Take some time for yourself. Have him watch the kids and take off for a weekend on your own.

It sounds to me that isolation is your biggest problem. You really need to find something that you can enjoy away for the kids. You need to have something for yourself to help you refuel. That's not something your husband can provide or even understand, probably. There are all kinds of groups and things you can join where a woman with kids can get away for a few hours to reinvigorate themselves. Tell you husband that you need to do that and I'm sure he'll be glad to help. He has no idea what you're going through. You'll have to put it in terms he understands. I hope you are able to work things out. Don't shut yourself up in the world of your kids, it's not good for you nor them.

Are you over weight? Are you stressed when he comes home from work? Marriages change after children. I would suggest having your parents or a nanny watch the three little ones a friday afternoon from 3pm until Saturday afternoon say around 3pm. Book a nice dinner with your husband and don't let him know your plans. Book a nice hotel...with a massage and spa there...have candles and chocolates in the room as well with a present from yourself and a card with all of your thoughts :) Pack his close in a bag as well and put it in the trunk. Don't let him know until you're at the resturant what you've planned. You can have an intimate evening together to talk about jus the two of you and how you feel and his thoughts. Children are pricey so he may be thinking he has to provide and he may be a bit stressed. You can ask him about work, get specific and try to get some detail to know what is happening at work. The more you'll know the more you can understand. Hopefully this should work, but lets say for example you feel like you need to get away from the screaming children. Talk to your husband about it and you can have a get away weekend by yourself somewhere or plan a get away weekend with a close girlfriend of yours...so you can have a fabulous time.

It doesn't sound to me that he is really hearing you. Maybe if he did and heard how yu felt he could change or help you and you two could find that love you had at the beginning of your relationship. I think when you sa you feel trapped and that you don't think he loves you, he just says he does, then he isn't hearing that you are saying how you feel. He needs to realize that you do not FEEL loved, no matter how much he tells you. Men can be dense about this. They tend to think if they say it, that that makes everything okay. It's how men relate. Unfortunately, they tend to believe their friends. But you have to make it clear you don't feel it and he needs to do something so you do. Try talking about what made you two fall in love at the beginning, what drew you two together, the obstacles you had to overcome to find each other. Talk about times before kids. Make each other the priority in the relationship, not the children....and you BOTH have to do that. He needs to treat you like the most important thing. When the adults are happy, the children soon follow. I hope you can overcome this. It's a bad place to be in, I'm sure.

MAYBE HE DOES LOVE YOU BUT IS HE IN LOVE WITH YOU?

well, maybe u could go on a diet (if your over weight) and then for one week you could send the kids to their grandmothers, then u and ur husband can go on holiday somewhere (maybe to the place you spent your honey moon) and then you can feel that youthful love again. oh little tip, don't tell him if your planning a trip just say th kids are going to grandmas and i want to how u something.

Well I sit your husband down and talk to him and then plan to get away with just you and husband to see if that helps. Also seek therapy. You may also wont to look at yourself, have your apperance change that may be another reason. Try some things the thing that I mention above if that helps.