Are you sitting down to an actual spagetti dinner? If there are actual meatballs present, no. If not, maybe. EDIT: You changed your question I see..added a bit more on?

I didn't have spaghetti at that time but he did!

I wouldnt take it as flirting.

You are married to his brother. Has he no respect for his family and the santity of marriage? Tell him to keep his sly comments and meatballs, scrotum balls and everything else away from you.

I wish that I could use the "add a comment option" but I can't for some reason. Anyway, he has done things many times right in front of his wife that would be considred very bold. Take for instance one time I was getting in the pool, I made sure at first that no one was around. i am very self-concious of myself, and next thing I knew he was right behind me watching me getting into the pool. Freaked me out!

To Riff-Raff AKA Booby Prize, thank you for your comment nicely put by the way. I'm glad someone sees my point of view that he's screwed up. Thanks again.

Honestly, I've told my husband and he doesn't see it as flirting, and he has never said anything to him.

flirting no......disgusting yes

for some reason it won't let me add a comment. But thank you for what you said I agree, I like your style!

i don't think so. just silly.

Whether it's flirting or not, it's definitely rude. It seems to me that if he's making comments like that to the degree of making you uncomfortable, then it would be at least partially on your husband's shoulders to tell him to stop. Until then, you're best option is just to ignore him as best you can and not respond too much. Most people will get tired of messing with you soon enough if you never reciprocate.

Thank you I agree. It's just so stupid I can't even imagine how his wife feels. I feel sorry for her but I do my best to try a get along with her no matter what. and that has taken me a long time to do. Believe me! I've tried everything that i can to make her realize that I am HAPPILY MARRIED.

If there are serious undertones to the question then tell him to sod off and do not mention to anybody else unless he keeps on. Do not allow yourself to be alone with him. It has to be said, it's a pretty crude thing to say - at best, it is disrespectful to you and his wife, at worse, it is downright unacceptable and vulgar. We are talking gutter level. When you tell him you are not interested make it very, very, very clear - do not mince your words. Do not ask him not to say such things, tell him, so that there is no room for doubt - at all. If he does as asked and puts and end to it and future comments, leave it at that and do spend time alone with him - ever - it could lead to problems.

You people are just too cool! I thank you so much for the advice. I'm so gald i joined AB. I know where to go now if I need advice! YOU ALL ROCK!!!!!!!!!!

I'd take it as a joke but also I'd be turning round quick smart and telling him to grow up and act his real age and not his shoe-size and to remember he's your brother in-law for a reason and to be respectful of the marriage that ties you to him. That said, as to whether it was filrting or not, I'd be wanting to know what his exact expression was, what the circumstances were - ie, at a family dinner, out to lunch, in public or at someone's house... Also it would depend on how you percieve him - ie, as a friend, potentially something more (hey, don't shoot me, I'm just playing devil's advocate) etc. However, the fact that you said no would indicate to me that you're not interested in any way at all. Provided you haven't joked with him in a similar manner in the past, it's inappropriate and whilst it may seem harmless, it's a form of sexual harassment. I feel badly for you - not only do you have a sleazy brother in law, but also one who can't even come up with a more clever line than 'want to have one of my balls?' (I'm paraphrasing and assuming his exact words of course). He could have at least been cute and asked you to help him re-enact the spaghetti scene from Lady and The Tramp (and I'm not saying you're a dog or a tramp by the way).. Ah, I'm bordering on being insulting so shall stop now. lol.

Are you serious, he's really asked you that? How rude and childish of him to say such thing. To me, it sounds like flirting. Seems like he's asking, in a exaggarate form, to see if you want to...It's absolutely despicable, especially when it's coming from your brother-in-law! I think you should have a talk with him to settle things straight.

harmless fun get over it.

Yes. Lewd flirting.

I don't get it. It sounds to me like he was saying he didn't lick his meatball that much, because you said you didn't want one, so he said he didn't lick it that much, like he thought you said no because of his germs, from licking it, except, well, he didn't lick it that much at all now did he? I mean, I'm pretty sure us guys don't lick our own balls. So if I got this right then he wasn't flirting or being rude, he was making a totally unoffensive remark. If I'm wrong, sorry, but it's gettin' late here and I've had a few so if I misunderstood it I'm sorry. Just explain it to me more plainly please.

I would classify it as brotherly teasing.

no

no. I only got the impression from your question that he was making a joke. maybe a crude joke, but nothing more.

It's the sound that makes the music, not the words. It may or it may not be, depending on how it's done. Is he generally teasing you? Is he teasing others as much as he teases you. It seems like a comment anyone would make to anyone...especially a parent to a child, cos kids are sensitive in that regard.

No, he is playing with you - i do that stuff all the time. A woman once said go me 'your gay but i notice that you flirt with me' i was completely baffled. She was miscronstruing (however you spell that) my larking about with flirting, very odd it was too. She did quite like me tho, so i could see where it was coming from. Do you want him to flirt with you?

On second thought, if you brother-in-law can lick his own balls, I am surprised that he even leaves his house.

hes a F R E A K>>>>>>>>>

He's not flirting, trying to have a laugh, im sure his meatballs were nice anyway :)

As yu are Anonymous we have no way to know whether you are a male or a female. Also you you havn't mentioned whether your brother-in-law is a gay or regular. In the absence of these details we can't come to any conclusion as to whether his behavior amounts to flirting or not.