I feel that my relationship is full of secrets, but not from me from my better half, is it wrong of me to pretend to be someone else on the internet to get answers about our relationship? I mean all i did was create another screen name, who am i hurting?
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No its not necesarily wrong but you wont get an answer that will help you from the question you asked. You say hes full of secrets but we dont even know why you think this. For all we or you know at this point you could just be paranoid and jealous.
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Although I don't usally condone being sneaky in a relationship. If you think he's keeping something from you and you need to find out what with out starting an all out war there's nothing wrong with this. But if you have doubts you have reason and just steel yourself for what you might find. If you get the bomb in your lap at least you'll have proof he can't deny. To me all you're doing is saving yourself the heart ache of finding out second hand.
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Maybe you're hurting yourself. Consider; if you can truly understand and trust and love and accept yourself, without judgment, then you can accept others without judgment. They are what they are. Accept your "better half" without judment. He/she is whatever they are. Your relationship is whatever you make it. Relationships require communication and this is one of the most difficult of human arts. So communicate with your partner, and listen to the responses. Truly listen. When your partner describes feelings they are the partner;s feelings and they are genuine for the partner. They don't have to have any meaning for you for them to be important to the partner. So honor your partner as you would honor yourself. And you will build a lasting and deep relationship.
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