Well I would question their honesty. They haven't told you about their kids all this time? And how old are the kids? If they are teenagers it shouldn't be too bad, they don't require as much care and attention as younger children.

No I would not break it off....once I fall I fall hard. His having kids would not stop me from loving him.

If I was serious enough about someone to discuss marriage and then "found out" that he had kids I would wonder why this fact was hidden from me. It would give me serious reservations. Not because of the kids but because of the deception. To me that's what it amounts to.

i have to say, yes..i would probably break it off. first reason being that i found out after..thats a pretty big secret to keep and i'd feel like i couldn't trust them. second reason being that i am not interested in being responsible for children. I would have to move on...

If the person you are discussing marriage with has managed to hind the the fact that they have kids for that long then you should break off the relationship for a multitude of different reasons. First, the person obviously isn't being honest with you. Second, the person clearly isn't playing a very big role in the children's life, if they have been off with you that much with out the kids. You dont want to start a relationship with someone who neglects their own children that much.

Why is he first telling you about his kids now? They don't seem to be a big part of his life if you haven't seen them or heard of them til now so what makes you think they would be a big part of your life? If you really love him and want to marry him and the fact that he hasn't told you til now doesn't bother you (although you have to wonder what else don't you know), then I would say don't break it off unless he expects you to become a mother-like figure to them. Let him know right off the back you don't want much to do with them.

Personally I wouldn't break it off for him having kids, but I would have to understand why he didn't tell me in order not to break it off. Honesty is important to me in a relationship. If I wasn't keen on kids, Yes I would break it off because it isn't fair for thekids to have to deal a lifetime with someone who didn't want kids to begin with. (I am assuming if you are not keen with kids, you don't want any.)

I would break it off with them. People who say they wouldn't most likely actually ARE keen on kids, or at least neutral. I really really don't want kids, ever. It's not that I don't like them - I often feel like I'm a kid at heart, and maybe that's part of my reason for not wanting them. For me, kids are "a nice place to visit, but I wouldn't want to live there". That's why I had a vasectomy at 25, to make sure I never would have them, ever. I've also lived my whole life with most and for several years sole responsibility for my mentally ill little brother, and frankly I know responsibility and caregiving, and I never would choose it if he hadn't already been born and I loved him so damn much. I could easily date someone with children though. But I don't want something serious, or any sort of marriage, and probably couldn't have it even if I wanted it in my situation. Although it's normally not one of my "first date" conversational topics, I would make an exception and make it clear I was looking for something fun and casual, with bursts of occasional but not persistent mutual supportiveness, if I was dating a mother. It would be a major turn off and reason for breaking it off if she then continued to talk marriage, or tried to get me involved more with her kids, since it would show a complete lack of respect for how strong my feelings on being childfree are.

If I found out my boyfriend has children, I am more than sure I would be extremely hurt, ... more hurt than pissed off. I'd probably break up with him, too. You should never hide that you have children.