talk with both of them. Explain how you feel. Not in an angry way and be careful not to look like your taking sides. If you can't get through to them than talk to a school counselor or an adult you trust that you feel your parents will have respect for and can mediate for you. Adults sometimes get too wrapped up in their own pain and don't see the pain they are causing others. Pick someone who will take your side and not their side and who can explain how its affecting you. Don't ask that they get together. That will probably never happen, but ask them to show each other enough respect so that you can respect them as well and so you feel secure and loved and not like a door prize. Tell them that they seem to hate the other person so much that you feel like they must hate you as well. (Even though this is not true, this may wake them up because no parent wants their child to feel like they hate them.) Good Luck and please seek counseling. Even if things work out you will probably still need help with the anger about the divorce.