It sounds like she's trying to figure out which one of you she wants. You are on the 'back burner', as they say. Walk.

Walk-she's using you as her fall back when Romeo isn't any fun any more.

it depends on how attached you are to her and how much you are willing to go through. i would be a bit suspicious of her other relationship, although it is possible that she is telling the truth. if it were me, i'd leave, but i think you have some soul searching to do.

This is a tough one! It sounds like she is confused and is not sure what she wants. She wants some space, but is not ready to let go of you and said she loves you. Unless it's too painful, I would hang in there for a while. If you could talk her into counseling, that might be useful. If you decide to hang in there, until she makes up her mind, you should spend time with your other friends. If the relationship with the other guy is really platonic, then she should have no problem with the three of you getting together. If she wants to keep him away from you, then you have serious cause for concern. Good luck!

Walk. Thats not the way you treat the person you care about. You are clearly at different points in your lives, and she has a lack of respect for you that cant be fixed. You DO NOT want to be with some one who views you as a "the guy she wants if she cant find anything better". If youre thinking that something is seriously wrong with her actions... bingo. The thoughts going through your head are right, dont be afraid to act on them. She is taking advantage of you and youre better than that because you sound like an understanding person. Let her go, and dont take her back when she wants you to, because she WILL want to get back with you. I guarantee it. Remember her actions when that time comes and walk away again. Youll be doing yourself a huge favor. Hit me up if you want an opinion on anything else she is doing... good luck

Dump her she's making you her "back-up" guy

Definitely dump her. Walk away, salvage your pride, and cry yourself to sleep or do whatever you gotta do, but DO NOT be her back-up guy. Find yourself a new girl, I guarantee she'll want you back, and then YOU can decide whether or not you wanna be with her.

walk ! walk walk !

Give her space and if that doesn't work out then walk, no need to burn bridges you don't have to.

Jump on her one last time and then dump her. Give her all the space she'll ever need

This one is easy. "Later bitch" You don't need the stress of her mixed emotions messing with your head. Find someone that wants to be with you now, not after she's done with some other guy.

She wants to keep you as a backup. If you keep hanging on for her, she'll never respect you. This guy that's pluntonic, she's either lying, or she just hasn't gotten that far yet.

You need to walk. She's too scared to make a clean break, so you'll need to be the one to do it. I think she knows deep down it's over, but is unsure of herself, so she's trying to leave an opening incase she's made a mistake. She doesn't want to hurt you either - but dragging this on will hurt way more than saying goodbye amicably now. Good luck to you.

drop kick her buns to the curb then dont walk but run like hell away from her shes a real bummer.

I believe it is time to call this relationship, such as it is .. OVER .... If she needs "Space" then why is she hanging out with another guy ? Like Judge Judy says ; "IF it doesn't make sense ; it isn't true ... " +5

Imo there is no such thing as space in a relationship. You are either together or you are not. To think a situation where "we are together but we don't do the things that others who are together do but there's still do's and don'ts like we are in a relationship" will ever turn out to be a good thing is a farce...and frankly setting one's self up to get hurt. When you think about it, she's basically saying she doesn't want to be around you for awhile (or forever). As much as it sucks to realize the problem with her situation is you it is the main factor to consider. Yeah there's a myriad of problems she might be dealing with but when a couple is together and happy they tackle those problems together...it's human nature to WANT one's so's companionship in times of angst or sorrow, not reject it or want space from it..unless as I said before the cause of it in her opinion is you. Some people might actually think the concept of giving each other space could work but as you are experienceing, someone usually goes and steps outside some perceived boundary (with another person) the other partner is not cool with. There are no rules to who can see or do what when giving each other space, but clearly it's not a free for all or you would just consider yourselves broken up. But what are the rules/boundaries? Are there universal rules/boundaries for a "space" situation? Clearly rules and boundaries haven't been established between the two of you. In all honesty, from what I have seen of this kind of thing..it's usually a passive aggressive (chicken shit if you will) way of breaking up. The type of person who does this kind of thing, usually wants to see if they will miss you and they also want to get distance, hoping the distance will dissolve the relationship and kind of do the breaking up for them. My advice, go do your thing, live your life and when/if she's ready to try the relationship thing with you again..renegotiate on your terms. There's no reason your life should be put on hold while she figures herself out.

Plutonic? I think it's a Freudian Slip. :) That's definitely plutonic, like in very explosive. And You are being duped. . "FY, bitch" is what you should say. Such women deserve to be hurt, for lying and manipulation. But it's not worth the jail time. So walk away.

i don't understand she says she loves you but has a plutonic relation with a another ,never trust a girls answer they say something and they mean something else a lot of time,i would suggest leave her stop talking to her suddenly and see what happens.It's just a hunch, but i think she needs some time to decide between u and the other guy.i would say just don't call her don't message her avoid her as far as possible , and see after sometime what her reaction will be if she does'nt call you that means she doesn;t love you ,any ways just try leaving her from today itself , so when something bad happens u would be prepared for it.

If it was really plutonic why would she need space ? Think about it ! WALK !!!

Everyone summed it up.Run don't walk.You deserve better.