by EyePod on April 18th, 2007

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Why are people Loners and hate society?What causes this anti-social behavior?

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by Anonymous on April 18th, 2007
Well, lots of things. Many, many people, myself included prefer to be alone some, or even the majority of the time. This isn't necessarily a bad thing - being able to enjoy one's own company and make one's own entertainment is actually quite a virtue, and many people who enjoy spending time alone are actually much more well adjusted than those who require constant social interaction.
Some people have unusual interests which not many people share, and therefore find it difficult to relate to those around them. Some people simply feel uncomfortable making small talk and conversation, or have little interest in the way conversations tend to go (lets face it there's only so much we get out of talking about the weather and asking pwople what they do for a living) - either they actively dislike it, or they find it difficult. Some people are just shy, or lack confidence either in certain company or company in general and so seek to avoid it - they may have felt rejected by society as a young person (perhaps bullying at school) this can sometimes grow up into a resentment of the society which has excluded them. Some people are actually exceptionally gifted in one or more areas, and find it difficult to meet people they can converse with on their own intellectual level. (Some people just think they're gifted, and don't want to waste time on their "inferiors"!)
Some people are actually willing to interact with society, but for being "odd" are shut out from it, and eventually withdraw and stop trying.
And then there are various mental disorders - too numerous to list, anything from autism to schizophrenia, which distort the way a person relates to others, and acts in society and can caus ethem to become a loner.
So many reasons.
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- i think i feel this way because I long for friends i cant find. Sometimes i feel like a goose thats lost its flock
  
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  by EyePod on April 18th, 2007
- I think everyone feels like that sometimes. You'd be amazed how many people look like they're social butterflies who actually long for a friend who they could really be themselves with.
  
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  by Anonymous on April 18th, 2007
- lady fuschia: 3 points for you:)Very well stated.
  
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  by HappyGoLucky on August 9th, 2007
- why can`t folk be themselfs if they don`t wanna be like other people and minger then why get angry over it forand also our society that we live in is controlling and power hungry and i think that the quiet ones know more than the louds mouths do.Why can`t a person live their odd life without being called crazy or be label with some mental disorder or something?Why/If they aren`t hurting u then don`t worry about it
  
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  by dylan1495 on March 3rd, 2010
- This is the best! I absolutely agree in every aspect and every level. Also, sometimes people are fearful of whom they don't understand (hence the oddness) and so the "odd" person will feel left out, and they become more powerful by the time spent alone, & when they return to society , they are even more magnificent:) I believe this , because as we separate ourselves from what is "expected", we may become more in tuned with the spirit and soul..What is more beautiful then that? to not live in a world filled with lies, but staying true to yourself, when society is based on something so naive---manipulation and control . wealth and recognition.
  
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  by Anonymous on December 4th, 2010
- WELL, in my case its this.
  
  This goes for teens. i am 17 by the way.
  
  maybe because you teens are idiots. Maybe because some of us rather be alone then be around you. Maybe your lack of mental thinking comprehension, ignorance, arrogance and overall stupidity of thinking the only kind of smart is good grades in school. Bull****. Maybe some people prefer to be alone, and some are outkasted, but in my case, I have lost faith in society, and I am confidence that due to the corrupt media, parents, and kids themselves, will be responsible for the downfall of this country, or heavily ongoing increase of stupidity in the next 20 years. You will maybe see teens like me 1 in a million. Realistically, 1 in 8000-18000. People say, well your 17, your opinion doesn't matter. I say "Hey, just because you were a fu**ing idiot when you were 17 doesn't mean I am, even though many teens probably are. Well, i hope you gain some understand from this, and understand my hatred. I will keep my less than 8 close friends and stick with that. Good-looking and smart.
  Did you ever think, when somebody acts like they are better than MOST people, that maybe, rarely, it might be true? Usually not, but this time, it is. When I'm proved wrong, i thank the person for it, and begin listening to them. You won't here from a teen like me again.
  
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by Admiral Woehrle on December 3rd, 2008
I've been a loner for as far back as I can remember. In Pre-K I refused to sit down and interact with any of the other kids or even the teacher. Once they took us outside to go to the church next door and I took off running and didn't let any of the teachers get close to me. After that my parents didn't make me go back.

25 years later I am still a loner and I absolutely hate every aspect of modern society. Our live & jobs have lost all meaning. We are drones that are forced spend all day in our offices or cubicles doing menial work that has no real impact on anything. I hate being forced to conform to what society expects of me. Another major annoyance is the people. 99% of people are complete morons with no common sense or manners.

I often day dream that myself and a small group of people are the only survivors of an apocalypse.
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- I think we are kindred spirits on this one.
  
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  by Tareesh feels like lifes third wheel on December 3rd, 2008
- I'm happy I am not the only one who feels this way. Have any experiences you want to share?
  
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  by Admiral Woehrle on December 4th, 2008
- So what do you do about it? I've felt like this for as long as I remember too and it almost makes me feel sick. I often have the same daydream.
  
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  by PoisonFlowers on February 24th, 2010
- People loose their respect, or they don't even learn in. I never can confirm , and that's the battle in my life that is the most challenging, and it gives me something to do.
  
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  by Anonymous on December 4th, 2010
- I'm sorry to hear there are people who don't have the emotional capacity to see beyond percieved negativity. But hell, if the world inside their heads is euphoria compared to what can be realized....let them be. I dated someone like that and apparently didn't live up to her fantasy. Being with her was like driving behind someone with a right hand blinker on, then she makes a sudden left hand turn, then decided that she should have gone right. It was bizzarre and I was uber-patient with her indecisiveness. Her thoughts and plans seemed solid but her actions were surreal.
  
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by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on June 12th, 2007
A good solid sense of realism, primarily. Society is largely full of false fronts and plastic people, and the falser and more plastic you are, the higher you rank. For those people who prefer reality, sometimes being alone is better than having to pretend.

(Disclaimer: I tend to be very middle-of-the-road socially. I enjoy people. I also enjoy being alone. This is just my point of view from the perspective of the loners I know.)
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- Eltinwe is away on vacation: That is very true the more fake you are look like barbie or ken.where make up, where expensive clothes and are vain and if you are loaded with money and expensive everything that is what they want and that is why hollywood is the way it is,because of society.3 points for you.
  
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  by HappyGoLucky on August 9th, 2007
- Thank you random anonymous benefactor. I'm surprised nobody else even noticed this answer - I thought it one of my better ones.
  
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by ChelseaMark on April 18th, 2007
Some people just like to be left to their own devices and don't like having their day's activities dictated by other people. There is nothing wrong with it if you are happy within yourself with the way you are because at the end of the day you're the most important person.
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- CFCMARK: 3 points for you, Very true who wants to be told what to do and when to do it and get up at 4 am and do the "rat race" thing.It is cool when you have freedom to do whatever you want to.
  
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by Gideon on April 18th, 2007
Well, certainly not all people are loners, and not all loners hate society, but I think I know what you're asking.

America in particular is making an art of isolation. The world has never been so connected before and yet there's never been such a lack of real life social interaction. We set up websites and call total stangers "friends." We chat online and consider it dating. We've made the inside of our vehicles into living rooms, where we barely look out the window and tint our glass so dark no one else can look in. We can shop online, chat online, have sex online. We screen our phone calls thanks to the luxury of caller ID.

So now enter a young person who feels as though he doesn't fit in and finds it hard to express himself. Where does he turn? To the illusion that he's part of the world because he has a computer? That illusion falls apart when he truly needs to reach out. No one's there because no one's ever really been there and now this young person lacks the social skills to carve a place for himself in the world outside his door.

It doesn't help that we are inundated with media that tells us we're special, we deserve more, we're worth it. When don't get all of 'it' as we're told we should, we blame easy targets rather than change our own behaviors. We blame teachers, parents, the government. Why haven't they given us what we're told so clearly we deserve? What you end up with is a lonely, unaccomplished person who fails to see he is responsible for his own life and future.
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- Gideon- You are very smart, that is the best answer i've seen on this AnswerBag site. you are very bright!!! I think that is why some people are not too friendly and out going any more,due too the fact we are not allowed to talk to strangers, trust any one in general,
  
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  by HappyGoLucky on June 12th, 2007
- Thank you for the compliments. You have a point; we are taught suspicion and fear of others as habit now. When you start from a point of mistrust, it makes it that much harder to connect.
  
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  by Gideon on June 13th, 2007
- I think you're missing a couple of key points here in your argument. While I agree that the world is becoming far too cyber and not enough human-to-human interaction, I think you're blaming too much on the internet. No one's stopping you from going outside and you can blame youtube all you want, but eventually people WILL get tired of the cat videos. And it isn't as though friends online aren't friends just because you haven't met them in person. If it were a penpal with real pen and paper, you wouldn't be saying the friendship is invalid. But somehow because the internet is instant it makes the friendship not a true friendship. Unfair, I might add, because one of my closest friends is online and she HAS been there and continues to be there in my times of crisis (and vice versa of course). That's not to say I don't have a real life friend who acts in the same fashion that I see at least once a week. It just means that they are different, but equally valuable friendships.
  
  And I think that a lot of today's youth (a category which I still vaguely fall into) needs to be a little more unplugged and get out there. But it stands to reason that if the world is becoming a cyber community that by NOT participating within that community you are isolating yourself as much as you would be by becoming a hermit within your home. Point, here we are arguing the philosophical value of computers and anti-socialism in the forum that allows for the widest audience to receive our opinions.
  
  And lastly, I think you ended with possibly THE harshest, most unforgiving generalization that you possibly could. "What you end up with is a lonely, unaccomplished person who fails to see he is responsible for his own life and future." Seriously? Have we not realized that it is the anti-social nerds who never quite "fit in" during his pivotal young-years that has mastered the art of building computers, software, and the technology of the future? Technology that we all will inevitably have to learn and end up using on a daily basis. Do you really think that the majority of the youth hasn't figured out that there are consequences to actions? Maybe a lot of people can ignore them (not all of them as young as we'd like to believe and not all of them coming from this new plugged in generation), but there are kids out there coming to hard truths and taking the initiative to make something of their lives at earlier and earlier ages. Some of that's coming from parents, teachers, friends--and yes, even the media. But some of it is coming from a generation of kids that understand that although they have instant gratification, it comes at a price. Kids aren't plugged in just because the media is encouraging them to play violent video games and telling teens that they can meet their soulmates instantly online. It's because there is a market, a job, a secure future in knowing and understanding this new cyber world.
  
  I'm not saying we aren't losing something. I just think you're overlooking a few large factors and taking too wide of steps with your generalizations.
  
  Loners, anti-socialism... I wouldn't make snap judgments about people. They tend to come back and bite you in the ass.
  
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by gone on April 18th, 2007
Television and technology have contributed greatly to a lack of face to face social interaction. It's my belief that anyone who is isolated and watches a lot of television could develop a hatred for society.
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- i wouldnt say i hate society ,i just hate the direction its headed
  
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  by EyePod on April 18th, 2007
- Don't we all?
  
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by jin jang on April 18th, 2007
I don't believe loners hate society at all.Some people require people around all the time to feel complete,and others are confident within themselves.The question is saying that monks and other modes of thinking that requires one to be is solitude much of the time are anti-social.People need time for themselves without the concern of being branded anti-social.
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- well i was asking because ive had feelings of hate towards society.perhaps because they seem not to need anyone but themselves.I can't really say what makes me feel this way
  
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  by EyePod on April 18th, 2007
- Everyone hates society in one way or another for it is just part of life.People need to be alone to recuperate from constant interaction with others.
  
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by peacefullady on October 17th, 2010
I guess people think of me as a loaner and I can sometimes see why they might perceive me as that, but I am not. I do keep to myself a lot if I am surrounded by folks that don't interact with me much, don't seem to be real, or who don't seem like nice people (going by how they are to others and their weird, loud, cruel behavioral ways). I like people when they are nice and more like me, which I never find, so I am by myself much. I don't mind and actually like it often. You can do what you want, think what you want, etc. but it does get lonely too. I really want some good companionship, but can't find it....ever. Even when I thought I had someone cool, they suddenly turn on me and that's it! I love being out in the world too and with people, but certain types who I don't often come across. I do think a bit differently about things and society's ways and it's dictatorial ways, and that makes for a lonely life. It feels weird being in like the 10% of people that hate things about society and who don't care about following it's stupid ways. People expect you to follow it also though and that gets me angry. People just follow follow follow. Why can't people see and be individuals? Being an individual is so important. You have to be true to you and do what's right for you and your soul. I'm not religious, but spiritual, and my soul is very important to me, it's what I'll have forever, so perhaps I'm more serious and care more about all this. For me it's not about just the physical and simply living for fun, any kind of fun no matter what it is or how you hurt others. I don't feel we are here for that. I hate society at times, because it fosters wrong values (and there are TOO many to mentions here) and people still follow it. They stress out to follow it, they step on people to follow it. All phoniness too. They don't see, they follow it like blind cattle or something and make 'you' feel like you are nuts because you don't. I'm a simple person and believe in all the good things in life (love, compassion, caring, truth, niceness, wearing what you want so long as you don't look so freaky and I have to look at you...LOL, etc.)and really care about others and the world, and yet 'I' feel like the alien or something. That pisses me off. People letting society dictate many or every aspect of our lives in some way is horrible and I hate when people (everyone it seems) allow that. Following fashion trends that they see some celebrity wear on some TV show, having the 'all about me' complex, making fun of people because it's fun, being cold to one another, not expressing how you feel, seeing sensitivity, niceness, jealousy, as being weak, looks are everything, sex is everything, what you have and how much money you have is so important, being pretentious, being TOO into sports where people are mean to each other over it, making our culture stuff I don't like nor value, etc. So many things that I do not agree with and I won't agree with it 'just because' some society zombies do and make you think you should too. That is like a dictatorship ruling a country (or ruling your soul), kind of in disguise though, and not done by one person, but MANY!!!! Pretty scary stuff. Lonely, but I gotta be me :( ....... : )
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- I'm surprised that there are people out there like me. I agree with you about being yourself and an individual. But it is true of the other comments that I;ve read, the more phony, you are the more popular you are. We live in a screwed up world. Being nice gets you nowhere. I noticed that it's all the assholes that are popular and are more accepted by society.
  
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  by sweetsourangel on July 9th, 2011
- for the past 30yrs I have been a loner, mostly i have been termed reserved, i have hard a very bad childhood, i suffered sexul abuse by my auncleand during my primary education, i was bullied by girls and boys, and most people only wanted my friendship only because they only wanted to use and abuse me, eversince my child hood it has been shaping my personality and upto today, i have been thriving a lot from being a loner, but on the contrary people think that i am weird as i am most of the times alone,and i can sense hate and evil around me as pple tend to look at me strangely, i have jus spent 2 days in my room just being myself and makes me stronger and i feel more deeply connected to myself spiritualy, suprisingly i am in love with my first girl i fell in love with on my first grade, but she used to bully me then,i remember then when i used to ak m self why pple hate me?, but 18yrs later we are connected but i had forgotten about the past but she apologised to me that she used to beat me up but now we are so much in love and guess wht she is a loner too.
  
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by xxtaytay4everxx on April 12th, 2011
Hmm let me think....
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by Charlie is a girl on June 18th, 2011
It all comes down to,"Is this oart of the brain working or not"? It isn't working in my case either,but I still have a conscience,somewhat differring from traditional.
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by A on June 18th, 2011
Loneliness, perhaps. It doesn't have to be complicated.
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by qwiz246 on December 12th, 2010
I think that I am an expert on this topic having been a loner all my wretched life.
A little love goes a long way and, if you let someone into your life, you might be amazed how much good feeling you have in you. I lived in the dark for many, many years. I hated society with a vengeance and still sometimes have some doubts. Still, having someone to believe and stand by you can change your entire perspective on life for the better. Consider the possibility. take it from a brother who knows the long, dark and angry road. Like the Beatles once said, "All you need is love".
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by drasticmorti on December 12th, 2010
People are just stupid when they're grouped together but when you talk to A person they seem wise enough. Maybe it's just like that people tend to act stupid the more people there are but when there's less and less people they think like good intellectuals but this is from my own experience and could be different to anybody else.
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- I agree with this completely. Whenever I'm at a social event (not that I look for them, but sometimes you can't avoid them), I tend to find one somewhat articulate person and talk to that person for the majority of the time. Usually turns out, they don't really want to work the room either.
  
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by dave79 on December 1st, 2010
Well I've been a loner for pretty much my entire life. I've got a few close friends, but for the most part I've always been the outcast or the square peg that dosen't fit in the round hole. Part of this is my own doing as I very much enjoy being an individualist and contrarian. I think running with the crowd or doing something simply to fit in smacks of a lack of imagination. Sheep. Baaa! Baaa!

Now to address the question of hating society. Yes I very much hate our current society. Why? Here's my reasons:
1) Most people no longer have a concept of good manners, decency, personal responsibility or the idea of "one another". I live in a big city where the problem seems especially bad. As an example today I was trying to cross at a public transit station to get to the trains. Some JERK almost ran me over...literally. If I had been 2-3 feet farther back I would have been in the hospital. This person made NO attempt to stop or slow down! This isn't the first time that's happened. People just don't care anymore...I don't even know if people like this respect or care about themselves. It seems that being kind or saying "excuse me" or "please" is too much effort. Simply PATHETIC!!!!

2)Parents no longer take the time necessary to teach their kids to be respectful, responsible members of society. I've seen numerous parents scream at and cuss their kids out. Either that or they act like the child is a burden or simply ignore them. Do the world a favor! DON'T have kids. Live your own SELFISH lives.

3) Modern technology is a catch 22. The internet is a wonderfuly research and communications tool, but with all our automation it makes it so easy to tune in and drop out. It seems cell phones, ipods/pads etc have replaced interpersonal communication. The majority of people in my area couldn't be bothered to engage in small talk or even say "good morning". They are plugged into their electronic devices.

4) Mindless conformity. People expend an insane amount of time trying to fit in or play a role. Another poster used the term "plastic people" and this is so true! Who gives a rip what some moron thinks of the car we drive or the clothes we wear? Be yourself but don't look down on someone else because they are different.

5)Attitude of entitlement. We are so incredibly blessed in this country, what we take for granted would be considered a luxuary in another place. We constantly talk about what we feel we deserve, our right to this or that. Never do you hear someone discussing personal responsibility. Kids who grow up in ritzy suburbs pick up on this attitude of entitlement. On a few occasions I gave someone I know presents. They happened to be from a thrift store, but they were items that I thought would be of interest to this person because of his hobby. The response I got made me think I was giving away live rattlesnakes. Well EXCUSE ME for not going out and buying the newest and most expensive gift! I've also had people (who make upwards of $100k a year) tell me I "need" to get a new vehicle or that they thought their neighbor would be offended by my old truck. WHATEVER!!

I HATE our society! I see NOTHING that gives me hope for things getting better and that's just sad and depressing.
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by leo.p.vicioues on September 14th, 2010
Fist anti-social people are social they do anti-socail things like stealing and killing and selling hard drugs ect. loners well Iam a loner and I can say that the reason I am a loner is mainly because I do not have the socail skills to interact.
Its funny that some-one put up some mentall disoders and called them anti-socail that is very ignorent in my eyes that just makes a negative bias towards people with mental illness when being anti-socail is more of a personality disorder that the majority suffer from.
many Skitzophernics are very socail same with autistic people so saying that they are loners is just disinformation. I would like to be able to do the things that so called social people do, yet since I suffer from a mentall illness (you do not need to know which one it is) I find society will not give me a chance at life because I am mentally ill and have spent my life dealing with these issues untill society gives up it predjuces towards mentall illness I will be a loner.
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by Elleonora on June 12th, 2007
i am a loner, and even proud to be one, that is just who i am, but i definetely don't hate society. i just love peace and quiet, and lots and lots of it.
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- Me and you both. :)
  
  I'm quiet and seem to attract them toxic people.
  
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by Spice* free Leonard Peltier. on February 8th, 2012
Other people.
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by talshaa on February 8th, 2012
firstly i would like to say admiral woehrle that apocalpse comment scary i have had that very thought, i think it comes from the thought of a simpler time when things were more real, where just the very survival of ones life depends on the hunter gatherer heritage. unfortunately the illusion aspects of our society now create, are one of a false nature, as stated by the comment someone else wrote, you seem to rank higher in the social order if your someone like a certain glamour model, i shall not mention names, where your famous and acrue wealth by being well nothing, a vapid waste of usuable space, that someone useful like a doctor or nurse could be occupying.

i have been a loner most of my life and i do enjoy my own company, but i do long to be able to meet people like myself, now that may sound like im saying my view only is right but its not, i mean people with good core values, like please and thank you, and a genuine ability to care about others,

i think the thing about those like myself, who are loners because of our distaste of society, and this might just be my view point. It breaks my heart seeing how amazing as as race we can be. we are capable of acts of true nobility and compassion, acts that truely mark us to be sentient beings,

we say that we are the most intelligent beings on the planet, i would say that depends on your definition of intelligence
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by talshaa on February 8th, 2012
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by talshaa on February 8th, 2012
firstly i would like to say admiral woehrle that apocalpse comment scary i have had that very thought, i think it comes from the thought of a simpler time when things were more real, where just the very survival of ones life depends on the hunter gatherer heritage. unfortunately the illusion aspects of our society now create, are one of a false nature, as stated by the comment someone else wrote, you seem to rank higher in the social order if your someone like a certain glamour model, i shall not mention names, where your famous and acrue wealth by being well nothing, a vapid waste of usuable space, that someone useful like a doctor or nurse could be occupying.

i have been a loner most of my life and i do enjoy my own company, but i do long to be able to meet people like myself, now that may sound like im saying my view only is right but its not, i mean people with good core values, like please and thank you, and a genuine ability to care about others,

i think the thing about those like myself, who are loners because of our distaste of society, and this might just be my view point. It breaks my heart seeing how amazing as as race we can be. we are capable of acts of true nobility and compassion, acts that truely mark us to be sentient beings,

we say that we are the most intelligent beings on the planet, i would say that depends on your definition of intelligence
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by Truffle on March 21st, 2012
Well, I can answer you with a quote:
"Let me tell you this, if you ever meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them"
-Unknown

Loners don't hate society, society hates loners.
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by fundamentallyflawed on February 8th, 2012
The number of very long answers is interesting and telling.

The short answer is, " people." Look at society and how it treats each other. It's disgusting and some would rather drop out of it than fight it.
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by Sethis on February 8th, 2012
I do not understand the question. Are you including every living human on this planet?
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by waverecon on July 20th, 2011
Are we in grade school perchance? I suspect the inquisitor lacks any type of real understanding of....culture....and needs to start at the beginning of things once again. Culture is a very difficult thing to hate outright as everyone enjoys many aspects of it. No man is an island, and that should be apparent at a very early age barring severe mental disorders.
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by Lawdawg7051 on April 12th, 2011
Some are born with the nature to seek others and to be social animals. others seek solitude.

on a macro scale this is budding evolution through natural selection. when a variable or stressor tests society, we will see who was more fit to survive. it isnt usually a conscious decision. just Nature at work.
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by ramboross on October 7th, 2010
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by ramboross on October 7th, 2010
Loners that hate society? Hmmmmmmm... Well since I am one I think it began because when I was in high school I was small and scrawny. My parents didnt spoil me like a lot of the kids that I attended with so I got picked on a little or at least not taken seriously or treated less than human occasionally and never had the nerve or strength to stand up for myself. Then as I grew older and stronger and caught up to everyone my age, my strength started to outgrow theirs in all aspects other than just muscle.
I have never forgot this and carry it with me to this day. Plus like lady fuschia said one can only say so much about the weather and the monotonous small talk that comes along with conversing with the rest of society while you are out and about in it.

I also seem to feel like the more people I know the more problems that enter my life. Not that I am not a good friend to my current friends and listen when they need someone to talk to about their problems. Im talking about the scum bags that always want something from you. Seems like I meet a lot of these types in the work place. Like someone posted on here, plastic. I call them vampires and zombies. I think cable tv got the best of them and they go around thinking they are soooooo very special and deserve more and need this or need that. Daddys little princesses and Mommas little princes if you will. The ones that are more plastic are paid the highest. Usually I say, by no means always. Why, because its easier for them to screw people over or do things without thinking of how it will effect others or simply by forgetting about morality and ethics. Seeing this in our own human kind makes me withdrawal because I see it in most people nowadays. The tasks people do from day to day is basically to circulate money in modern day society. Its has no deep purpose. The antisocial loners that hate society recognize his. Seems like most of the poor or lower middle class folk are real and non-plastic. Note- I do intend to beat the plastics at their own game though because I understand it.

The thing I love most about modern day society that all the zombies of corporate America havent realized yet or just dont really care because its cool is the cellular phone. I admit I have one. But I also have the strength to turn the darn thing off. Its a leash everyone. Not only can the government track you, possibly even listen to you. People get all tore up over someone that doesnt keep or answer their phone on 24/7. If i dont return your texts or calls its ok. If i dont answer all the time its ok. If i dont call you back until next week its ok. Now I have been noticing this in the last two jobs I have had over the last 8 years. My boss wants me to use mine more so i can answer work calls and emails from it at night.

He tries to make it sound all easy and fun. "Hey why dont you get email on your phone so you can get on your work email and answer ONLY pressing questions." Ya bossman, thats what I want to do at night is read a stressful email about a society zombie complaining about how things are not moving fast enough for them. It can wait, especially when I am not getting paid for my time. Lifes too short to worry about some f#$k. Technology has done this as well because people for some reason like to be stuck up each others butts with all this connecting social networking tech. It makes it hard to be a loner because so many people take it the wrong way when you just want to do your thing on your time and dont want to commit any more time to work or a friendship because its just not what you want to do. The only people I need in my life are God, my Son and my wife. Occasionally seeing my close relatives and friends. Everyone else could disappear tomorrow and I seriously would probably jump for joy. I like to be simple, and I imagine most loners that dislike society are like this and society is anything but simple.

Then you have your psychotic Buffalo Bill types. Thats a whole other story of loner. So basically it comes down to some people have their eyes open and others have their eyes closed but think they have them open.
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by kevin on December 26th, 2010
jus look around you. everything you see is like a well constructed play.
all these prejudices, it's like all people care about is" to be better". to be better than evry one else. nothing is enough. why can't any1 find joy in seeing some1 else happy. no no no.. that triggers a shit thing called ego. the thot of being second..or being happy wer you are nevr occurs. you jus hav to hav more..more thn evry1 else..n are you happy thn?.. nope.. i kno this sounds kinda insane. but this wat i think..
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by leo.p.vicioues on September 14th, 2010
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by leo.p.vicioues on September 14th, 2010
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by MaxPro on May 8th, 2010
Loneliness can be a hellish ride of independence or companionship can be the greatest experience of shared feelings. Striking up a conversation with someone or just saying hello makes life easier and it's more worthwhile the more you do it because people NEED people :)
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by rpgenix on August 30th, 2010
First of all being a loner and being anti-social aren't necessarily the same. Anti-social means you don't want to interact with people outright. As for loners... there are two types. Type 1 are people who prefer to be alone more often then not, BUT that does not mean loners will shun people away at the first opportunity like anti-social people. And type 2 loners are people who are actually lonely, they want to be with people, but something forces them to be loners.

Me? Yeah, I'm in between a type 1 and type 2 loner. If you talk to me... I WILL talk to you. At the same time however, I do have a feeling that I give this vibe that makes me deceptively anti-social. I do admit that I am picky with people and society. Interpretations, perception, portrayals, social trends, culture, social issues... Let's just say I have my ways and because of how "weird" I am it makes things a little harder to make friends. I DO NOT like faking or pretending, especially to fake or pretend for the sake of friendships or "being friendly." But whether I am actually scared of social rejection... I don't know.

Going to social trends... yeah, let's just say I'm even a little bit old school. I'm a college student... but I don't indulge in "those" things. And I'm not even trying to be a goody two shoes... it's just the way I am. But by not doing "those" things in college... It kind of makes me the odd ball I guess... or that's how I feel anyway. And besides my laughable social life (at least right now), it certainly doesn't help to have several questions about the future.

Oh well. Whether I'll change eventually, who knows. I'll say this though, if you are my friend... you really are my friend and not just a "friend." I don't know... I guess keeping your distance and stuff is how I am. Whether this will screw me up in the near of far future... who knows?
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by naraf on February 4th, 2011
Why am I a loner? I was brought up as an only child. Lots of love. Lived in Spain, moved to Canada some 12 years ago. Slowly, ever so slowly started to fit into society. I went through a period of shopping, going out and playing video games. Then, the internet really started to take over and people seemed to become more fake. Buying and having became more than living and loving. Now it is a completely unrecognisable place where I feel I do not fit in. People seem impatient and selfish and from a movie. There is never enough and "keeping up with The Jone's" has taken on a new meaning. So, I choose to stay out of it. I only go into it when I have to. I am no longer "a shopper". I live in the country, I have a computer, but that is as far as it goes. The internet has given us a pathway to reach each other, and I am using that for my art, which is great. It has also opened the door for many time wasting activities, my opinion. You can say anything on the net and get away with it. You can post your feelings without really seeing anyone and not feel face to face bad about doing it. That is why many are selfish and don't give it a second thought. I have seen people walk past an obvious suffering animal, without remorse. As Sarah M would say, "They turn their heads embarrassed, pretend that they don't see". What have we become? Not to get involved is a foreshadowing of what is to come. No longer are we living in a society where seeing pain and suffering sparks human outcry. it doesn't mean everytime you see someone on the street, take them home with you. That would be a full house! Just to have compassion and a nod. Acknowledge them. Like we acknowledge ourselves. I love this world and if that makes me a hippie, a loner, a free thinker or an idealist, then so be it
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by oscarbabe on March 24th, 2011
So many people feel this way, and believe me it is a good thing. You are more aware of the world around you and are not as willing to accept a life of modern slavery as others who have a more closed mind and can't see past this materialistic world that has been purposely created for us. Please, please, please watch Zeitgeist Addendum and Zeitgeist Moving Forward if you haven't already done so. It will give you the answers as to why you feel this way and also offer a solution, if that is what you are looking for.

Zeitgeist Addendum and moving forward can be found here: http://www.zeitgeistmovie.com/
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by andora on February 1st, 2010
Im a loner and i dont hate the society, loner and anti-social arent the same thing. If you just take time to browse www.facebook.com groups, myspace.com, www.loners-club.com and so on you'll see we're just a bunch of normal everyday people who obviously dont hate people, the difference is that we're not necessarily expecting others acceptance or approval to be happy. We just like being ourselves.
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by Jerry_B on June 18th, 2011
These people are probably introverts. They don't generally hate society or prefer to be alone. Introverts are very introspective and very aware of this false stigma given them from this question. No wonder they act the way they do. It's a perfect reflection of how they're treated by others. Introverts actually require time alone to recharge and prefer to think before they speak. They prefer a few close friends rather than a loud crowd. Introverts actually like to have fun they just don't feel a need to share it with everyone. So, hug an introvert today, you just might be surprised. More helpul information on introverts can be found at:
http://relationshipcapital.co/op/?utm_src=bl
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by Sanderthegreat on April 12th, 2011
People annoy the hell out of me. It seems as if everybody are a bunch of tools and/or zombies. Guess what America! I DON'T CARE ABOUT LIL WAYNE.
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by ila on April 12th, 2011
Loners don't necessarily hate society - introverts just prefer to be by themselves most of the time, their energy is oriented inward, and they find it exhausting to spend long time in the company of others. Many introverts even have pretty decent social skills. Extreme loners are asocial, not antisocial.
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by Louise_H6443 on April 12th, 2011
i hate most of society, very rarely do i socialize. i take my boy to school, keep my head down then go home. i wish there was a haven just for me and my son. hes happy so im happy. i also have a mental disorder, not naming it but people chose not to accept me so thats why i choose to be alone.
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by Dmanb90 on April 12th, 2011
you know people just like to slap names on some things this is just really the truth, Some people just like to be alone, They dont want to be with anyone just how some people are.
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by Echo141 on June 18th, 2011
Bullying, Shyness and Being Ostracized by Peers are big ones.
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