If you were cheated on and have decided to try and work it out but you still dont trust your partner. Is it okay to check their email if you know their username and password? if you find a message, is it okay to confront?
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I would say that if you don't trust them to that degree then why get back together, or just trust them and not check, some things are better that way?
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Thats a hard one because I believe a persons email is private. I have had 2 people check my email because I inadvertently left it opened and one of them changed my password in order to intercept my emails. I think I would probably have to do it but how do you know they havent set up another account to throw you off. I also think you have to give them time to prove themselves trust worthy again. I hope this made sense. I know what I wanted to say but as I started typing it didnt quite come out exactly like I wanted it to.
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"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
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If you "work it out", in my mind that means you two have some trust and respect. You should have permission before reading anyones email regardless if you know the User/PW. If you don't trust them maybe you should sit and talk with them about it and explain you still have these feelings. - To be cheated on hurts and is not easy to build trust but it is possible. Best thing would be to talk with them about it. Communication is the one thing that can fix every relationship if you both are willing to understand and listen to the others view/feelings. - If they find out you were checking their email and there was nothing going on. Then you just lost that trust from them which will be a lot harder to work out. If they think you could have just asked them and they would allow you.
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Absolutely, unquestionably no. If your partner has cheated in the past, he or she might not be trustworthy. If you snoop through your partner's email, you DEFINITELY aren't trustworthy. Violating the privacy of someone you claim to care about is dishonest and low. If you have fears you want to raise, raise them in an open conversation like grown-ups. If you don't trust your partner enough to do that, you have bigger problems. Consider counseling.
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let me tell you something which is only my personel view. Cheating and Trusting are the opposites of each other . Cheating is the worst thing to happen in one's life and without trust you cannot build a life. In this case you were cheated and also you do not trust your partner. So there is no point continuing, you need to find someone whom you can trust. Well checking others mail is wrong, even if you know their username and password, please do not check it, it will lead to more complications.
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I think that if you don't trust them and feel that you have to check their e-mail and all that then you probably shouldn't even bother being with them!
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i don't think That is Right In all Respect to the People that have been Cheated on, Iv been Cheated on several times by the same person (i am out of this marriage now) some Wemon or males CAN talk well... my whife sure did they use you for sex money ... no love at all i felt very used I Checked her e-mail becasue when ever I tryed to talk to her she would say Hun you know how much i love you and i would never do something to you like that and then we would start making love so yeah its not always good to be in an Open Conversation with someone .. relationships dont always have to be open and onist sometimes they can be snooped at
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If you don't and can't trust them then it's really time for you to move on -- They lost your trust and spying will only make it worse
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I would not want to see my husband's emails, although I think he has cheated on me. But I have confronted the person I suspect he cheated on me with. It doesn't help that she is beautiful and 18, but she tells me that they were looking for happiness, which I did not give to him. She says they only met, and did not have affair (read 'sex'). I have to trust him after that...I have a child with him, and go figure. I am not jealous of the little girl he 'dated' while I was in another country. Maybe my self esteem is overblown, but I am beautiful and smart woman of 32. How can we even be compared. I do love my husband, and it seems that he was feeling neglected, but to check his emails. NO. I won't do it. If he were to 'date' again and be stupid enough to leave a air plain ticket receipts on his bedside table, hell yes I would be out, and we would be through.
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You aren't working out anything if you feel you need to spy on, and CONFRONT them with anything. "Working out" should include forgiving and learning to trust again. It sounds like you haven't done the former, and don't plan on doing the latter. Since this is the case, you might as well end it now.
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