If you do spank your children (extremely mildly, only with the palm of your hand), at what age should you stop? Is twelve too old to be spanking?
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I feel that if the kid is over seven, you should stop spanking. That's just me though.
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12 is much to old, spanking is not a real punishment if you're over 5. Being sent to their room, removing computers, TVs, cell phones, books ect ect, Thats a light punishment. Not allowing to go out, thats punishment. However light spanks are what? No pain, just something that happens fast that the child will then ignore next time.
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Yes. All spanking is wrong. Period. End of discussion.
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Spanking is violence. Violence begets violence. I have to admit that I spanked my kids. It consisted of one swat on the butt then "TO YOUR ROOM". If I were allowed to live that portion of my life over again I would not spank.
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That has to be based on the child's maturity, rather than on some particular age. If by the time they are 12 years old, you think that they still deserve a spanking, you've most likely failed.
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If they do the crime the pay the time. The child by 12 should know what a spankable offense is and if they do not want to be spanked then they need to behave. In my family a spankable offense was lying, disrespect and disobiediance. Anything else was a time out or grounding. I was disobiedint by not coming or calling home and I went to a friend house. When i got home I got a spanking. If we disrespect and do not follow orders like going to bed or doing something that is asked of us we got spanked. One night before bed I was talking back and refusing to go to bed. I was about 9/10. I got a nice spanking for that. Another spankable offense is if we pur ourself in danger.
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I have to say 12 is old enough to know right from wrong. If at 12 you do something that you know your parent would probably spank you for, then you deserve it. Other punishments work better for children 12 and older, but sometimes a spanking really gets the message through. From my experience, my mother decided to stop spanking me at 12. However, she did not completely take spanking off the table. She would always give me options when I was to be punished and spanking was always an option. There were times, not many, that I actually chose spanking. I knew I had done wrong and felt like I deserved to be spanked.
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My dad spanked me until I moved out to go to college. When I moved back in he started to spank me again. Even at age 21 I get hit by my old man for being bad.
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My dad never really stopped spanking me. I'm now 23 years old, I have a wife and two kids and my dad still spanks me.
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Yes, rarely. Honestly by 12 years old there are so many enjoyable things that you could remove from them, or ground them from that there should be no reason to spank ever.
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Obviously if a kid has to be spanked by age 12 and it's a regular ocurrance, that form of discipline isn't working. Telling them "No you can't goto that party with your friends" can be a lot more effective!
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Yes... 12 or so is the right age to stop. That's when you start grounding - sending them to their room where you've removed the TV, games, Stereo, Computer, Phone and Cell-phone. (Books only, or "just lay there and THINK about what you did.")
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I do not condone ANY form of corporal punishment as I believe that it only reinforces to a child that Violence is OK to settle a dispute /argument ... I am in favor of taking awy prized possessions .. cell phones, video games, TVs out of the rooms, Take land line phones out of the rooms, NO visitors for a week or two ..or IF the child is REALLY a big problem , take off the door to their bedroom . If they want to be a savage and not follow house rules etc .. then we will trreat you like the animal you act like .. My method DOES work ...
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if u did your job right....u should not be having to spank a child by 12.... and most certainly 15...
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Twelve is definitely too old to still be spanking. They are in middle school for pete's sake! I'm sure you can find a different way to punish them by now besides spanking.
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In my "humble" opinion. . .yes! Kids are what they are by about age 5yrs.! If you're still having the need to "spank" at age 12yrs. . . .you've have 'seriously' "missed the boat"!
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Your kids are too old to be spanked when they start fighting when you try and the resistance can hurt them. I would stop spanking when other punishments are more effective: grounding from computer/ tv, fines, and chores. I was spanked in seventh grade and now realize it was abuse because I was too old. It was the last time I openly and directly defied my father. I had blood vessels pop around my eyes because I screamed so loud.
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