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  • Try dressing female and see if it floats your boat. If it does, no worries. There are guys who'd love to be with "a woman with a penis". There's a wide world. ...As for girls wanting you, well there are "fag hags". (look it up). And there are girls who feel THEY are a bit gender challenged and you might be their equal opposite. I recommend find a BLT meeting and talk to folks in a similar situation. You know..androgynous. It's not the end of the world. And it doesn't necessitate that you're gay. Many folks with split gender tend to be very gifted or smart in various ways. Your journey should start with finding out if you would like the options this presents you with. And if you dont, and you want to be a manly man, then I suppose you could grow facial hair, get a little plastic surgery and such. But dont do that. Whatever you are, celebrate it, be it freely (within safe reason). There are definitely couples I've seen where the man seems a bit effeminate and she loves him just the same and they are hetero. Just be yourself, and always look for the positives of being you. ......If you cant find a support group nearby (look in the local newspapers), you can always find forums online. They'll welcome you right away and offer guidance. You just gotta google. I cant give you any specific links. But I know there are people for all kinds of people that just need to find those they fit in with ;)
    • Nat-11
      The thing is I am a straight boy and am male I just look girly and do not know what to do.
    • Mr Floppy
      Well, then let time have some effect as it will. You'll look older when you get older. Muscle tone will change your appearance a bit. Clothes help. A mustache could be grown. Tinted glasses can change a face. (Although most of what people perceive is sheer attitude. Look at male mannerisms and practice the ones that really might help you establish yourself. These are all possibilities. In the meantime....you probably also need to find out what job you'd like in life too, right? (Go to the book store, and walk around without a plan. Pay attention to the books that make you feel interested enough to pick them up. Thats a good way to let your subconscious tell your conscious what it knows! ;) It'll show you what you like, even things youre not aware of yet. And whatever you find your interest is, you should probably go with it (it's only people who stifle themself who end up unhappy, or if they argue about things rather than plunge ahead joyfully) so...you gotta find who you is, and then find happy in being you. Accept what you are gratefully, and willingly, and with gusto ...a positive enthused attitude for living, you know? People like confident people, and positive people. You could adopt a saying or two, an attitude, some body language. Word of caution though: dont just start being pretentious: people will see through that. Just be you. Develop whats in there, let you shine. You'll do well. As soon as you realize how cool you actually are. :)
    • Nat-11
      Thank you.

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