My boyfriend made me have anal sex when I didn't want to do that. I dont really care because we have sex so much all the time and I loved him a while now. I dont feel attacked like if a stranger did this and took something from me. Is this still rape?
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yeah it is , since you did not want to have anel sex and he did it to you anyway , then in my book it is rape and i have been there myself so i know what iam talking about.
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Yes, it is still rape. Any time you say no to sex in any situation and the partner does it anyway, it is still rape.
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If you don't say yes it's legally rape.
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yes that is the crime of forcible sodomy and thus it was rape. You best report him to the police at once.
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Yes - absolutely. You should get rid of him at the very least, because nobody would impose this on a person they loved, from which I conclude that much as you may love him, he loves himself more than he loves you.
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It is rape and you sound like your in denial of already knowing that it's rape, you need to get him out and get help.
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Yes this is rape, regardless of whether or not you love him. He forced you to do something you didn't give consent for. He needs professional help & you should even report him to the police as who knows who else he has done this to or might in the future? He is a danger & should be locked up. I hope you are OK & soon realise what kind of "man" he is before you start to get seriously emotionally hurt.
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It depends. If you had a mutual agreement for sex then it isn't but if he ripped your clothes off when you didn't want to have sex, then yes, its rape.
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Um - I'm sorry about this, he shouldn't have done it, but in a lot of situations I don't really think it is- or at least you'd have a hell of a time getting it to court. Are we talking he ripped off all your clothes and pinned you down and physically made you do it? In which case it is rape and you should consider reporting him (although be aware in advance you'll still be given hell by the police on it - still if he was violent or forceful I would recommend that you at least report it and get away from him as quickly as possible - you want the police to be aware of his violent tendencies even if they can't do anything to prosecute.) Or are we talking you were having "normal" sex and he accidently-on-purpose slipped it in the wrong hole without you specifically asking for it? In which case - that happens a lot and it's not really what most people would class as rape - I'd settle for just asking him not to do it again.
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No one makes you do anything, God gave you Will and you make a choice, if at any time you said no and stop he must stop. If he doesnt stop when you have told him this time what is it to say that he wont stop the next time!
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It does bother you because you are asking for advice. If he forced you to do something that you did not want to do...yes it was rape. If he did this once, what will be the next thing he makes you do against your will? Do you think this is love? You know..when you love someone, you respect them. He does not respect you.
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I think he may have raped your self worth and your soul. Throw a plug in there and see how he likes poking a rubber cork.
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If you did not want to do it, and told him so it is rape. The same is true if you are married and your husband does something like that to you. It doesn't have to be by someone you don't know, many rapes are commited by people the victim does know. That is part of why so many rapes go unreported. Be careful with this boyfriend. You say you love him, and have for a while. Thats fine. But you have to ask yourself if you can really love someone who does not respect your boundries.
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depends...did he talk you into it or did he 'force' you and hold you down? either way it wasnt cool. a boyfriend can rape a girlfriend, a husband can rape a wife...
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Define "made me."
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Why did you change your name from Special Princess to Bastard?
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if you said "no" and he ignored you, then legally it is. Just remember the repercussions of your actions in accusing another person of Rape, if you win, his life is ruined. I don't advocate rape, if he used sex to hurt you then the justice system should have it's go on him, however if you're just miffed that he convinced you to do something you regret then you would be ruining the life of an innocent young man. Recommendation is that if he didn't hurt you, and you have nothing against him, then let it lie.
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a form of "mild rape"
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yeah if he makes u do it even tho u dont want to its rape.
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If you have decided that you don't care, and the fact that you would post this question might possibly indicate you have some doubts about this, or this is not truly how you absolutely feel, then that might have a bearing on what what you decide to do now, but in any case if it's not just that he "made you" loosely speaking (that you went against your better judgment), then it is not rape, technically speaking, but a crime of similar seriousness, forcible sodomy (although in some jurisdictions they've redone the law to provide for x degree of criminal sexual conduct, as in Michigan). In any case I'll observe, though it really goes beyond the answer to your question, that in that instance your boyfriend acted terribly and outrageously, and it is difficult to believe that such behaviour isn't characteristic of a character that is practically evil, but what you will do is up to you.
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don t worry
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Ok here’s the problem with all the Yes, First did you say "NO" I do not want to has sex? Did you consent to it? Did you try to push him off? Also you said he made you have sex. Does made mean he forced you, physically, or kept asking you for it, tell you gave in? There is not enough information here to automatically to a conclusion.
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If you "don't really care", then why are you asking? But if he "made" you do it against your will, then a. He raped you. b. You'd better leave him. NOW! c. Depend upon it, he will force you to do other things you don't want. Re-read all previous answers. They're right. But your immediate need is to get the hell out of there, within the next three minutes. Grab your purse and GO!
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It depends, did you SAY you didn't want to?
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Yes!!! If you were not willing - it was wrong.
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Rape is defined as unwanted sexual intercourse even if you are married to the person it still can be rape and in fact there have been many cases of abuses in relationships that include rape and they have been prosecuted
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yes this is still rape no man should ever make a girl do something sexual that she isn't comfortable with. he should be okay with that id he "loves" you.
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he don't love u gurl someone that loves dosent hurt u if i was u a wouldn't put up with this dumb stuff ur better than that if u let him do that the first time is going to keep on doing it even u dont want to let him go he's not woth it really think about a bet u he would want nothing up his but there alot of nice men out there u just have to fing the right one that will treat u right like my boyfriend that treats me like a princess and never makes me do stuff a dont want to thats what u call a real men
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any type of forced sexual contact is raped. If i just want to chill out with my boyfriend who is 19 and i love him, and he takes advantage of me and rapes me, then yes its rape. I didn't want it so i consider it rape. i would have punched him where it hurt so he would feel exactly how you felt. i let my boyfriend try that before and i ended up almost crying after 15 seconds because he began ramming it in when i said stop. Then proceeded on putting my arms behind my back while doing so, yeah..... rape
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yes it is rape
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I would say yes it is, if you didnt want it to happen... then yes it is rape p.s. didn't it hurt??? cuz i cried!!
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YES its still rape. The same thing happend to me when i was in highschool. I was in my junior year and I had been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months and he one day just went nuts when we were having sex, he flipped me over and said he was gonna do me in the butt weather i liked it or not and he just starting ramming it in me w/ no lube at all. I was screaming and crying and begging him to get off, after that I've never been the same when it comes to anal. Till now i wouldnt even try it and when i was 16 when it happend and now im 22. I have a wonderful boyfriend who has never had anal because he wanted to wait to do it w/ someone he really loves. and i cannot do it, whenever he comes near me and wants to try i start to freak out and scramble like crazy to get away. its really hard for me because i love him and i know he loves me but i need to find a way to please my man, and calm myself down. Ne way to answer ur question, yes, it was rape, anal rape.
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Like My Favourite Life, I'd be interested to know just how he "made" you submit to anal sex.If he PERSUADED you by talking, without physical force or threatening, then you were actually giving your consent. But if he threatened you in any way, or used physical force, then he raped you. Beyond question. If he did, then he's seriously twisted, and you'd be safer if you got the hell away from him.
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When someone forces you to do have anal sex against your will it's rape. You may love him, but I don't think he loves you or respects you.
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he's a queer..only fags want to do it in peoples ass....i know i was with a guy for 5 years...he raped me in there and always wanted it like that,he also did yard work for open fags and stayed gone weekends to do it.....it wasnt until i left him that i realised that he was what i know he is. If your man wants to do you in that place...he's queer!
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Yes. I´m sorry, but if you didn´t what it and he did it anyway, that is rape.
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