I did not let anyone look after my first boy until he was 4 months and even then it was only for an evening (and he was colic!). We now have a 6 week old and his mum has left him with me only 3 times since his birth, he will prob not be babysat for a whole night until about 6 months also. I would say no to your mother in law, just explain to her that you dont want to be away from the child for that long yet, she should understand, if she doesent, remember its YOUR baby!

Simply tell her No. You are that child's mother. Tell her that your baby will not be staying with her until YOU feel that he is ready, and will certainly never be sleeping with her. You have to be firm here or she will walk all over you.

Tell her no,you havent got to be nasty about it,a new born should be with its mum i would not feel comfortable with this either,why dont you invite her to sleep over at yours for a night,maybe she could help you out a bit with the house hold chores?That way she is helping out and gets to see the baby too and if your bottle feeding maybe she can do a night feed for you so you can catch up on some well earnt rest :)

You have every right to tell her no. You also need to be very clear that your child will not be sleeping in her bed, he will be sleeping in his crib or a bassinett, and there are no exceptions. Is your husband supportive, or is he trying to pacify his Mom? You need to be sure he understands how important this is to you, and that you need him to stand united with you in this. His mom might be unhappy with your decision, but it's worth it.

My Mother In Law pushed for the same thing and at the time, I never said no, I just walked around it and got upset she didn't pick up my hint. Eventually I said at a family dinner once that none of my children would EVER have a sleep over at anybody else's house until they were old enough to tell me they wanted to. Looking back I feel bad about being passive aggressive about it, I should have just said no to her, but it doesn't matter, she's never pushed for anything since.

It is your baby. YOu do as you please. Kinda nervy of her to ask to have the baby over night. I didn't let my child even stay with someone during the day until they were both at least 12 weeks old. Stick to your guns! You are the momma now!!

Your baby. You rule.

I think you should just tell her the doctor doesnt approve. She cant fight it and she should understand. I hope all is well. Congratulations!

I think you should just tell her the doctor doesnt approve. She cant fight it and she should understand. I hope all is well. Congratulations!

yeah its too soon. Just tell her maybe in another month or two.

'I an not happy about that' That is all I need to know to be able to advise you to keep your baby by your side. Or is making your M-I-L happy worth making yourself unhappy?? I would venture that THAT is the real question you may need to ask yurself. Best of luck - I don't have in-laws, I have escapee-fiends-from-Hell.....

Think what you would do if it was your mum. I cant stand my mother in law and breastfed for the first 2 months so she couldnt have my little girl overnight. My little girl is nearly 2 and she has stayed in my mother in laws house 3 times the last being when she was 6 months old. I gave 3 rules no tv, no putting her in their bed and she had to be in bed by 8. the next day she enjoyed tellin me that my little girl stayed up until 11 oclock the night b4, woke up at 3 oclock but went straight back to sleep in their bed untill 6 oclock where she then sat for 2 hours watchin tweenies, common she was 6 months old. that was 15 months ago and hasnt stayed since.

i dont have kids, but id feel uncomfortable letting a baby that young sleep somewhere else

A baby sleeping with an adult can cause death to the child. The adult can easily rollover and suffocate the baby. It happens all the time. It's been documented by forensic scientists. She is an ignorant person, but she means well. A child that age should be with it's mother as much as possible. No child should sleep in the same bed as their parents. Especially babies. I see older children do it and it is wrong too. You say that it can cause death to the child and it is not a good thing according to scientific reserach. If she cannot understand that then like I said she's ignortant and NO is NO. If she gets an attitude too bad. Never let anybody make you do things you feel and know are wrong just to please them. Too many women do that.

Well, the baby is yours, afterall. But unless she has done something careless with the baby I don't really see why she can't have it spend the night. You could really use a break, I'm sure, so I wouldn't go too far in discouraging her from keeping him. SHe is obviosly excited as hell to be a grandmother and wants only to smother him with love. I don't see a problem with that! Speaking of smothering - I would insist that she not sleep with him, though. I know someone who rolled over on her baby and she DID kill him in her sleep. Not a good idea. Find a compromise....maybe she can have him in the center of the bed but in a carrier or something similiar. Or maybe in the bassinette by her side of the bed.

WAY TOO SOON!!! I wouldn't let a baby out of my sight for months. If you are not comfortable with it, don't do it! And no sleeping arrangements that you are not comfortable with. If it's going to cause such a trouble I would just say no sleepovers of any kind at any age right now and you will let her know when you feel different. But for now, no.

Remember the anti-drug commercials.....just say NO!!!!.....it's your kid. Set the ground rules early, otherwise you're in for a very long and painful child development period.

Be honest and tell her how you feel towards her sleeping with the baby n on the same bed. If your not a straight out person, when she brings up the subject simply interupt her and tell her that your mom also wanted to stay with the baby but you said no because you feel like your child must be with you til he is 8 weeks. *i recomment to talk to your husband about it, and maybe he will help you out a little more in how to talk to your mother-in-law she is his mom. _don't do anything you don't want to do or feel conftable doing. I wouldn't feel conftable letting my 4 month baby sleep anywere els, specialy knowing that he is sleeping in the same bed with an adult. Make the right choice that would make you feel conftable and ofcourse lets you sleep in the night.=D

Just tell her no, to be honest with you, I dont even think 8 weeks is old enough.... He's your son, she needs to understand that. Hopefully you have the type of husband that'll back you up...

You are the mother and have to set the standards. Tell her how you feel and let her know that you're setting the rules for your child. She might get mad but if she wants to be in the baby's life, she'll get over it.

I think your baby is too young to spend the night away from home and though it is nice to have your MIL interested in your child, the baby sleeping with her sounds a bit nutty. I would not let my child at any age sleep over.

your baby should be with you until she is older. even 8 weeks is too soon

Your child, your rules. It's that simple. I have my sperm donor (male contributor to my existence. he hasn't earned the right to be called anything else) wanting me to let him babysit my daughter again when four times in five weeks she has come back with severe diaper rash which took all week to undo, and one time it took me two weeks of treating it and it still didn't go away. When I took her to the doctor, I was TERRIFIED I was going to lose her for neglect when I hadn't done anything wrong. I had suspected he caused her to get a yeast infection by loading her with pounds of sugar, but I didn't want to believe it as this was his last chance. But when the doctor confirmed it, it was very clear what I had to do. She has not stayed with him for several months and she never will stay with him again. And he slept with her in the bed and I hated it (that is, until she gave him a cold hehehe. After that, never again). It starts out so benign and then becomes DANGEROUS GROUND. They start out buttering you up and then switch suddenly into blatant disrespect mode. The thing about it was, I had said no sugar other than what she gets in regular food. He would give her a half a can of soda, a whole thing of pudding (for adults. Now they make one for toddlers), several chips (for adults. They have finger foods for toddlers, but he gave her ones for big people), basically everything I said not to do. And if he would do it and he's supposed to be a relative by blood, what makes you think an inlaw (who might already hate you) will be any better? The best thing to do is tell her no and that's final. Period. Not negotiable. And if necessary, depending on how she is going about it, get the cops involved. Trust me. You are right not to let your baby stay with her. And you may be right never to. That, I don't know. What I do know is that it starts out harmless and then ends up dangerous. And little boys can get infections as easy as girls can. I don't know how you would spot it in a boy, but I'm pretty sure it can happen. Just be careful and stand up to her. But tell her flat out that you are this child's mother, you gave birth to this child, and what you say goes. Period. If she doesn't like it, tough shit.

1) Co-sleeping (in the same bed) is not advised. Do you have any idea how many babies DIE that way???? An adult bed is full of hazards including loose blankets, pillows and the adult body themselves. About 23% of babies who die from SIDS were co-sleeping and that is addition to the number who are actually smothered to death when an adult, in a deeper sleep than they thought they would be in, rolls over on the baby and babies who either fall or babies who get pushed up against the headboard, fall between wall and bed etc. THE ONLY TIME BABY SHOULD BE IN BED WITH PARENT IS FOR BREASTFEEDING AND AWAKE CUDDLE TIME. 2) At four weeks, establishing a sleep routine is critical. (Even at 8 weeks). It is a very poor idea to get your baby out of that routine just as it is developing. 3) Most Dr's don't advise any such "adventures" before age 6 weeks as the babies immune system is still ramping up. 4) Did you know that in the Chinese culture, the baby does not go out of the home and is not handled by anyone but immediate caregivers for the first 100 days? Again, immune system, routine and safety. How do you tell her no? "N.O. " Trust me, I know how hard it is to say no to the M-I-L. But your number one priority has to be your child. Tell her you are working on a sleep routine. Tell her your doctor said it is not a good idea (I think most doctors would actually tell you that). And tell her Co-sleeping is totally out of the picture. When she tells you that she knows what she is doing and after all, she did raise X number of kids, tell her that she had her opportunity to raise her kids and now you have yours. Here are some resources: http://www.webmd.com/content/Article/113/110685.htm?pagenumber=3 http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2005/07/050707055916.htm

Well hello there. I want just to let you know.. i'm an expert doctor in Family relationship and Childcare NOW i think you should listen to me.. and not these idoits!!! oopsie i called them a nasty... name.. ooohh anyway.. shes wants to Sleep with her?! are you crazy?! you let your daughter do that.. already? It is unreasonable. and i think you should contact the RSPCA . and call someone about it . You don't want anyone to think any ideas.. about if they can fly? otherwise you know crazy town will happen. By the way i have a dergee and im an expert doctor in law .. i study in Universty of Oxford. Hope you like..

He is only an infant. There will be plenty of time for him to have sleep overs with her. You should tell her so. He is your son, so you get to decide where he stays.