it will at first but soon enough it will be a burden and you will have to "sit on his neck" and insist that he stop smoking for the sake of your relationship.

it can work out, it just depends on the two people involved. i'd be willing to try it.

it can... id probably start smoking again if I dated a smoker...

I guess I could manage, but smoking really interrupts the flow of a non-smoker. For instance, you are on your way to Costco to buy a case of beer and some goodies for an off-the-hook backyard BBQ at your pad. Also, your lady happens to be a smoker. Unfortunately, Costco is banging, like tons of people there, so you have to park pretty far out. As soon as you get out, your lady lights up a smoke. Afterall, Costco is like 10 minutes from your house and that is like too long to go without a smoke. Now, you just want to get in Costco, grab your fixins and bail. But right when you get to the front door, your lady stops dead in her tracks-she has not finished her smoke. You have to wait. I could go on with more flow interrupting habits smokers tend to impress on non smokers, but I think you all get the point.

I would give it a try, but chance are, I'd start smoking again if I was with a smoker all the time.

First of all I would date someone with the exact same morals, beliefs as me so I wouldn't have that problem.

My husband smokes. I don't. Yes, it can work. He doesn't smoke in the house or in the car. He doesn't smoke when we are at restaurants, etc. He's very conscious about making sure our daughter and myself are not exposed.

I am a nonsmoker who has previously dated a smoker, and the smell of stale cigarettes to someone like me is sickening. it can definitely work out, but it's not always pleasant.

No. It is one of the few major deal breakers for me. The smell makes me sick. While the person may be super nice, I just can't be in their presence too long without getting a headache. I'm not trying to be offensive or anything it's just how it is for me.

I am a life long non cigarette smoker,and had smoking girlfriends in the past.I had a hard time getting past kissing them and the smell on their clothing.The relationship did not last long because of the smell and second hand smoke.

I'm a smoker... My boyfriend, however, is a non-smoker. Although he hates the fact that I smoke, it seems to be working out, seeing as we now live together. I don't smoke in the house though, and brush my teeth like a madwoman out of respect.

No, it can never work out. Kissing a smoker is like licking an ashtray. (Somebody said that.) Why would anyone want it to work out? They're *smokers*, for crying out loud. Ever hear this? I'll only smoke outdoors. - Right, and not a chance. Maybe for a while, but the old Me-first thing comes creeping back in and before you know, they're sneaking a smoke in the bedroom. Give it up before it becomes an issue. Smokers who say they're quitting are among the biggest liars in the world. Some make it, most don't. It's not that they don't try - nicotine is more addictive than heroine. But that doesn't mean a non-smoker should have to put up with it.

my husband quit the cigarettes and the joints before we started dating. there would be no way in the world I would kiss a smoker or a toker... YUCK!

I'm a non-smoker dating a smoker. He doesn't smoke a whole lot, and he's tried to quit a few times, but it really doesn't bother me much, as long as the smoke's not going directly into my face (I'm very slightly allergic to cigarette smoke), and I won't kiss him for about half an hour after he's smoked (by then the taste has faded). I don't really think it's big enough of an issue to decide a relationship. If it is, the relationship has deeper problems.

no. if the non-smoker relaly hates it then you should not marry them or that should stop if they love you enough, its justplain out nasty

Smokers should stay with smokers. Non-smokers should stay with non-smokers. The non-smoker will never get use to the "ashtray" smell of a smoker. Its been tried before and the results are not good. Only a smoker understands my answer.

I think dating a smoker if you are not a smoker can work out. Actually, I know it can! For over 25 years of dating and relationships I have sworn off smokers. Any smoker I met was an instant deal killer. I refused to even consider it. Then, as fate would have it, I fall madly in love with a smoker, despite all of my "instant deal killer" instincts. He is the most wonderful person I have ever dated and treats me like a princess. Granted, he is an amazing person anyway and is the most curteous smoker, and person for that matter. The ever so slight smell of smoke that lingers has turned into a turn on rather than a turn off. Don't get me wrong, if he decided that he wanted to quit, I would be all in. There would actually be a part of me that would miss the habit of stepping outside for a cigarette, though. I tell you, if not for the "health issues" of smoking that have been so well publicized, I would never be concerned about dating my smoker. Keep in mind that I have always been a complete non-smoker. My biggest concern at this point is that I loose the love of my life too soon, because of smoking. However, plenty of non-smoking people loose their life or the love of their life due to driving or war or skin cancer (sun) or some other off the wall malady. I believe that it is best to live in the moment, and right now, this moment, I am a non-smoker in love with a smoker!

one of you is going to make an ash of them self.

I don't think it can work out... eventually the non smoker will no longer be able to tolerate the harmful effects of a smoker. My ex fiance and his whole family are smokers, i have never smoked a cig. in my life... i hate smokers!!! We are recently trying to rekindle our relationship, but its proving to be a much more diff. task than expected. He refuses to quit smoking as long as he lives w/ his parents (considering he's not planning on getting a job or moving away until he's finished with his 6 year degree...) I'm SOL. I feel rude when I go over their house because I have to seclude myself or I'll get sick. There is never a time that a cig. isn't lit at their house and I (and my health) just can't handle it. I recently had a pulmonary embolism scare... which I blame for being around so much second hand smoke the past 3 months. My ex says its my problem not his and that if i can't deal with it or accept him as he is than i need to move on. so guess what? We're no longer seeing each other. I feel that its plain out wrong to subject a loved one to such harm. If he can't see it than he's selfish and not worth being with. So, unless the non smoker doens't care about their own health... there is no way for the relationhip to work out... eventually someone will have to quit (i.e. the relationship or smoking)

My fiance and I are both acupuncturists, and both former athletes. We both have a passion for health in a lot of ways, and both have weaknesses. Mine is a messy apartment. His is smoking. I loathe it. He is so patient with my quirks but I am much sharper about defining my boundaries than he is, and I have to say, I am losing the faith that he will ever stop, though he often admits its a contradiction to everything he believes in, and that he "WILL" someday quit. There is that lovely word, that he and I both hear every day at clinic--"WILL." It suggests a future, as if the present is less important. I am losing a taste for it.

Kissing is a huge part of dating, right? I consider a smoker's breath as bad one. I wouldn't be able to kiss anyone with a bad breath. Therefore, because I feel disgusted, I wouldn't be able to date a smoker.

My sister and her fiance are perfect examples that a non smoker and a smoker can work things out. My sister smokes Newports and her fiance doesn't smoke at all. Smokers and non-smokers are DEFINITELY able to work things out.

I would never do it. Out of all the disgusting habits a person can adquire that has to be the worse and it's a definite deal breaker for me