You are a grandparent to a 14 year old girl, she wants you to drive her to her boyfriends house outofstate, it is 11:30 at night. Who are you going to call to help talk your granddaughter out of this crazy scheme? Please advise.
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OOPS I misread the question (butt head me !!) I would talk her out of it myself and if need be aquire the assistance of Highlander. ( all I generally have to do is review all the mistakes I make while going through my teens and early twenties and the reprocussions and most people think twice) but she would be convinced to change her mind !
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If I were a grandparent, I would say ABSOLUTELY NOT! When she is at your place, she should respect your rules. A 14 year old going out to meet her boyfriend at 11:30 at night is ridiculous. And out of state too!? Would her parents allow that? If she continues to take advantage, I would say that she shouldn't be allowed to stay overnight again.
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In this instance grandparentss called the police, can you think of someone else a person could call?
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I am a grandparent, and i would say "NO!' over and over. Refuse to drive her. I would only call someone if she threatened to go on her own, and at 11.30pm it would be her parents or the community police. As she is a juvenile, then it needs to be referred to the police if the grandparent cannot control the child's actions. Community police are the police who handle domestic disputes in this country. This seems like an obvious situation. If the child is being threatening, or abusive in any way, and the grandparent feels powerless to stop her, then, call in the professionals.
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at 14 the grandparents should just say no and that be the end of it. if i was 14 and was at my grandparents i would have to listen to them and if not i suppose they would have just locked the doors or called my parents
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As a grandmother, get yourself some of Tyler Perry's plays or his book. This is completely back asswards!
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Who is the adult and who is the juvenile here? If you are raising your granddaughter and have legal custody of her, then if you say no, then its no. There are many factors to address in this situation: First, 1130 pm, is entirely too late to start a trip, out of state, by one grandparent, unless its an emergency. Second, 14 is too young to have a boyfriend in another state. how did this happen? Third, if you allow this to happen one time, your troubles are just beginning. If this "boyfriend" wants to see your granddaughter bad enough, let him make the trip. Isn't this the way its suppose to be??
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You stand your ground and say no....you don't need to explain yourself to her. She will stomp around and roll her eyes but it will be better than her having a baby and you raising that child too. Don't let her rule the roost ..you are the boss.....let her pout.....she'll get over it. Good Luck:)
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If you call someone else to handle this, you are showing her you are not in charge of your home and of her. She is in your care. You are the adult. NO means NO. Lock the windows and the doors since 14 year olds seem to like to take things upon themselves when they are told "NO" to something they really want.
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Say NO - you are the adult - i think to many parents are trying to be friends with their kids rather than parents - and that is why kids have the serious problems they have and that we read about on AB -ie drugs, pregnancy, STDs, and so on.
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Easy...just don't do it. Make her go to bed or something. My parents used to lock me in my room if I ever asked to do anything crazy like that and it seemed to work...I mean I didn't end up doing it. Just say no.
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Since when are 14 year olds allowed outside after 9:00? Isn't that curfew time? And who's letting this girl DATE? Waitaminit... she found the "boyfriend" online? Who's not monitering this child's internet access? There are a LOT of issues at hand here... this nutso request is the least of them. I'd give my granddaughter a firm "HELL no", a glass of warm milk and a trip to bed, and then a LONG talk to her parents about her internet activity next time I saw them.
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