Frustrated-why is it that no matter how nice i am to a person that they always seem to want to turn the cold-shoulder on me.What's the deal?I do nothing to step on people,am polite,and never want to hurt the other person.It's driving me nuts.
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greatsteak420
ANSWERS: 6
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It's not your fault then. But here, I'm going to go out on a limb and say stop being so nice. Once they realize what they are missing, you'll have them coming back to you (I mean don't be MEAN but don't be soooo nice either.). If it doesn't work, you're just around not so great people.
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Sometimes people are just mean, but I have to say- maybe it's something they aren't telling you. maybe there IS something, that you are probably not doing on PURPOSE, that they don't like. Maybe try asking them what's wrong of if there is anything wrong. I'm not saying you're a bad person but often times people won't say what is actually the matter, and the "offender" just goes on to make the same mistakes over and over, without meaning to. They think they're doing a good thing by sparing feelings, but they're really doing harm to you. Just try and be nice and polite like you already are. If it's their problem, good riddance. You don't need mean people like that in your life anyhow!
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One place to start is to not ask duplicate questions: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/354603
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I'll be honest here. You asked the same question 4 different ways in your first days here. All of your submissions have a "Enough about me, what do YOU think of me" air about them. You are mysoginistic, chauvinistic, and self-centered. Try be a little more human, and you will get alot more positive feedback.
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Ive found that being nice, conciderate, low drama and chill on its own can be kinda boring. People like conflict, the love drama and they want action. This dosent mean you have to be a wild card drama king/queen asshole... balance out. Be conciderate, be kind, but also, bs with people. Give em a hard time all in good fun. run around, spark conversations with random people, throw your thoughts out in the wild, talk about things that piss you off, nerd out, dance, do somthing funny/interesting, show off your talents. People may still give you a cold shoulder, but those who notice you and give you the time will learn that you are pretty flippin awesome... and when they see the genuin-ness of your persona, theyll love you all the more.
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That's a bummer. Hi I'm lambchop and I don't expect you to act or be anybody but your self. Nice to meet you.
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