I've been dating this girl for 2 months and I went to go see a movie with my ex and her family just as friends. I didn't tell my girlfriend, but she found out and thinks I was cheating even though nothing happened. Is she overreacting?
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No, she has every right to be upset and to think the worst. Now, think of it if the shoe was on the other foot? And you obviously didn't tell her because you probably knew she would get upset. If you wanted the relationship to work out, I think by not telling her you placed doubt in her head and now she might have lack of trust.
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no shes not overreacting she has the right to question you and why didn't you tell her if there was nothing to hide being honest is the best thing to do when your in a relationship and you don't wanna lose the one your with.
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If you think it wasn't cheating how come you didn't tell your girlfriend where you were going as you said she found out.Honesty is a perfect cure for a relationship. I don't think she was overreacting and there would be many woman who would feel the same way.....Sorry about your problem but just be honest the next time.
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No she's not. What business do you have going out with your ex while dating another girl anyway? Who in the world would think such things are okay? Any girl with half a brain will never find such situation ok and put up with it.
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You didn't tell her, that's being deceptive to her. It wasn't fair you to her that you purposly omitted that information as you assumed she'd overreact. And by you not telling her, she will assume you're hiding more. Just be open and honest, you can't expect her to feel trusted or to trust you if you are going to hide things from her.
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You know what the answer is. Communication is the key. If it was a friends then tell her that. If she has a problem then it is her's. Not telling her is bad.
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You should have been upfront with her from the beginning. Now you look guilty.
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I agree, if you find yourself not wanting to tell your girlfriend about it, its not okay. Think about that next time. It's okay for her to freak out if she had to find out. If you hid this, what else are you hiding? Remember, The worst part about getting lied to is knowing you werent worth the truth.
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She is definitely not over reacting. You should have told her from the beginning that you were going to the movies with your ex and her family. If I were your girlfriend, I would definitely be questioning that.
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No not really because you should of had respect to tell her. How would you fell if she did that to you?
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Obviously you didn't tell her because you knew that it was wrong. She is not overreacting and you need to be apologizing like crazy!
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well no shes not really because it is about respect be up front because im pretty sure that you would want her to be with you
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Well, do you blame her for expecting the worst? Of course she is going to jump to conlusions after A) you were dishonest and lied to her about that and b) you went out with your ex and her family. I would be dumping your ass to be honest! That's what you get for being a jerk!
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I have to be honest, that would REALLY really, upset me. I'm sorry.
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Wow! I think you should have told her that and even left it up to her weather or not you should go. That is way too touchy and could easily break up a relationship.
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No she is not overreacting. You should have told here in the first place. She is your girlfriend and i think that she has to know al most every thing about you espicially when it comes to girls and ex. It not that I am saying that your wrong not her but also she is. She has to listen to your point and then decide.
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dumb-de dumb-de de-DUMB!!... come on just admit it you had a couple of'homers' didn't you.. one for doing what you did and another one for having to ask why!
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You lied by ommission, leaving her to feel like she can not trust you to be open and honest. Legitimate feeling. You will now have to prove that you can be honest with her, or deal with her not trusting you. Your bed, you lie in it.
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she's not overreacting. I'd be fuckin' pissed. well, i guess you'll have to hope she believes you.
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Its a good way to test the jealousy and trust factors for problems down the raod. Sometimes i dont tell a girl everything because its my buisness and or i dont want drama.Not because im devious. depends on the boundaries that were laid down previously.I do understand her being pissed though.
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you should have told her ahead of time but no this isn't cheating it was just a friendly thing there as no strings attached still watch it if Ur ex still has a thing for you she could be trying to sabotage what you have
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AS OLD SAYING GOES FLIP IT AROUND WHAT IF SHE WENT OUT WITH AN OLD BOYFRIEND WITH OUT TELLING YOU. IT WASN'T THE SMARTEST MOVE YOU MADE DUDE. THIS MATY MAKE HER THINK YOU STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOUR EX-GRLFD. YOU SHOULD HAVE INFORMED HER AND TOLD HER THAT IT WAS WITH HER FAMILY ANDS AS JUST FRIENDS BECAUSE OF PAST RELATIONSHIP WITH HER FAMILY. SHE MAY HAVE BALKED AND THEN AGAIN SHE MIGHT NOT HAVE. BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING IT GIVES HER THE IMPRESSION TAHT YOU MIGHT CHEAT ON HER . ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU KEPT QUIET ON THE SITUATION. JUST MY TAKE AND JMO FLIPPER66
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That was not wise my friend.
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its you who's at fault not her. she has become apprehensive and insecure and thanks to your obsesion witht your ex.
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She is not over reacting. If she went with her ex and din't tell you but you found out, would you be like 'so yeah how was the movie? your ex doing good?' no you wouldn't. you would be pretty mad. so give her credit if she is mad at you. relationships are based on communication. you should have told her what you planned on doing and asked if she was okay with that. and if she says no then respect that. anyway, never keep things from the person your dating. it will result in the relationship becoming uneasy and end soon!
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If there's no exchange of bodily fluids there is no cheating.
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You should have told her you were doing this. If you REALY care about her, than EVERY DECISION YOU MAKE needs to take her into consideration. Crappy comunication is the biggest problem most couples face.
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my question is why didn't you tell your gf? to show respect for her feelings I think it would have been best to ask her ahead of time how she would feel about you going to the movies with your ex and her family. it does sound rather sneaky this way. I can understand why she feels upset or cheated on in some way. you are in the early stages of your relationship, I would think you want to be careful to build trust, not dis-trust. are you trying to sabatoge a good thing by this behavior?
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No, she is not. When you do anything with an ex you need to clear it with your girlfriend first. This is just showing her the respect she has earned, simple as that. Had this girl just been a friend and you went to the movies then it wouldn't be a big deal I don't think, but your girl probably feels threatened (even if you don't think so) because it was with your ex.
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No she's not overreacting. In my opinion, you were wrong. Put yourself in your girls place, how would you feel? Why would you go with your ex if you have someone new? You know, something doesn't have to"happen" to make it cheating. You were not honest or loyal to your new girl. If, as you say, your just friends with your ex, you should have mentioned it to your girl and see how she felt about it first. You didn't. You didn't consider anyones feelings but your own. DR if you must but, you did ask!
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no...not only should you have told her in advance, you should have invited her along...if your ex and her family weren't up for that then, their motives are questionable and you shouldn't have gone.
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I think she should be more than mad. I think she should dump your deceitful a**. You didn't tell her for a reason and that reason is that your a piece of sh*t for a boyfriend. And you know it.
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well, what are you doing going to the movie with an ex for? and her family? OMG, I would be raging. In fact, Im surpised she hasnt left you. Why did you not tell her? Obviously you knew it was wrong. How would you feel if she went to the cinema with her ex and their family and didnt tell you. I know it sounds harsh but I see her point of view. xx
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Perhaps. But it's reasonable for her to believe you have something to hide since you didn't volunteer this information yourself. If nothing happened, why the secrecy?
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i dont think she was overreacting
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Why didnt you tell her? I would be mad if my bf didnt tell be somthing like that. The fact you didnt tell her makes her think your not telling her other thing as well.
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Nope. That's pretty strange behaviour. You didn't tell her, so that implies you're trying to hide something from her. If she no longer trusts you based on just this alone, it makes sense.
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nawwhh. evn if u did tell her she would still prolly be mad and since u didn't tell her then she should be pissed
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no dude you cant do that! say sorry and give her flowers! tell her u had no bad intentions but now realize u were being an idiot and it wont happen again cuz u now know its not appropriate.
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No. Why would you want to go out with an ex and her family if you have a new gf? Your past should stay in the past and if the ex means so much that you would risk your new relationship, then I suggest getting back with her.
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Apparently, I'm in the minority here. I think she did overreact. Just because you've broken up with someone doesn't mean that they have to be 'dead to you'. Perhaps telling her ahead of time would have been the courteous thing to do, but even if you didn't, she is still making a big deal out of an innocent event. If my ex-wife invited me to a Harry Potter movie or Gilbert & Sullivan performance when I happened to be in town, I'd jump at the chance. And if my new girlfriend got twisted up with jealousy over it, she'd probably be my ex-girlfriend very soon. A huge part of being in a relationship is Trust. Either you give it willingly, or it's not worth much.
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Dating for 2 months does not sound like a commitment, unless the two of you made one. You can see whomever you want. So everything is fine. . But let's say you are serious with your gf. Why would you want to be with your ex? An ex is an ex for a reason. Why wouldn't you tell your gf? It doesn't sound like you had sex with your ex, but you have enough thoughts and time to keep her as part of your life. Your gf may be overreacting to actual cheating, but not many women would like exes to be part of their bf's life.
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