Basically u can't do nothing mister. Its her decision if she wants to work it out and always be reminded of it or if she wnats to end it right there and divorce u. From a girl's view if u were my hubby, and u cheated, no matter how long our marriage was, I start filling divorce papers the minute I know it, either if he tell me or not. I wouldn't put up with it not even if u were drunk, oh no. U would be out the door right away. I basically think she's doing the right thing, why put up with cheating, why. Now imagine if she cheated, now how would u deal with it.

Whether she will forgive you is really up to her and that will depend on her sense of morals and whether she can live with the thought that you cheated on her. If it was just sex then maybe you should be able to explain that it was a once off stupid mistake that you do not intend to repeat and that you have no feelings for the other person. Some people make a distinction between and find it easier to forgive, an emotionless one night stand than a emotionally invested drawn out affair. You need to: 1) beg, cry - do what ever it takes for her to forgive you (you need to be genuine of course otherwise she would not believe you); 2) APOLOGIZE, be honestly sorry for what you did. Admit that it was a MISTAKE and promise you will NEVER do it again (again you have to be genuine about this. You need to acknowledge you're wrong, and swear you will never repeat it - mean it). 3) sever all contact with the "fling" and tell her not to contact your wife (if the affair started at work, move jobs if you have to) 4) suggest to her that you are willing to go to counselling to repair the marriage (to show you are dedicated to the marriage) Only she can determine how much time she needs to get over it (can take years, you need to be patient). If she wants to give the marriage a go, you still have to be willing to (in order to rebuild trust): 1) make full disclosure of your whereabouts at all times to reassure her you are not doing anything suspicious, 2) give her access to your email 3) phone bills 4) credit card statements and ANYTHING ELSE she might need to assure her that you are being honest and not cheating on the side still. How long this disclosure will last and the extent of it, is really up to her because only she can determine what it will take to help her get over it but you need to be willing to provide it in order to rebuild her trust in you (remeber you are helping her heal from a wound you inflicted and it is deep and has many repercussions in your future relationship. You cannot demand she gets over it without helping her do it or being impatient as to how long it takes. Only she can determine how long or what it will take - you just have to be willing to do whatever it takes to preserve your marriage if you truly want it). It has taken me a long time to get over my husband's cheating, and the truth is, I'm still not over it. However, his continual good treatment of me after the incident and him showing me his cheating was a once off stupid mistake that he does not intend to repeat, has helped heal my wounds. I am not threatening divorse anymore but it really has taken alot of patience and understanding on his part to show me that he is willing to do anything to show me he was no longer cheating. He cheated a year ago, but to this day, I still intermittently pull out the cheating incident to let out my anguish and frustration over the incident. Your wife's anguish will abate over time (with occassional outbursts) and trust can be rebuilt slowly, but you really have to put in the effort and be patient to help her heal because the wounds are deep and only she can determine how much time she will need to recover. How long you are willing to make full disclosure of your whereabouts of your activities and her battering you over the head with the cheating incident is really up to you and how much you love her. If you love her, you will find the energy to help her get over it, no matter how long it will take her. Whether she'll stay after your efforts, will be up to her. People do survive cheating, it's happened to me and some people I know, but it requires alot of effort on your part and you have to be up for it. The cheating partner must be able to put in the time, patience and effort to help the cheated-on partner heal and for the cheated-on partner be able to see that the cheater would not do it again, that s/he still values the relationship, and want to give it another shot. Because remeber, you did inflict the wound, so she cannot recover without you helping her heal. The key to a woman's heart is good treatment. If you treat her very well and show she has no reason to distrust you again (and the trust will take a very long time to rebuild), then you may have a shot at the marriage. I would also recommend taking a holiday with her so you both can remeber why you fell in love the first place. Good luck!!

You need to pray to God, repent and do not do it again. In addition, you need to go to couples counselling, in order, to help repair the relationship. Time heals all wounds and eventually you and your wife will get through this troubled patch of grass. Just remain positive! Good luck and please give us an update!

Actually praying to God is not the answer. That has nothing to do with cheating. What he would have to do, well depending on whether his wife wants to get over his betrayal is get tested for STD's and show her the results, go to counseling, state the reasons why the cheating occur, and then off course be prepare for all her questions, and give up his privacy for a long while. This isn't really some easy wound that heals magically. But at the end it's really up to her if she wants to give it another shot or not. But also you have to remember most women don't forgive, like me for example, I definately would not. You may pray all you want, but if she doesn't have to forgive you and go on with the divorce, then you can't do that much but forgive yourself.

Well, You cheated for a reason. You were in your right mind while cheating. Some claim they had to much to drink, others claim they are in a loveless relationship. Just think about it for a second. You cheated because you are lacking something in the relationship. Get a divorce, move on , find someone to make you happy. Damage is done.

the question is...why did you cheat?...

Hi there... I'm a producer for The Oprah Winfrey Show. We're working on a "Why Men Cheat" show for next Wednesday. We're searcing for couples who would like to sit down with our expert M. Gary Neuman (on camera and this weekend) to get guidance and therapy on the infidelity in their marriages. If you are interested in receiving help, please email me at bopperman@harpo.com. But we are under deadline for this. Also, we have an ANONYMOUS hotline set up where CHEATING MEN can call in to confess why they cheat. Is it for emotional reasons or for sexual reasons? Or both? That number is 312-421-2240 Thanks so much for your help!

The worst thing to do in the situation would be to act like anything about it "wasn't a big deal". Shouting "divorce" is mainly announcing that it IS a big deal. Already having done it, is showing that no matter how big a deal you'd think it is, for you to have been able to do it means not enough. So don't trivialize it. You need to show her why she should want to stay. Don't start in with reasons why you did it or criticisms of her. Remember it will always be there, and never say when she brings it up things like "it was in the past". It will continue to wound her the rest of her life. Show her that you want to make her feel better. Beg her and show how much you love her. Say that you will really be honest with any level of interraction or viewing of the opposite gender from here on out.

Hi. I am a husband that cheated on my wife. I have a sexual addiction that started with porn at home, then at work, and eventually led to dirty chatting and sex with a female co-worker (who had been a friend for several years). I always felt horrible after work for the chatting because i love my wife. The day of the sex (which had been discussed, but was a rather spontanious act), I couldn't look at myself in the rear view mirror of my car. I felt dead inside. I had done what I never in a million years thought i would do. My wife had always said that the one thing she would never forgive was cheating, and I did it. I was smart enough to never do it again, however I kept the grief inside. Choosing not to tell my wife, because I just knew she would leave me, which I did not want. Eventually after several months of torturing myself, medicating myself with alcohol as i could not sleep without it(and nearly becoming an alcoholic) I came clean. I told my wife what had happened and the look of devastation on my face just reassured me that my life was over. That the love of my life (we are 30 and have been together since we were 17) was surely going to leave me. But she didn't. It has been several months since that night. I have had to answer many, MANY very uncomfortable and embarassing questions to date. A lot of them more than once. Thru all of this I have realized my addictions and how i let them take control of my life. I have given up the porn, alcohol, and have rediscovered my faith in God. I had felt as though i was unworthy for forgiveness, thus not forgiving myself for many months. Yet it was my wife who thru her pain told me that I had to turn back to God and confess my sins and ask him to forgive me, then forgive myself. She hasn't forgiven me. She is still hurting badly. As am I. She told me that no one can ever know this kind of pain until they suffer it. I never knew the pain of destroying the life of my most cherished person until I look into her eyes. Even today she seldom looks at me like she used to. Instead of happiness and safety all I see is hurt and disappointment. But our days are getting better. We have our good times and we both cry thru the bad. I have vowed to do what it takes to earn her forgiveness. It's a painful path, but ultimately it will be worth it. My hope is that this will make me a stronger husband and to never take my wife for granted again. Good luck to anyone and everyone going thru this right now. My prayers are with you all.

Nothing bud you fuc#ed up and if she wants to leave you than she will leave you. You can promise her the world, but in the end it is out of your hands….

Have another fling so she forgets about the first one and has something else to shout about

Too bad, so sad. You play with fire and your gonna get burned. Kiss your sweetie goodbye. She will never trust you again.

USE THIS experience as a hard lesson in Karma and accept that what goes around doesn't stop coming around just because you expect it to stop coming around.

Hang on baby. You have a very rough road ahead of you.

ok, that oprah answer...you're kidding right? Anyway, how'd the fling get your wifes number? There should be a huge weight off your shoulders now that your wife knows...but now you have a new problem. In the end, no matter what you say to your wife, it is her choice whether or not she will stay with you. And if she does stay with you, are you prepared for her to NOT trust a single thing you say for what could possibly be years? Ask her to at least go to marriage counseling with you before she files for divorce.

Agree to go to marriage counseling with her. That's pretty much your best shot. Other than that, take this as a lesson to keep your junk in your pants from now on.

Actions have consequences. Just come clean and accept whatever comes - its all you can do.

It is hard to suggest a course of action, seeing as we really don't know how "sorry" you truly are. Are you sorry for the "act"--or sorry you got CAUGHT? Many cheaters say the same thing about "being sorry", and "I'll never do it again", and "I didn't mean for it to happen"--just to pacify their mate, and perhaps continue doing the SAME thing!!! I've often wondered why cheaters even bother to get into supposed monogamous relationships in the first place. The best any "outsider" can do at this point, is hope you've learned a good lesson, and wish you luck in dealing with this "indiscretion!"

Get on your knees brother and beg, beg, and BEG for forgiveness. Admit that you where wrong and promise to do anything to fix it. Tell her that you where an idiot and that you are more disappointed in yourself than she could ever be. Nothing left to do but the begging. Don't make excuses just ask for forgiveness.

i bet the only thing you regret is getting caught. obviously your not a kid anymore so"you made a stupid mistake" isnt really acceptable anymore. so wouldnt you have taken your wife, your past, your future into consideration?? guess not. set the woman free!!!!

Wow! You royally screwed her! Best of luck trying to get the good one to stay.

you will need to convince her that you are truly sorry and ask her to seek counseling with you. You have broken a trust that takes a long time to repair, if ever.

the fling was a bitch, and you were a royal turd! Why did you do it? drunk, needing sex, or just didn't think of the consequences?

honestly u f-ed up big time. and she has every right to leave you. you can promise her that itll never happen again and stuff but unfortunatly for you there is nothing you can do but hope she forgives you. theres no words or actions to bring back trust. think about if the roles were reversed , how would u feel?

All you can do is make it abundantly clear your desire to stay together and step back and let the chips fall where they may. All she is thinking right now is that if you did really love her than you would not have soiled your vows to her and anything you say or do right now will be vilified by her because of your hideous unforgivable act. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Good luck with this!

get a new one

I dont blame the girl one bit for divorce. Marriage is a sacred oath and it is now in todays day taken too fucking lightly. The trust is broken. Once trust is broken then there is nothing. Having a fling is a macho thing and it is like having your cake and eating it too. Did you not think you werent going to get caught? It pisses me off being that I am a good woman and see other good women who are dedicated and give the world to a man and then have this shit thrown into and cause havoc chaos and drama which no one needs. All I can say is good luck with this and I hope and pray she dont take you back. I wouldnt if I was her.

You are such an asshole!!!!! Your "fling" did something heroic for all the gils out there who stupidly get themselves involved with married users like you. Did you tell her you and your wife weren't getting along? Perhaps that she hadn't put out in a long time, or that you were on the verge of separating? Did your fling know that you had no intention of being with her in any way but the bedroom? My guess is she didn't, or she wouldnt've been so hurt that she decided to get revenge on you by telling your wife what a scum you are. Here's my suggestion: Admit to yourself that you have no respect for women, and you don't deserve to be married. Then let your wife go, to find someone who actually sees a woman as a human being. Jack off.

You obviously don't love her, so it's time to say goodbye.

dude.. you cannot fix this.. I know.. Ive been there and done that.. and I really wish.. I could give you better news. I cheated on my wife almost 20 years ago.. came clean..she never forgave me.. the result was nothing but pain and heartache and to this day, although I am remarried and happy as I can be.. I think about my life changing mistake every single day. A friend told me once, "Marriage may not be forever.. but divorce is". Maybe you can use that somehow and maybe, just maybe be luckier than I was. Divorce is a no win- no one wins, not you, not her and most of all not kids. I did alot of damage.. I was 32, Im 51 now..We went through all the motions.. but in the end. the hurt was just too much to overcome. My mistake was the same as yours only it was well before Internet porn was so easy. I am not a christian, but christians have a saying "never talk to the devil.. you will lose".. they are correct.. I see temptation as the Devil.. and if you entertain it.. you lose.. period. See if you can fix things.. you probably cannot.. if you can.. good.. if not.. then. best action is to preserve what you have.. move on.. and dont screw up again. The good news is you are still alive.

deal with it dumbass. if you loved her you wouldnt have cheated. everyone makes mistakes but nothing will ever be the same so move on.

Wow you are a complete Prick!!!! let me point out the 3 things wrong with your question 1)I cheated on my wife.... THIS AUTOMATICALLY MAKES YOU A COMPLETE WASTE OF TIME FOR YOUR WIFE WHO HAS SAT WAITING FOR YOU TO COME HOME, NOT KNOWING THAT 30 MINS EARLIER YOUR WERE CUMMING INSIDE SOME OTHER CHEAP SKET WHORE. 2)the "fling" phoned her.... TO REFER TO THE GIRL YOU WERE HAPPILY F%£KING AS A FLING BECAUSE SHE TURNED IN YOUR STANK NO GOOD SELF, SHOWS YOU HAVE NO RESPECT FOR YOUR QUICK LAY 3)as she shouts divorce now OH GETTING CAUGHT IS SUCH A HEARTACHE FOR YOU... WELL OOPS YOU F£$KED IT, YOUR LUCK COZ IF I WAS YOUR WIFE I WOULD HAVE ALREADY FORCE FED YOU THE PAPERS. MEN LIKE YOU ARE GREEDY WEAK PATHETIC SCUM WITH A "BOO HOO FOR ME IVE BEEN CAUGHT SHAGGING AROUND" LOOK ON YOUR FACE HOPING EVERYONE WILL FEEL SO SORRY FOR YOU BUT ONLY COZ YOU GOT CAUGHT... ITS COLD WHEN YOUR LONLEY ISNT IT MATE, DONT WORRY MAYBE THE "FLING MAY TAKE PITY ON YOU!!!!!!

Hi everyone , Everyone gets tempted now and then . I have realized after marriage , the other woman on the street is very tempting . Till then, she was not . You just feel like fucking . It is not because anything is missing in your life . I have a great sex life with my wife and everything is fine by God’s grace. The truth is that you will just keep getting tempted. It is all about strong will . I am not going to blame the devil for the temptation . It is just a man thing . Some men are lucky not to have that temptation . Whatever be the case, the truth is that you need to reassure yourself that you can never cheat on your wife . You should also think of the consequences. In short if you really love your wife , you cannot cheat on her . I hate it when some men or women give excuses like they were drunk and that is why they cheated. Even when you are drunk , you know what is happening unless you have kind of passed out and someone else is taking advantage of you . I do not want to be the spoilsport but once the trust is broken ( if you have cheated on your spouse ) , things will never be the same again . You can work hard to make things better but it will never be the same Also , if your spouse cheats on you , do not take revenge by cheating on him or her too . That is childish . You have every right to break up though . Tips on not to cheat 1.) Think of the consequences when tempted. No other woman is worth the love of your wife or husband 2.) Never drink if possible or limit the drink to one if you are not with your spouse . Your colleague ( for women ) might seem nice but want to get into your pants the moment you drop your guard 3.) There is no need for a husband to hang out with another woman ( after marriage ) all alone and there is no need for a wife to hang out with another man ( after marriage ) all alone . You may be the best of friends but it is better to avoid such situations . If you want to meet your friends of the opposite sex , do so with your spouse . Makes things better. I may sound old fashioned but to be honest, you cannot have the cake and eat it too . When you got married, you made a commitment . You knew you would lose some things in life but gain many other things in life . You cannot be married and yet live like a single person . I can promise you that if you stick to the above points , you can never cheat on your spouse .

hold on to your nads man. Thats the best advice I can give you. You see, no one wins when you venture out looking for some extra-curricular fun. The woman will always find out. That is their very nature. Im sure she had an inkling that something wasnt right. Women always know. They have had a life-time of scrutiny and know how to sum you up. Its in the way you stop being intimate, or a comment you make that is unlike you. As for what to do? If you strayed, man that was kinda dumb. I wont belabor that point. But you let it escalate to this point and you have no one to blame but yourself. I dont blame your wife for wanting a divorce. I was in your situation once but I was the one who found out that my wife was cheating on me. It didnt feel very good. Get into counseling right away. Stop being a typical dude and start communicating with your wife. Their arent any quick fixes to this situation. You have to change man. Its on you to make it right with your woman.

Sorry I disagree with all the other posts here...I don't believe in ownwership so therefore no cheating you telling her did not help her or u. people always have this idea that "coming clean" will make things better but it does not..ur wife whether she stays or not is irrepairably damaged and so are you what you should have done is realized this was a problem with u and solved it that way...y did u cheat are u really a sex addict and y..what pain r u trying to run from or are u just bored...it's not about her so it should have never involved her..do research on things that may be causing it...monagamy and marriage are about as fake as relogion!!

You should of thought about keeping your wife before the "fling". It's most likely too late now.

Learn from it and don't treat anyone else like this ever again. She should run as fast as she can and you should learn your lesson. If you do want to make things work, go to counselling and hope for the best.

You don't love her. Why keeping her?

Tell your wife the "fling" is lying as she wants to marry you and you refused.

i am one of those so called flings i am also a christian the man i had the affair with told so many lies.some men will say anything.just for sex.he must have lied to his wife also.you must remember that alot of couples join forces agaist the other woman in a mysyoginistic way putting blame on her as a scapegoat for his infedelity.its amazing how nasty these men become after theve satisfied their lust.these casanoves dont love anybody but themselves.they have a housewife prostitute complex they still want to keep their little housewife (mother) and have a bit on the side.

Suppose the shoe was on the other foot and your wife was the cheater? how fast would you seek a divorce attorney? Next time you see a group of homeless people, stop and ask how many are divorced for cheating. their wife and court took all their possessions and the court will do the same to you. Ever see a homeless person on the side of the road with a sign stating "will work for food"? This is your destiny and you have no one to blame, but yourself. Sorry, but this is one man that is not on your side.

Cheating is not okay, but what was the other woman thinking? Did she call because you said you did not want to cheat anymore? Because you regretted it? You are in a very difficult position now. Not only did you cheat but because your wife got the story from someonelse she will not likely trust you a 100% ever again. You should figure out what you want from yourself, your wife and your life and make a decision. Your wife shouts divorce now because you have broken her heart into million pieces. You will not be able to repair her heart but if you really want her to stay with you, you could at least die trying. This is it, this is the part where you can change your life for the better or worse. It's the only chance you get. It is all up to you!

Does no one but me every think about the consequences of their actions??? If i did do this i would at least be prepared for the fallout.

Give her plenty of time and if it will permit, space. Anything you say now will have no credential. All you can do now is to not only seek her forgiveness, but seek help for yourself in this time. Both my wife and I are multiply guilty of this, but now thankfully are clean in this respect; it can be overcome.

People have a right to have strong emotions about cheating. Yell, scream, cry, do whatever it takes the get the pain out. It's one of the most painful things that can happen to someone in a relationship. They have a right to their rage so stop slapping them again and again for it. I'm reading these responses by people who blame the victim for being angry. Just stop it. Stop it right now. I understand that kind of rage. I don't enjoy getting angry but I don't enjoy feeling pain either and especially when someone else has been negligent. Some sins simply cannot be forgiven. I give someone a lot of credit for being able to forgive a cheater. It's not in me as a person to forgive someone who betrays my trust. The relationship will simply need to die.

I would say the ball is in your wife's court now. You played, now the decision is hers. If you want to keep her, you should have thought about that before you cheated. Now, all you can do is plead your case and hope.

Why do "guys" ALWAYS worry about this . . . . .A-F-T-E-R. . . . . .the "fact"????????????????????????

i did this also and continued because i was being black mailed. now two years later i have married her had two children and than told her. think she will forgive me. P.S. my wife asked me into a three some with the other person first before the cheating.

If your looking for mercy, then look it somewhere else. You made your bed now sleep in it !!!

Man I feel your pain. I am going through the same thing. Don't listen to all the idiots who say it's cut and dry. Life is not that simple. I too loved my wife, but allowed myself to cheat and she likewise is pissed and wants a divorce. I was unhappy in my marriage after 16 years, I asked her to go to counseling with me, and she told me she wasn't interested in sex, so I was weak and immature and selfish and cheated. A real man would have stood in there and fought for his wife and not accepted her answers until we had worked things out, but I was to insecure. Now I see the foolish, selfish thought processes I was going through, probably too late! For 16 years, I was that man who would never consider cheating, and then, there I was doing the unthinkable. I hope, in time, she will look at our kids and the 18 good years we have had together and see that I have changed and be willing to take a chance on us again. Curious Curious has the only formula that makes sense, and even then it depends on my wife's (and your wife's) ability to move past the pain and anger. That may never happen. I sure hope she can, when I see her so angry, it kills me because it's like I am hurting her all over again. Yes her anger makes me sad, but anger really consumes the person feeling it too! I wish you luck! And I pray for my wife to heal as well. Then, when she's healed maybe, just maybe, we'll have a chance?

I was cheated on by my wife and I forgave her. It wasn't easy but I did it because I asked myself, what I would want from her if I had cheated. For all of you women that are so brutal to lowlife, I think it's sad that you have decided to attack someone who, worst case, is being honest. While we don't know al the details of why he did what he did, rest assured that we have all done things that we have regretted. And those of you, who are judging him, should remember that one day, you will need someone to forgive you for something and I pray that you don't get what you put out. As for my situation, I am not desperate for a woman and I didn't forgive my wife for money, her looks, our kids, or anything other than, I loved her. And she didn't admit anything to me. I found out because I got a call from the person she was with, and he new she was married. The truth is, I wanted to just give up and be alone, but I watched her fight the alcohol abuse, sleeping pills, even the times she was accusing me to cover her guilt. Now ladies I am sure some of you are trying to excuse her by ASSUMING, that she was pushed into doing this. Maybe she was abused, or I didn't spend enough time with her, or wasn't there for her, or wasn't satisfying her sexually. There are a great many assumptions that everyone could have, but I forgave her because, she was dying inside because of how she felt about what she did. And she cheated with a man she happened to meet at a party with one of her girlfriends (a girlfriend, who was single and just bitter over her failed relationships). By the time everything was out, the same friends that convinced her to hide it from me were the same ones calling me to see if I needed any help or if I needed anyone to talk to. But instead of talking to them or even talking to my family, I talked to my wife. I asked her why and let her do all the talking, what I found out was amazing. She never planned to cheat or to be dishonest; she and my friend didn't plan secret meetings or calls. Now, I didn't get the answer myself, but what was so amazing was that she wasn't mad a me. I worked, paid the bills, spent time with my kids and even did my share of the house work. What was missing in all this was our relationships with God. We quit going to church, quit praying together, quit reading the word together, and quit fellowshipping with other married couples in the church. The more money I made, the more things we bought and the more hours I had to work to pay for it. Long story short, we didn't keep our relationships (Not Religion) with God as the center of our marriage. So when we allowed that relationship die, we allowed things of this world to grow. Funny thing is, that I didn't know why I was supposed to forgive her, I just did. I forgave my wife the day we were married for everything that she would do in the future. I forgave her so that I could love her beyond her faults and beyond my heart. Three years after her cheating, we still didn't put God back into a place of Authority in our lives, and sure enough, I cheated and she didn't forgive me, until one night she woke up crying. She drove all the way to my brother's home where I was staying at 3 am. I opened the door and she grabbed me and said that, she deserved what I had done because she did it first. Now, before you get offended by this, ladies, we were separated due to her drinking when I met someone else. But, we were still married and to me that is still cheating. Anyway, I pulled her to me and told her that I forgave her for what she had done three years ago and she didn't deserve what I had done to her. We both got down on our knees and asked God to forgive us both for cheating on him. We finally came to realize that everything we build, must be built on a foundation, everything. If you build your marriage on the morals of this world, then it will fail eventually, because the morals of today are far different from years ago. Today's morals are based on what society accepts, not what God accepts. We say it's okay to live with someone that you aren't married to. We have churches fighting about which denomination is right, Baptist, catholic, Methodist, etc. We allowed prayer to be taken out of public schools and watched guns, drugs and sex take over. Truly our nation if not the world today has been building its foundation on everything but the word of God. So to lowlife, I would say to you keep allowing God to work through you and trust him with your family. The world may say you made your bed now lay in it; God my brother does not. If you have truly given your life to God then he has cast your sins into the sea of forgetfulness and if your wife desires to remain with you, then just keep being a Man of Integrity and communicate with your wife on all matters. I believe that God can make her a crown on your head if you just love her like God loved us. Don't let anything come between you and God, nor you and your wife and you both will do fine. For all you haters and those who want to judge, I pray that you remain as perfect as you believe you are so that you will never have a need to be forgiven for being as perfectly flawed as most of us are. God bless to you all.

I hope she divorces you. I'm sure she can do better than a cheating loser.

I couldn't forgive sorry :-( And i can't help thinking if i were the other women i'd have to go out find a boy i liked and throughly enjoy myself (if you know what i mean) and therefore make my husband sitting at home go through the same torment of emotions as i'd gone through. Yes its tit for tat but only then would i believe he would truly understand what i he'd put me through. Perhaps then we could try and fix things but somehow i doubt he'd be so willing then.