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  • While it can be easy to get mad at others when you feel they have wronged you it is much more difficult to look within and admit you have made a mistake yourself. It is a different emotion all together and takes courage and strength to admit flaw while it only takes anger (which is unfortunatly a more readily accessable emotion) to blame or judge somebody else.
  • Mistakes are easy to forgive. As you said, we all make them. There is a difference between a simple mistake and an action deliberately calculated to cause disruption, harm, deceit or betrayal. Stealing from your best friend, for example, is not a mistake - the person intended to do it. I think it's these types of actions that are harder to forgive. To forgive someone who intended to do wrong usually takes a while, because you have to accept that the person took advantage of you or humiliated you deliberately. You feel that YOU somehow did something wrong by letting this person get over on you, or that you were foolish for trusting them. That, to me, is what's so hard about forgiving.
  • Because we don't know what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is not finding fault with someone then allowing them back into our good graces. Forgiveness is placing no judgement upon others; therefore no offense given and nothing to "forgive".
  • I can't answer for everyone as I believe the level of forgiveness is different for everyone. For myself i can forgive very easy as long as the mistakes made are not repeated. The one thing I can not forgive is harming others. To me it takes desire to cause harm to another human and although people make the excuse it was a mistake I can't allow myself to believe it.
  • Hi cg- In Buddhism, we view this as being based on the 3 Poisons: greed, anger and foolishness. The alternative is the Buddha spirit, filled with compassion and understanding, although challenging injustice with everything from sincere dialogue to "the roar of the lion". :)
  • I think it has to do with the nature of the damage perpetrated by the other individual. If it has anything to do with betrayal or telling a lie, I do not forgive that..once trust is lost there is no relationship. I've never betrayed myself and if I lie to myself, I'm not aware of it. I am not aware of betraying another..when I was younger I did tell lies..usually to save my butt..sometimes I'd get into the candy because I had a huge sweet tooth..my mom would ask if I got into it and I told a bald-faced lie..I said "no"..sometimes I blamed my baby sister for something that I had done. As an adult, however, I have tried to not do the negative things that are part of childhood. :)
  • It's not difficult to forgive someone, but sometimes the forgetting is the hard part. I also think therein lies a trust issue. When we remember the pain caused from whatever by whomever, this can cause anger and even lead to the development of hate. Also, misunderstanding is an important aspect; we each sometimes see things differently and therefore have difference of opinions I personally questions things a lot and would usually give someone the benefit; some people do things deliberate, such people I tend to ignore or put them on the back burner. If I offend someone I will apologize, but I would be cautious with them being fearful they might misunderstand me or might be hurt easily; after all, I never ever intend hurting others. Mistakes do happen and it makes no sense to harbour malice and hate. Life is beautiful and needs to be enjoyed!
  • I don't find it hard to forgive people for mistakes. I do find it hard to forgive people who purposely and knowingly do something unforgivable.
  • I don't find it hard to forgive others, especially if they're simply being human. The only time I find it hard to forgive someone is if they intentionally and maliciously acted in a way that they know is going to cause harm to myself or those I care about, or even other human beings in general.
  • if that is the case, we think too much of ourselves
  • the one enhances the other: 1: it is hard for us to admit our own shortcomings 2: critisizing, judging and hurting others for THEIR shortcomings make us feel better about our own shortcomings. so pointing fingers is encouraged(makes us feel less bad), and looking in mirrors is discouraged (we're not as bad as others, so there's no need).
  • No one likes to be less than and they might not like what they see.
  • i am very self critical of myself. i try to always treat others as they treat me.
  • nobody likes to look in the mirrow.they often don't like what they see.
  • Critisizing others takes the attention away from our own flaws...
  • It is the imperfect nature of man, tear down to build oneself up. It is our duty to strive to eliminate this tendency.
  • Because deep down we enjoy watching others suffer.

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